Husband.

[berry2000]

I am beginning to think that my husband is just too high maintenence. How can I possibly care for him and both my kids. I think I am just feeling really swallowed up in the hopelessness right now. But it's like if I'm sick or having an episode or something. He can't handle himself. He can't take care of things. He is extremely forgetful and sometimes lazy. I don't know if I can keep doing this. I need someone who is going to carry some weight and I feel sometimes like he is dead weight.

 

[broken4him]

I am praying for you right now.

 

[angelkiss]

I know how hard it is feeling that you're the only one pulling the weight of everything and being so overwhelmed that it seems on some days you can't seem to breathe.
I had to bring this to hubby's attention and let him know that I can't do it all. There's only one of me with two hands and I have to have help. He has finally gotten good about taking care of the outside animals when he's home and that alone has helped a great deal.
He also knows that when I'm in one of my episodes, it's hard for me to get motivated and there are days nothing seems to get done. He either helps me, or he'll just wait patiently til it gets done. (Afore, he griped and moaned all the time)
So, maybe having a little talk with your hubby may help.
Praying for you!!
s and es!!

 

[Alive again]

Are you married to my hubby's brother????? Because I was sick for so many years we missed the fact that my hubby was slipping into and then eventually just flat out depressed. Is this a possibility with your hubby? I know I just plain need to give up trying to move a rock (my dh) that I cannot budge!!! I get tired of talking to either a parent. "NO, we are not doing that" or a child "Do we have to do that today" I so long to talk to an adult!!!! And then I just get tired of it all and go into avoidance!!! My counselor and our counselor just recommends don't try to get him to do things, just hire someone, but then there is no money to do that. Sometimes it can feel hopeless, but then I try to remember the good things and good times. I am tryign to learn not to change him, but to share my feelings and my heart, and NOT to feel so rejected when it doesn''t have the impact I desire. That is the hard part!!!

I know what you are sayign about how it always seems worse when you are depressed or sick with an infection or such, and you have both. . .praying that God will work on your behalf to help you physically and in your marriage relationship. My most recent prayer for my dear hubby is for God to make him that man of God he was created to be and not the man I want him to be. . .

 

[HisArrow]

I'm praying foor both husbands.

 

[BigToe]

Man, that stinks. As if it isn't bad enough you have to deal with what you have to do anyway, but to not feel like you're getting any help? Sheesh! Everyone needs a break from responsibilities every not and again, a breather of sorts. It helps restore you. I do hope you are able to find it without worrying that other things aren't getting done.

You are certainly in my thoughts.