Husbands email!

[Manna]

You said that you simply want to be able to disagree with your husband. Throughout my marriage, I disagreed with my husband a number of times. But that did not affect whether or not I submitted to him. I respected him as my husband and as the head of our home. I was very much entitled to my own opinion, and our decisions in our home were jointly made. However, wives are told to submit to their husbands, and I gladly did so! So there ya go. Disagree as much as you want, but when it comes down to it, you need to submit to your husband.

But I believe I'm in the majority here in believing that these posts are false. Or at least I hope they are. If not, I feel extreme sympathy for your husband and mother.

 

[rainyday]

I don't buy a word of this stuff this IHMFIL posts. This is a fake, a fraud, a person bored beyond belief and I have much better things to do with my time (leaves for the bathroom).

 

[IHMFIL]

I'm going to reply to him by saying:My Father does not mean to hurt anyone in your family, I'm proud of you for telling my Father you forgave him but we just have a huge fundamental difference as to what you see as someone's motive or intent as to what I see. Your inability to forget and not allowing me to have my own opinion on this matter and some other situations that are similiar just proves we are much different from each other. We tried and it just didn't work out. My family is rude to you, but as a Christian you need to love your enemies and you aren't willing to continue doing that with them. I will ask God to forgive you!

Husbands response:

How can you have a different opinion on how something makes me feel.

My response:

I just see things differently than you do. If you are hurt than you need to forgive, it says in the bible 7x77 than how many times you forgive. If you are hurt it is because you want to be. My Father has a different opinion and perception from yours. Why can't you just accept it.

Husbands response:

I did forgive your Father. It is hurtful that you don't seem bothered that someone can be so disrespectful toward my dignity. It comes across to me that your Father is above me. You were never willing to set any limit or boundary on his behavoir but you ran to a divorce lawyer when I said I had enough of his blatant disrespect.


Isn't my husband a trip!

 

[bkg]

Isn't my husband a trip!

Actually, I think he's spot-on. As I said earlier, he seems to have the concept of forgiveness down pat. I know you want someone to agree with you, but I have to state that I believe your husband is 100% in the right on this one. And I think he's been completely forthright, generous and loving in what you are saying are his email responses.

Not sure what you're looking for... He seems like a very loving, caring, honest person who just wants his wife to understand and honor his feelings.

 

[IHMFIL]

Please, Please don't. Don't hurt your husband anymore.

But now, I agree you should leave your husband.

OK Joshua I won't hurt him anymore, at least not until the divorce is final. I should have dated my husband longer and the biggest mistake was he never met my parents before the wedding. So please as Ben Stein says in his book "How to ruin your love life", take a good look at the parents before you take that giant leap because if you are marrying a flower child and the flower childs parents are rude, disrespectful and overbearring, it is not likely the parents will become flower children but somewhere in time it is likely the flower child will turn into mom or dad or both. So really in the end my Father is who he is and my husband should have read Ben Steins book. Amen!

 

[E-beth]

Amen

This is the end of the saga

I wish IHMFIL's husband well, I wish IHMFIL well. Now let's focus our attention of other folks who are hurting over the dissolution of their marriage.