I cant beat this one particular sin.

Neostarwcc · May 30, 2024

Ok so pretty much ever since i was a kid until about seven years ago i had a big, big problem with sexual immorality. Big problem. But, God changed me and i havent engaged in sexual immorality in about seven-eight years now.

That's the good news. Now? I'm stuck with another really, really bad and big sin. I'm a pathological liar and oftentimes I'll lie without even thinking about it or caring about the consequences. I lie a lot of times to cover up my other lies to cover up those lies to cover up... well you get the idea. It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit and the Bible says there's always a way of escape but I just don't see it. All I see are lies to cover up my other lies.

I've talked to my pastor about it and he told me that since I've been making zero progress in my pathological lying that I need to repent and accept Jesus. Great advice, no really I'm not being sarcastic. But I can repent and accept Jesus until the cows come home and my lying doesn't get any better. In fact, many times I lie without even thinking about the consequences or caring that God hates it and that God will judge all who love to lie. Only I hate to lie, I just do it pathologically without thinking. But it's like my pastor said, no sin is outside of God's control and God's ability to forgive and to change even the pathological ones. But, when I kicked my sexual immorality habbit it wasn't due to any effort of my own I just one day stopped sinning and stopped engaging in sexual immorality. I thought it was a sin that I would never break yet, God broke it for me. But, I can't rely on God to break my every sin. The Bible says that part of our victory over sin is obtainable on our own with God's help. But, I do really like that I didn't lie today. And that I'm not lying now at least sometimes I'm capable of the truth...

Unqualified · May 30, 2024

When you lie correct yourself in front of the person and tell the truth. It’s a start on the ones you see. Maybe you’ll be so embarrassed that you will stop. I lie in a kidding way sometimes-be bizarre but I always correct myself right then and there and don’t let it slide. Maybe people shouldn’t trust you so much. With the correction the truth will come out and interaction and trust then maybe. You can’t just let it slide because you know and you can rat on yourself and put truth first.

d taylor · May 30, 2024

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Well how do we know now, you are not lying.

...My advice is if you have never believed in Jesus for God's free gift of Eternal Life. Do this before you die, because that is what counts in the next life. That is, will you enter into eternity with the Life of God in you. If you believe in Jesus for The life of God you will enter into eternity with the Life of God. You may still be a liar but at least you will be a liar who has the free gift of The life of God and will spend eternity with God (and all other born again believers) on the new earth.

Neostarwcc · May 30, 2024

Unqualified said:
When you lie correct yourself in front of the person and tell the truth. It’s a start on the ones you see. Maybe you’ll be so embarrassed that you will stop. I lie in a kidding way sometimes-be bizarre but I always correct myself right then and there and don’t let it slide. Maybe people shouldn’t trust you so much. With the correction the truth will come out and interaction and trust then maybe. You can’t just let it slide because you know and you can rat on yourself and put truth first.

Well the thing is I do a lot of things that get me in trouble so a lot of the times I will lie to either soften the blow on me or soften the blow on them. I need to learn to accept responsibility for my actions no matter what the consequences because no matter hoe bad the consequences may be in this life the consequences would be much worse in the next life if I don't repent, you know? There isn't a thing that man can do to me that should be more terrifying than what God can and will do to liars and adulterers. Besides there is no "softening the blow" oftentimes when your lies get found out you're in worse trouble than you would have been if you just told the truth. Lies are just poison.

Teresa W. · May 31, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
Well the thing is I do a lot of things that get me in trouble

I think this is the key. If you aren't getting into trouble, you won't have that to lie about.

Can you seek therapy? Or does your pastor provide therapy sessions?

Neostarwcc · May 31, 2024

Teresa W. said:
I think this is the key. If you aren't getting into trouble, you won't have that to lie about.

Can you seek therapy? Or does your pastor provide therapy sessions?

He doesn't but he and I are going to discuss it this Sunday when I see him.

Diamond72 · May 31, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit

We are told to abide in the truth and the truth will set us free. Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him and He will bring it to pass. So trust in God and He will not disappoint you.

Valletta · Jun 1, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
Ok so pretty much ever since i was a kid until about seven years ago i had a big, big problem with sexual immorality. Big problem. But, God changed me and i havent engaged in sexual immorality in about seven-eight years now.

That's the good news. Now? I'm stuck with another really, really bad and big sin. I'm a pathological liar and oftentimes I'll lie without even thinking about it or caring about the consequences. I lie a lot of times to cover up my other lies to cover up those lies to cover up... well you get the idea. It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit and the Bible says there's always a way of escape but I just don't see it. All I see are lies to cover up my other lies.

I've talked to my pastor about it and he told me that since I've been making zero progress in my pathological lying that I need to repent and accept Jesus. Great advice, no really I'm not being sarcastic. But I can repent and accept Jesus until the cows come home and my lying doesn't get any better. In fact, many times I lie without even thinking about the consequences or caring that God hates it and that God will judge all who love to lie. Only I hate to lie, I just do it pathologically without thinking. But it's like my pastor said, no sin is outside of God's control and God's ability to forgive and to change even the pathological ones. But, when I kicked my sexual immorality habbit it wasn't due to any effort of my own I just one day stopped sinning and stopped engaging in sexual immorality. I thought it was a sin that I would never break yet, God broke it for me. But, I can't rely on God to break my every sin. The Bible says that part of our victory over sin is obtainable on our own with God's help. But, I do really like that I didn't lie today. And that I'm not lying now at least sometimes I'm capable of the truth...

Try being silent for as long as possible, and then maybe count to ten before you say something.

com7fy8 · Jun 1, 2024

If people care about us, we should not treat them like they are trustworthy.

Neostarwcc · Jun 3, 2024

Thanks for the tips guys. My pastor and I discussed this is great lengths over email and last night. Basically what he told me was that he was mistaken when I told him I was making no progress on my lying he thought I meant no progress on sin at all and that's why he told me to accept Jesus and to repent. He didn't realize that I had already made strides against sin in the past (he didn't know me when I was an adulterers sleezeball who was addicted to looking at other women and listing after them) so since I was making no sanctifying progress he thought I didn't have have a relationship with Jesus and needed to get one in order to have victory over sin.

Anyway, since God helped me in the past he encouraged me to do the same exact thing go to God in prayer again and beg him to remove lying from my life because like adultery lying is another sin that God doesn't approve of and that he would like removed from my life. So thanks to both of your advice I've been trying to be a better person for it.

BTW, our pastors sermon yesterday was about sin and about the dangers of letting sin take a hold of your life and just how dangerous sin is. It was a very good sermon and I have a feeling he preached it because he knew that i was going to be there that day. Lol.

irenevictoria · Jun 3, 2024

If it's causing you distress, sometimes it's a good idea to go to a physician. You said you tried your best, and it's still persisting, next I think is to reach out to someone who can help.

trophy33 · Jun 4, 2024

Specific problems and specific people in specific environment need specific solutions.

You need to figure out what works for you, specifically. It may be various things, like stopping talking so that you will learn to be silent instead of lying (or/and some social isolation if needed, to find your balance), stopping doing things you automatically lie about, some mental training, focus training (so that you realize every word you are saying), a change of environment... you can try various strategies and you will see what works.

Diamond72 · Jun 4, 2024

irenevictoria said:
If it's causing you distress, sometimes it's a good idea to go to a physician.

If we are in distress then we need to pray it through and draw ever closer to God. We get distressed when we get away from God. In the song it is well with my soul. He had lost his family but he drew near to God and was given peace.

Richard T · Jun 4, 2024

Some people with a lying problem get relief from deliverance. Since no one else mentioned this possibility I thought I would so you can study up on it if you think it might help. DEALING WITH LYING SPIRIT i do not know this particular ministry of the link but just google deliverance and lying and there are lots of ministries that address this.

Grip Docility · Jun 19, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
Ok so pretty much ever since i was a kid until about seven years ago i had a big, big problem with sexual immorality. Big problem. But, God changed me and i havent engaged in sexual immorality in about seven-eight years now.

That's the good news. Now? I'm stuck with another really, really bad and big sin. I'm a pathological liar and oftentimes I'll lie without even thinking about it or caring about the consequences. I lie a lot of times to cover up my other lies to cover up those lies to cover up... well you get the idea. It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit and the Bible says there's always a way of escape but I just don't see it. All I see are lies to cover up my other lies.

I've talked to my pastor about it and he told me that since I've been making zero progress in my pathological lying that I need to repent and accept Jesus. Great advice, no really I'm not being sarcastic. But I can repent and accept Jesus until the cows come home and my lying doesn't get any better. In fact, many times I lie without even thinking about the consequences or caring that God hates it and that God will judge all who love to lie. Only I hate to lie, I just do it pathologically without thinking. But it's like my pastor said, no sin is outside of God's control and God's ability to forgive and to change even the pathological ones. But, when I kicked my sexual immorality habbit it wasn't due to any effort of my own I just one day stopped sinning and stopped engaging in sexual immorality. I thought it was a sin that I would never break yet, God broke it for me. But, I can't rely on God to break my every sin. The Bible says that part of our victory over sin is obtainable on our own with God's help. But, I do really like that I didn't lie today. And that I'm not lying now at least sometimes I'm capable of the truth...

James 5:16 Confess therefore your sins one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The supplication of a righteous man availeth much in its working.

1 John 1:8

You may tell some tall tails, but the Truth most definitely resides within your soul!

All Love to you, my Brother in Jesus. You are now within the prayers of my Soul. Please pray for me, as well!

com7fy8 · Jun 20, 2024

But what are you doing that you are lying about? Those might be sins, too.

And there can be things you do or don't do, which could be helping to keep you so you can lie.

Philippians 2:14 says not to argue or complain. Arguing and complaining are anti-love, then. And so, they can help to keep us the wrong way so we are not loving people and therefore we are ready to lie to people.

And we need to stay forgiving, and ready to forgive, so we are like Jesus and love like Jesus. Jesus is creative so He doesn't lie.

Godcrazy · Jun 21, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
Ok so pretty much ever since i was a kid until about seven years ago i had a big, big problem with sexual immorality. Big problem. But, God changed me and i havent engaged in sexual immorality in about seven-eight years now.

That's the good news. Now? I'm stuck with another really, really bad and big sin. I'm a pathological liar and oftentimes I'll lie without even thinking about it or caring about the consequences. I lie a lot of times to cover up my other lies to cover up those lies to cover up... well you get the idea. It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit and the Bible says there's always a way of escape but I just don't see it. All I see are lies to cover up my other lies.

I've talked to my pastor about it and he told me that since I've been making zero progress in my pathological lying that I need to repent and accept Jesus. Great advice, no really I'm not being sarcastic. But I can repent and accept Jesus until the cows come home and my lying doesn't get any better. In fact, many times I lie without even thinking about the consequences or caring that God hates it and that God will judge all who love to lie. Only I hate to lie, I just do it pathologically without thinking. But it's like my pastor said, no sin is outside of God's control and God's ability to forgive and to change even the pathological ones. But, when I kicked my sexual immorality habbit it wasn't due to any effort of my own I just one day stopped sinning and stopped engaging in sexual immorality. I thought it was a sin that I would never break yet, God broke it for me. But, I can't rely on God to break my every sin. The Bible says that part of our victory over sin is obtainable on our own with God's help. But, I do really like that I didn't lie today. And that I'm not lying now at least sometimes I'm capable of the truth...

Yes you need God to help. When it's that strong you need God. Evil try to poke the flames too that's how it's hard to get out. Start how it happens. Especially your thinking. Change your thinking habits. Develop a plan what to do when the first lie comes. Get away, shut your mouth you get the picture. Take accountability right away.
Get a accountability partner

dayhiker · Jul 11, 2024

Neostarwcc said:
Ok so pretty much ever since i was a kid until about seven years ago i had a big, big problem with sexual immorality. Big problem. But, God changed me and i havent engaged in sexual immorality in about seven-eight years now.

That's the good news. Now? I'm stuck with another really, really bad and big sin. I'm a pathological liar and oftentimes I'll lie without even thinking about it or caring about the consequences. I lie a lot of times to cover up my other lies to cover up those lies to cover up... well you get the idea. It doesn't matter how hard I try I can't kick this habit and the Bible says there's always a way of escape but I just don't see it. All I see are lies to cover up my other lies.

I've talked to my pastor about it and he told me that since I've been making zero progress in my pathological lying that I need to repent and accept Jesus. Great advice, no really I'm not being sarcastic. But I can repent and accept Jesus until the cows come home and my lying doesn't get any better. In fact, many times I lie without even thinking about the consequences or caring that God hates it and that God will judge all who love to lie. Only I hate to lie, I just do it pathologically without thinking. But it's like my pastor said, no sin is outside of God's control and God's ability to forgive and to change even the pathological ones. But, when I kicked my sexual immorality habbit it wasn't due to any effort of my own I just one day stopped sinning and stopped engaging in sexual immorality. I thought it was a sin that I would never break yet, God broke it for me. But, I can't rely on God to break my every sin. The Bible says that part of our victory over sin is obtainable on our own with God's help. But, I do really like that I didn't lie today. And that I'm not lying now at least sometimes I'm capable of the truth...

I don't get why you feel the need to lie. Do you not think about what you are going to say?

I cant beat this one particular sin.

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