I am struggle with my life...

[ThreeLs545]

Hi,
I am new at this website. I am looking for someone who can encourage me and give me the best advice.
Short story....
I am 22 years old and I became Christian year and half ago. Before that I had a few sex with girls and boys. (I had a horrible life in the past. TERRIBLE SITUATION). After i became Christian and I really want to follow the Lord and I complete understand that all things I had done are sins but for some reason I am still thinking for sex. I want to have sex, but I haven't do anything lately. I can feel that I start thinking more and more. I am afraid that I will distract and become do wrong things again. I really don't want to do that. I am very struggle with that for over a year. I don't understand myself because I know that Lord had the best plan for my life, and I should have be patient. I tried, yet i can see that I am starting to think all wrong things again.
Do you have that experince?
If so, can you share with me....
Also, do anyone know how to solve this problem? I tried so many times.
THanks for your time

 

[dave007]

Do not worry
Many men and woman struggle with sexuality, it's absolutely normal.
Whatever you have done in the past, God will forgive you.
Just keep trying to drive those thoughts out of your mind, it definietly won't be easy but you have to keep trying. Pray alot, talk to God when you start thinking about it.
When you fail, see how failure feels, see how filthy you feel. This will help you more and more...

Best wishes!

 

[Johnnz]

A troubled background can often result in sexual behaviour for comfort, belonging, love etc. Also, you are sexually experienced. That has awakened you sexually and that does not just vanish when you bcome a Christian.

Its just not an easy trip living with your sexuality after you have become a Christian.

Feel free to PM me if you want to talk about your past.

John
NZ

 

[Annoula]

dear friend,

because you became a christian it doesn't mean that the sexoual urge would go away.

sex is one of the basic instincts of the human nature, it is like food. we need food in order to survive. we need sex so that the human race will survive (through children).

don't push yourself a lot over this issue. every single person in this planet and every single christian struggles with this. it is natural and you are absolutely normal.

christianity sees sexoual relationships in a marriage as proper. have you thought of having a serious relationship that will go on to marriage?

please have in mind that sometimes the more we struggle to avoid something, the more this "something" comes back worse. this is why i believe that loosening up is a better approach in whatever we try to avoid.

if we open up to the world and its people we will see that there are so many other things very interesting and even better than a mere sexoual act.

you are a young person, don't push yourself, keep calm and open up to other experiences and knowledge too.

take care, and God bless you.

 

[2401 Penitent Tangent]

Congragulations, you just completed one the hardest parts of the fight against this. You have ammitted your wrong to other people. Now you can start winning this battle

I have similar problem with lust. Mine are two hated words called porn and masturbation. If you feel yourself slipping, run to God for help. Read the bible, pray and GET AWAY from anything that's tempting you. Also stay busy, these thing happen usually when you're bored. Remember, with the Lord's help anything is possible. Love God, treat him as your companion in life as he is the one who will deliver you from sin. Keep fighting, I'm praying for you.

ps. An accountibilty partner really helped me. You give them a report of how you did during the day. If you give in you tell them and they help you and give you advice. Mine is a guy named Sam, but he is quite busy lately and can't give me advice the way he used to. If you wanted to, we could act as each other's accountibilty partners. Give me a PM if you're interested.

 

[headedhome]

Many of us have and do struggle with sin, especially sexual sin. I have found that for me to deal with this I have to focus on Jesus more and more. I do this by staying active in the Word, Bible study, church, prayer, and even coming on here. If I allow my focus to get off Christ, then I start to wander off. I constantly have to stay focused on Jesus. Yes I stil struggle but not with the sexual sin I did, unless I allow myself to. Thankfully the Holy Spirit dosen't stop convicting me of my sins. Its up to me to take control of my thoughts and turn from sin, becoming at peace with The Holy Spirit. I can't do it on my own though, another reason I need to stay focused on Jesus. It's so easy to slip. God is faithful though and if He is living in you, He cannot deny Himself, so He will draw you close to Him, let Him, don't fight. It's a lot more pleasant to go with God.

 

[LivingRightForGod]

I have been where you are. And it is very hard to stop thinking about sex. I use to have sex with men and women so I know exactly where you are coming from. I have now given my life to the lord and I am praying that these temptations will stop and that I will be able to get rid of all the porn videos that I have in my house.

Very very hard so I will pray for you.