- Dec 10, 2016
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- Country
- United States
- Faith
- Christian
- Marital Status
- Divorced
A few months ago, I discovered that my husband's friendship with a younger female (he's 42, I'm 42, she's 23) had gone too far in my mind. He was texting her somewhat flirtatiously, meeting at the gym, going out for beers and talking negatively about me without telling me. I suspected something was going on and confronted him about it. He said that it was just a friendship, similar to those with his guy friends from the fire department. I got very upset and asked that he not communicate with her. I admit that I was not very supportive of him for the past year. I've been depressed and withdrawn. Our daughter passed away four years ago and I'm doing my best to live life. I think I'm doing the best I can. I went back to teaching, go out with friends and am active in my community. I'm really trying! About a month ago, I noticed some naked photos of him on our computer. I immediately confronted him about this. He said he had hit rock bottom and was done with life. He shared his photos on a site for the thrill of it and to do something wrong. I was upset and felt very strange about it. We are both Christians and I believe that incident renewed his faith in God. Fast forward to now...his young lady friend asked him for help training for a firefighting physical exam. My husband told me he was doing this and the texts seemed innocent because he showed me his phone. She asked him to go with her to take her exam yesterday and he went to support her. I'm not sure how to feel about any of this. He assures me it's nothing but a friendship and firefighters support each other. But when I think about it I get very angry and upset. I tried to talk to him about it but he gets frustrated and says I should trust him with his friendships. I'm a very sensitive person and do struggle with self-esteem but the whole situation makes me a little sick. I work with males but I honestly would never think of texting them or hanging out with them outside of a big group. In fact, I wouldn't even go that far. Am I being overly sensitive or is my gut telling me something? Any ideas? I would like responses that are very objective.