I am waiting to miscarry...........

[jacquidube]

I was told at 6 weeks that my pregnancy wasnt progressing. I am now 11 weeks and still no sign of a miscarriage. I have been sent home to miscarry naturally.
Does anyone know how long it will take to miscarry naturally and what is the safest time that I can wait.

I am getting alittle worried. I prefer to miscarry naturally. Will I eventually miscarry or will I have to have some help?
Thankyou so much for any information given.

All my love Jacqui. x x x x

 

[BrokenANDStained]

I was told at 6 weeks that my pregnancy wasnt progressing. I am now 11 weeks and still no sign of a miscarriage. I have been sent home to miscarry naturally.
Does anyone know how long it will take to miscarry naturally and what is the safest time that I can wait.

I am getting alittle worried. I prefer to miscarry naturally. Will I eventually miscarry or will I have to have some help?
Thankyou so much for any information given.

All my love Jacqui. x x x x

Jacqui, I am So sorry to hear that. I found out yesterday that my wife and I lost our 12 week old baby, it's heart just stopped beating. I am taking her to the doc. today. I talked to the doc yesterday about this same thing she said that it could be days or weeks but you will start to cramp very bad, you can contact your doc. for better pain pills if needed.

I'm sorry for your loss I will pray for peace of heart for you. Don

 

[blessedmomof5]

I am sorry to hear about that news but may i ask how they new that information? usually, u would have miscarried by now? has the dr not wanted to see you back yet? have you called him? because after 12 weeks i believe it is not called miscarriage anymore.... see in the beginning of a pregancy your hcg # double every 2 days and when they do not or when the are not where the should be there is something off, or maybe through an u/s? please write back you have me concerned....and please call the dr.

 

[jacquidube]

I am sorry to hear about that news but may i ask how they new that information? usually, u would have miscarried by now? has the dr not wanted to see you back yet? have you called him? because after 12 weeks i believe it is not called miscarriage anymore.... see in the beginning of a pregancy your hcg # double every 2 days and when they do not or when the are not where the should be there is something off, or maybe through an u/s? please write back you have me concerned....and please call the dr.

Hello Blessedmom. Thankyou for being concerned, Bless you.
I had my first scan at 6 weeks and 5 days but they told me that I was only 5 weeks. They asked me to go back in a week which I did and I was 6 weeks but no baby. I should of been 7 weeks and 5 days. They told me to go back a week later again, had my scan but this time no change. The sac was there and the yolk, so they said I am sorry but you have had a missed miscarriage. I said I would like to miscarry naturally like I normally do ( this is my 5th miscarriage ) and I have been waiting ever since. I am 11 weeks and 1 day today and I have no cramping or spotting. My boobs still really hurt but thats about it. I can feel a hard lump in my stomach which is just slightly below my navel where the baby should be and has been all this time. I did ring the early pregnancy unit last monday and they just said leave it another week. I have a normal discharge and no odour so everything just looks fine.
I am just worried about whats going on inside.
Any advice you can give me would be great.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

 

[jacquidube]

Jacqui, I am So sorry to hear that. I found out yesterday that my wife and I lost our 12 week old baby, it's heart just stopped beating. I am taking her to the doc. today. I talked to the doc yesterday about this same thing she said that it could be days or weeks but you will start to cramp very bad, you can contact your doc. for better pain pills if needed.

I'm sorry for your loss I will pray for peace of heart for you. Don

Don I am very sorry that you and your wife are going through this. Its hard to cope with something as traumatic as this.
Have you decided to wait to miscarry naturally?
Let me know what you have decided. Was this your first child?
I will pray for you both, though sometimes we find it hard to know what to say to God as it is all in His hands.
keep in touch.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

 

[blessedmomof5]

How about a trip to the ER? hey thats what i would do, i think it is sad that they ae just making you wait like this, you could get infections.....which could cause future problems getting pregnant.... just a suggestion, and maybe finding a new dr would be a good idea, could they havemissed the baby? did they do your HCG levels? were they doubling? thats is the sure way to tell?
I am praying for you well being and end to all this worry for you,

 

[BrokenANDStained]

Don I am very sorry that you and your wife are going through this. Its hard to cope with something as traumatic as this.
Have you decided to wait to miscarry naturally?
Let me know what you have decided. Was this your first child?
I will pray for you both, though sometimes we find it hard to know what to say to God as it is all in His hands.
keep in touch.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

Hi Jacqui, I will give you a little back ground first on myself and family. I have four boys my 2 oldest are my step sons 19 & 15, my oldest is 9 and my 2 year old died last year Feb. 19th. We felt blessed that we where having another baby After Jake's death. We just got out of the hospital yesterday. My wife and I are doing as well as can be.

I'm not sure what to say to you, but take it from someone how has lost 2 sons in one year "don't loose faith" . Be mad at God if you like but don't turn from him. Just wake up every day and make it work. Just get thru that day.

I don't know if you want to hear about what we had to do at the hospital let me know if you do. God Bless You Don

 

[jacquidube]

Hi Jacqui, I will give you a little back ground first on myself and family. I have four boys my 2 oldest are my step sons 19 & 15, my oldest is 9 and my 2 year old died last year Feb. 19th. We felt blessed that we where having another baby After Jake's death. We just got out of the hospital yesterday. My wife and I are doing as well as can be.

I'm not sure what to say to you, but take it from someone how has lost 2 sons in one year "don't loose faith" . Be mad at God if you like but don't turn from him. Just wake up every day and make it work. Just get thru that day.

I don't know if you want to hear about what we had to do at the hospital let me know if you do. God Bless You Don

Hi Don, Yes it would be nice if you told me about what happened at the hospital. I am so saddened that your son Jake died at such a young age. I cannot imagine how you must of felt.
How are you both coping with things?
I have just got back from the hospital and they sent me home for another 2 weeks saying it was safe to do so. So I am happy with that. I am not mad at God though I do wonder why things happen like this in life. I have 5 children waiting for me in heaven.
I really do feel for you and your wife and family. Your faith sounds solid.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

 

[BrokenANDStained]

Hi Don, Yes it would be nice if you told me about what happened at the hospital. I am so saddened that your son Jake died at such a young age. I cannot imagine how you must of felt.
How are you both coping with things?
I have just got back from the hospital and they sent me home for another 2 weeks saying it was safe to do so. So I am happy with that. I am not mad at God though I do wonder why things happen like this in life. I have 5 children waiting for me in heaven.
I really do feel for you and your wife and family. Your faith sounds solid.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

Thank You, let me start with what happened with the doc.
We had a consult. our doc said that she could go to the hospital that day, they gave my wife some pills to put in her mouth she had to let them melt in her mouth, they also put her on a morphine drip for the pain, we were told this could take 6 hours to 3 days each woman reacts diffrently to the meds.

We started at 11:00 pm the pills caused her to cramp and go into labor. She vomited 2 times due to the pills, but this is normal. Then at 9:05 she vomited one last time then the baby came out with the placenta. She got to hold our baby. we cried alot but we had family with us for support.

If the placenta does not come out then she would have had to get a D & C. They would have put her under to perform this. God willing we did not have to go thru this.

I have told my wife about yo and we prey that everything will go well for you.

 

[brokenheart]

I was told at 6 weeks that my pregnancy wasnt progressing. I am now 11 weeks and still no sign of a miscarriage. I have been sent home to miscarry naturally.
Does anyone know how long it will take to miscarry naturally and what is the safest time that I can wait.

I am getting alittle worried. I prefer to miscarry naturally. Will I eventually miscarry or will I have to have some help?
Thankyou so much for any information given.

All my love Jacqui. x x x x

You have my heart, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I don't know that anyone can really say how long it "should" take. My first miscarriage showed itself to me at 12 weeks, but my doctor told me that my child had perished at around 5 or 6 weeks. I had no idea over a month that I wasn't still expecting. My next miscarriage I began bleeding just a few days after my baby died. We know this because he was alive on an ultrasound just the week before. My last miscarriage I never bled because I had a D&C before my body could catch up with what the doctor showed my on the ultrasound.
My best advice is to keep in touch with your doctor. If you don't show any signs of miscarriage at 12 weeks I'd give the doc a call just to let them know and ask if/when they might want to see you. I think there might be something they can give you to help your uterus contract. Not saying this is the answer because it's such a personal thing... you should do what you feel the most comfortable with. For me that was a D&C. Especially the third time around. I just wanted to go to sleep and wake up an pretend nothing happened. Of course, that's not how it came to pass, but I wasn't emotionally prepared to deal with letting the miscarriage progress naturally.
I'll keep you in my prayers. Lean on Jesus and He will carry you through this. I promise you that.

 

[b.a.t]

My heart goes out to anyone in this situation. I think it is just inhumane making you wait like that. I had a stillbirth 15 yrs ago and a friend of mine went through something similar as you are now. where she was sent home at 32 weeks even though the baby was dead. She was then taken back in at 35 weeks and was started off into labour and delivered the baby herself.
The only thing that gets people through times like these are having lots of friends around to talk to and FAITH.

 

[jacquidube]

You have my heart, I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I don't know that anyone can really say how long it "should" take. My first miscarriage showed itself to me at 12 weeks, but my doctor told me that my child had perished at around 5 or 6 weeks. I had no idea over a month that I wasn't still expecting. My next miscarriage I began bleeding just a few days after my baby died. We know this because he was alive on an ultrasound just the week before. My last miscarriage I never bled because I had a D&C before my body could catch up with what the doctor showed my on the ultrasound.
My best advice is to keep in touch with your doctor. If you don't show any signs of miscarriage at 12 weeks I'd give the doc a call just to let them know and ask if/when they might want to see you. I think there might be something they can give you to help your uterus contract. Not saying this is the answer because it's such a personal thing... you should do what you feel the most comfortable with. For me that was a D&C. Especially the third time around. I just wanted to go to sleep and wake up an pretend nothing happened. Of course, that's not how it came to pass, but I wasn't emotionally prepared to deal with letting the miscarriage progress naturally.
I'll keep you in my prayers. Lean on Jesus and He will carry you through this. I promise you that.

Thankyou brokenheart. I feel quite emotional as I have been back to the hospital on monday and they are quite happy to leave me another 2 weeks. The doctor was wonderful and truly believed that I should wait for a natural miscarriage. The hospital I went to dont give anything to start the miscarriage off unfortunately because I did ask for that.
I am happy to wait again. I will be 12 weeks tomorrow. They want me to wait until I am 13 weeks and 3 days.
Today I have headaches which I dont normally get and I felt some hot liquid come out of me but it was clear. sorry for TMI.
I will be happy when it happens. It will be my 5th miscarriage.
I am so sorry to hear you have been through the same. Its hard isnt it. I am so glad you are strong in your faith. I want to be so strong but I dont feel God right now. Why cant I allow the world to continue and let God help me. I struggle so much. I want to get things right with Him. I am torn I guess and confused.
Thankyou so much for being there and concerned.
All my love Jacqui. x x x x

 

[brokenheart]

Jacqui,
Be sure if your headache gets bad you let your doctor know. Sometimes it can be a sign of a serious problem... wish I could tell you more, but only know that this is a warning sign in one of my books.

Sometimes we don't feel God, but we know He's there. Sometimes we question whether He's there at all. I've been there so many times. I know that it's hard to believe that He loves us the way the Bible says when we are allowed to suffer without explanation. I've come to the conclusion that we weren't meant to understand everything. It's more about faith in the Lord, that He is in control. One of the hardest parts of miscarriage for me was realizing that I really didn't have control over my own body. No matter what I wanted or how well I took care of myself, my babies continued to leave me before I was ready to say goodbye. I had no power to change it. That was soo hard for me and is what really took me into a dark place for a long time. I finally allowed God to reassure me that HE was in control and that I didn't need to try so hard. It was all in His hands and He would carry me if I let Him... so I did. This was so much more a heart thing than a head thing. Just be sure you don't try and use human reasoning to find a way to escape the hurt... let it be the Lord that comforts you and brings you peace.
You will get through this... I promise you. Right now you're in a bad spot because you can't even think about healing from this loss, because in many ways it's still pending. Your baby is with the Lord, but your body isn't ready to let go of the pregnancy. I never had to deal with what you are now. I have tears in my eyes just thinking about how you must feel. I'm soo sorry my friend. Please post here as often as you need to talk about it, but always go to the Lord first. I'll check back often.
Your in my prayers.

 

[GodsGirl]

Oh Jaci

We are praying for you here at home. Sweetie how tough. We lost our second one at 11weeks and it took me an additional 3 weeks to natually miscarry. As suggested I would stay in contact with your doctor. If it gets emotionally too much for you to wait (which is very common, I don't think I could of lasted much longer. ) call the doctor and let him know. Studies have found that with natually miscarring it prevents less scaring for the next time around . (Which is why I opted for it since I had scaring from my etopic the time before.. ) By the way, when you really start to miscarry you will know about a couple hours before it starts really going, ask a loved one that you would feel comfortable with if your hubby cant be threre (mine was on his way home from work) to come over. It helps a great deal to not go though it alone.

Praying for you and for your body to become healthy and to happen soon.

Love , GG.

 

[ftw1029]

My little sister is pregnant for the first time and also waiting to miscarry. Several weeks ago the doctors told her the baby's heart is fatally flawed and the baby will either die inside her or will be stillborn. She is like 6 months pregnant now and the baby is still alive, but it is too small. I guess we should pray for a miracle, but it is hard to have faith. It is hard to be comforting because she is far away.

 

[jacquidube]

My little sister is pregnant for the first time and also waiting to miscarry. Several weeks ago the doctors told her the baby's heart is fatally flawed and the baby will either die inside her or will be stillborn. She is like 6 months pregnant now and the baby is still alive, but it is too small. I guess we should pray for a miracle, but it is hard to have faith. It is hard to be comforting because she is far away.

FTW I am so sorry to hear about your little sister. It must be really agonising for her. I think what you said is correct, that we need to pray for a miracle.
Lord I lift FTW sister to you and I ask by your power that you will heal and allow her little sisters baby to grow to a normal size for the 6 months she is at right now. Lord only you can do this and we trust in your great love for us. I also pray for a new heart for this little one and also for FTW sister. Lord the doctors will leave this but I know you wont.I pray all this in Jesus name, Amen.