I am so messed up.

[grayED]

Please bear with me.

I've again fallen into an old sin of mine, which is pornography, masturbation and lust. I've been free from it before, for a few months. Thing is, now I don't feel as much remorse as I used to, and I fall so easily even by the slightest of temptations. Frankly, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel confused and abandoned. Somehow I want to go back to God, and yet something in me (oh how I hate to say it) likes the sinful things I do. I'm worried that since I don't feel remorse, my heart is too hardened already.

Please pray for me...

 

[singpeace]

Hi grayED.

First, know you are not alone. We as Christians need to help each other and hold each other accountable. We must respond to this with love.

If someone is born of God then they should feel guilt instantly for committing the sin of lust and especially following through with the actions to follow. If you do not feel horrible after viewing pornography, then you have got some serious soul searching to do. If you do feel guilty, then the Spirit is within you battling your flesh, making you feel those feelings of guilt. You still must respond.

You must rely on God, surrender your life to Him, and trust that He will carry you through. He will help you. He will place others in your life who can hold you accountable and place you in their life for the same reason. I urge you to join a Samson Society in your area. There are men there who understand what you are going through and are willing to help.



Let me further urge you to go to this website:

One Over 99 Ministry - OneOver99.org: Breaking The Chains of Porn

Dr. Howard Hendricks studied 250 men who without a doubt were committed to Jesus Christ in full time ministry. Of the 250 men 246 failed due to sexual immorality. After interviewing the 246 he discovered:

* None were involved in any kind of accountability group.

* Each had ceased to invest in daily time of personal prayer, scripture reading and worship.

* Over 80% of them became sexually involved with another woman as the result of counseling the woman.

* Without exception, each of the 246 had been convinced that moral failure "It will never happen to me."

 

[Blueforest]

Have you ever thought about, I don't know, finding a great girl and one day getting married?

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Have you ever thought about, I don't know, finding a great girl and one day getting married?

That's great and all, but even that will not free a sexual addict.

 

[Blueforest]

That's great and all, but even that will not free a sexual addict.

I agree that man should not be mastered by anything and must practice self-control, but he is running into trouble because he lacks a partner. The very fact that he is stumbling here shows his need for a mate. Condemning this poor soul to a curse of a lifetime of celibacy would be the same as condemning a thirsty man to die in a barren desert.

 

[SoldierOfSoul]

Please bear with me.

I've again fallen into an old sin of mine, which is pornography, masturbation and lust. I've been free from it before, for a few months. Thing is, now I don't feel as much remorse as I used to, and I fall so easily even by the slightest of temptations. Frankly, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel confused and abandoned. Somehow I want to go back to God, and yet something in me (oh how I hate to say it) likes the sinful things I do. I'm worried that since I don't feel remorse, my heart is too hardened already.

Please pray for me...

I will pray brother and I see your heart in this post, although regret is important when we seek holiness in our life, we must not let it rule our heart for long. Jesus loves you and you are accepted and declared justified (just if you never sinned) on behalf of His atoning blood not on your works.

You also must see that you have two natures now, you have your old sinful nature from Adam that is still in your members. But you also have the new nature of Christ through the Holy Spirit that hates this sin (and all sin) and desires holiness and wants to be pleasing to God, these two are contrary to eachother and you will be caught in the middle of this fight for your will, the rest of your life on earth. The part you play in it is nothing less then who you choose to live for (your flesh or the Spirit).

Also, you are a man and like all men you like women, you like to see women naked, you will always have this desire. But the bible says that the only lawful outlet for these desires is through marriage so you are not allowed (in Christ) to act on these impulses to fulfill your fleshly longings outside the bounds of marriage.

With the above in mind, you need to take a stand against impurity in your life, stop asking God to take the desires away, you may have the desires the rest of your life...your a man so I'm sure you will, if you continue to have the desires or not, just choose not to use them in a unlawful way (sinful). You can use your sexuality to glorify Christ, it's a hard and long road but it can be done. I have had problems with this as well brother and I know where your coming from, just keep the faith and know that God sees your heart, you will be free one day.

Blessings.

 

[LWB]

GrayED, you should not feel troubled that your flesh is not remorseful. Of course the flesh likes carnal pleasure. Better to admit this truth and recognise your absolute powerlessness, than to feign remorse and continue with the delusion of self-righteousness.

It is through an awareness and appreciation of your weakness that you will depend and rely upon the grace of Christ more and more. You cannot remain sinless, for you are broken and powerless. But the good news is that a NEW YOU, that is Christ Jesus, has accomplished the impossible on your behalf. Identify with Christ and trust in him, this is your task.