Paul tells us that no one will escape the judgement that there is not one just person. We will be judged for our sins.Ill have my day just like everyone else whether we accept him or not.
I don't know if I can help you. I recommend you read Hebrews 10 carefully.
We cannot save ourselves. You also can't earn grace through actions, otherwise it wouldn't be grace. If you believe in Jesus and are eternal punished, then God would have lied. The more we absorb the truth, the closer we get to it. To understand the correct interpretation of the Judgment Seat of Christ, you must also absorb the other Bible passages.
27 My sheep hear my voice, and I know them, and they follow me:
28 And I give unto them eternal life; and they shall never perish, neither shall any man pluck them out of my hand.
29 My Father, who gave them me, is greater than all; and no man is able to pluck them out of my father's hand.
30 I and my father are one.
John 10:27-30
For believers, the judgment seat is NOT about the question of eternal salvation or eternal punishment, but about THE REWARD we receive:
8 Now he that planteth and he that watereth are one: and every man shall receive his own reward according to his own labor.
9 For we are laborers together with God: ye are God's husbandry, ye are God's building.
10 According to the grace of God which is given unto me, as a wise masterbuilder, I have laid the foundation, and another buildeth thereon. But let every man take heed how he buildeth thereupon.
11 For other foundation no man can lay than that is laid, which is Jesus Christ.
12 Now if any man build upon this foundation gold, silver, precious stones, wood, hay, stubble;
13 Every man's work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man's work of whatever sort it is.
14 If any man's work abide which he hath built thereupon, he shall receive a reward.
15 If any man's work shall be burned, he shall suffer loss: but he himself shall be saved; yet as if by fire.