I am confused...

[Snowman37]

I have a dilemma. In 1999, I swore off falling in love and made the decission to be single for life. This was before I had ever had a feeling for anyone. I have been successful in being romantically isolated until now. I have had a friend for over a year. The problem is that she is seven years younger than I. I am a Christian, she is a Mormon. Logic tells me that the age gap is too vast. The Bible says Christians should not unite with Mormons on a romantically intimate level, yes? Logic, God's holy words, I use these as guides for my life. My heart seems to beat passionately for this person, but it causes me great pain for I know I must live a life of solitude. It is a vow I have taken to myself, and I must keep it.

How do I nullify these illogical emotions?

 

[Vico]

Age doesn't matter, what matters is that shes a Mormons. Mormons aren't saved, they reject Jesus as being one with God and separate from God.

 

[Melethiel]

Agree with the above poster. The age gap is trivial - my boyfriend is 6 years older than me, an d my dad is 9 years older than my mom. It is the difference in beliefs that is the problem.

 

[Deacon]

Age doesn't matter, what matters is that shes a Mormons. Mormons aren't saved, they reject Jesus as being one with God and separate from God.

Yeah, glad you're not an ordained minister....

Talk with the young lady about her beliefs compared to your beliefs....

 

[The Nihilist]

How old are you, Spock?

 

[Luther073082]

If you no longer feel like being single is right for you then you shouldn't be trying to remain single.

It sounds to me like your decision on being single was more your decision and not of God's

You may feel bad about breaking your "vow". . . but I took a vow once to never be a Christian. That didn't work out so well. Sometimes God shows us that the things we are firmly decided on arn't really good ideas after all.

Now that having been said, I agree with other posters. . . This woman is a mormon and IMO they are not a part of the holy catholic (Christian) church. I do think Mormon's often get the short end of the stick and a lot of people are extremely and unfairly bias against them.

But I also don't belive they are Christians.

 

[DrFrank]

Snowman's question has not been answered yet.Here it is:"How do I nullify these illogical emotions?"

The Bible has an excellent answer to deal with Mormons who worship the family through the influence of their false and demented prophet Joseph Smith:

2 Corinthians 6:14 (Contemporary English Version)



Stay away from people who are not followers of the Lord! Can someone who is good get along with someone who is evil? Are light and darkness the same?

Your emotions will die out when you separate yourself from the lust of the flesh and return to your most excellent vow to remain a virgin for life.

 

[The Nihilist]

Or hey, why not cut off your junk? I mean, if you're not using it anyway, you might as well, right?

 

[Snowman37]

A lot of you say that age does not matter, but it matters to me. If I were older, it would be less of an issue. It's just that she is so close to youth that it makes me feel as if it would be inappropriate. A lot of you say that Mormons aren't saved, but would it not be the right thing to do to sway her toward Christ should we be the same age? Then again, would that be the wrong thing to do as it could potentially tear the family apart and do more harm than good? So many questions...

Luthor073082: I experienced a very tragic event in 1999 that tore my life apart for eight years. My eyes were opened upon the evils of man and how gossip and lies can be used to destroy life irrecovably. I turned my back on trusting anyone for the better part of a decade. These last three years have been filled with rebuilding after finally coming out of hiding and giving the species a second chance. My vow to remain single for life has two purposes. The first is to protect me from harm, the second is to protect a potential soul mate from inherriting my hardship. I've come to accept that my life will be full of hardship and loss, and I will not share that with a lovely female. I would rather she be with whoever can give her that which she deserves. I still believe I should be single for life, but it's hard when love defies logic. Why does thy bleeding heart grave forbidden fruit? It's not an issue of lust, it's an issue of wanting to reach out to another soul on an emotionally intimate level. However, I know I must not do this, for I know I must live alone. It burns my infinite inner depths to want what I cannot have. That is why I phrased my question as, "How do I nullify these illogical emotions?" The question is in regards to thy heart wanting to love an incompatible female when such love must never happen.

DrFrank: You say to stay away from people who are not Christians. You ask if someone who is good can get along with someone who is evil. Are light and dark the same? No. However, would it not be right to walk the Christian walk as best as one can and befriend nonChristians in the hopes that they will become curious as to the path to Christ? My friends are Christians, Jehovas Witnesses, Mormons, Catholics, aethists, pagan, and more. Some of you might freak out at me befriending a pagan. I say to you, is it not possible to see past thy human body into thy soul and the depths within? Should the colors of one's essence radiate so brightly and so beautifully, should one not try to reach the essence of who that is with the word of the alimighty Jesus Christ, the savior of mankind?

 

[Mr. 5020]

I have a dilemma. In 1999, I swore off falling in love and made the decission to be single for life. This was before I had ever had a feeling for anyone. I have been successful in being romantically isolated until now. I have had a friend for over a year. The problem is that she is seven years younger than I. I am a Christian, she is a Mormon. Logic tells me that the age gap is too vast. The Bible says Christians should not unite with Mormons on a romantically intimate level, yes? Logic, God's holy words, I use these as guides for my life. My heart seems to beat passionately for this person, but it causes me great pain for I know I must live a life of solitude. It is a vow I have taken to myself, and I must keep it.

How do I nullify these illogical emotions?

Deciding to stay single for the rest of your life due to a past hardship is illogical.

And, despite what others are saying, age might matter. If you're 21, 7 years is a big deal. I'm sure that's not the case, though.

The biggest issue is your difference in faiths. And by 'biggest issue,' I mean it won't work. Move on, bro.

 

[Snowman37]

I concur, faith is incompatible, age is incompatible. The feelings are still there. I wish to nullify them, and I wish to nullify them immediately. How do I do so?

If anyone's curious as to our ages, she is 19 and I am 26. Totally inappropriate. By the way, she knows absolutely nothing in regards to what I may be feeling.

 

[Deacon]

Yeah so glad 99% of the people in here are not ordained minister because I would of clocked some fool for being retarded with half of the stuff they say.


You keep saying that your faith and her faith is incompatible...you would know this how? From the stuff you read on this forums? Really? Wow...

 

[Melethiel]

I concur, faith is incompatible, age is incompatible. The feelings are still there. I wish to nullify them, and I wish to nullify them immediately. How do I do so?

If anyone's curious as to our ages, she is 19 and I am 26. Totally inappropriate. By the way, she knows absolutely nothing in regards to what I may be feeling.

Dude, my boyfriend and I started dating when I was 19 and he was 25. That's really not that bad a difeerence.

As for your other questions, yes, we should befriend persons of other faiths. I have friends all over the spectrum. Being romantically involved is a whole other story, however.

 

[Melethiel]

Yeah so glad 99% of the people in here are not ordained minister because I would of clocked some fool for being retarded with half of the stuff they say.


You keep saying that your faith and her faith is incompatible...you would know this how? From the stuff you read on this forums? Really? Wow...

I know it from actually having in depth discussions with mormons. They do not believe in the Trinity, as we would understand it for one. That, without going into other things, makes them incompatible with Christianity.

What does it matter, btw, whether someone is ordained? I know plenty of ordained ministers who. Know absolutely nothing. It doesn't take much to get ordained.

 

[visionary]

Can you two bible study together in a group with others? Who is to say that God has not put this love in your heart for this person? God does not work within the barriers that man puts up. This may be a great lesson that the Lord is bringing to your heart, to crack it open from the fences you have made to protect it.

 

[Vico]

Age difference doesn't matter, its not even hinted in the bible.

 

[gzt]

You're 26, so that means you were about 15 when you made your vow. Look, mate, forget the vow and all your melodrama unless you're Batman or something. I realize whatever happened to you was traumatic, but people pick up their lives and recover.

As for romance, you're right about Mormonism being a dealbreaker. It just doesn't work. But, if you find some other girl who's 19, don't be afraid.

 

[visionary]

Why dos this thread posters think that it is impossible for a Mormon girl to find a real relationship with Christ?

 

[gzt]

It's possible for her to find one, but then she'd no longer be Mormon.

 

[visionary]

It's possible for her to find one, but then she'd no longer be Mormon.

So.. why can this not be a solution to his dilemma? Who said that Morman's faith is cast in stone and no Morman can be saved?