I don't do that. I suppose for some men, leaving the house could be an escape valve to keep them from saying or doing something that they would regret. For other men, it may seem like the only option if they are mentally overloaded after or during an argument and their wife is worked up and won't be quiet. The most ethical means of escape from the situation is leaving until she cools down and can talk normally. I don't like walking out and I don't think it sends a good message to your spouse. I wouldn't want my wife leaving the house after an argument. I suppose it could make me feel nervous and worried, too.
Generally, this sort of thing happens when a couple is quarreling and the other partner is either saying things that are hurtful, incite anger, or is just yelling or talking in a disrespectful manner. IMO, this kind of talk isn't consistent with the way marriage is supposed to be. I don't see how a man yelling at his wife is generally in live with loving her and treating her with honor as the weaker vessel. Sure, there may be exceptions--like if she is going to get hit by a bus or something, or if you are in a really loud place and you have to yell to talk. Wives yelling at their husbands, scolding them, or speaking disrespectfully is not in line with scripture that tells wives to reverence/respect their husbands and other scripture about how wives are to relate to husbands.
If you find that your husband is the one who walks out, is there something about the way you talk that makes it unpleasant for him to be around? Is there any yelling, scolding, or emotional criticism that goes on and on? If he asks you to be quiet during this time, could you do that for him? If you feel like if you don't let your emotions out, you are going to explode, don't channel those emotions into behaviors that aren't appropriate for marital conversation. It is better to break down crying than to yell at your husband. That's an outlet for extreme emotions. If you can handle it, let him console you, instead of doing the 'don't touch me' thing. Of course, its best if you don't cry and you are calm and in control.
In an argument, not all emotions need to be expressed. Not all thoughts that come into your head need to come out. I did some work with troubled teens, and I'm not going to give specifics, but I know if a parent gives in to a kid crying and whining to get his way, he may end up acting weird when he gets older, throwing tantrums when he is just shy of being a grown man, crying hoping other people will give in to him. Normally, kids learn to regulate their emotions and not cry and whine loudly and don't take those behaviors into adulthood. If you feel like you must yell, scold, criticize, etc. to let the emotions out, that's not really true. If this is an issue, you can learn to control your emotions somewhat, and certain control your behavior. I've heard there is some research that shows that venting anger can cause anger to increase.
It isn't true that someone has to say all their feelings out loud during an argument to be emotionally healthy. And sometimes it is bad for the marriage to say the words you think. If the words are a fiery dart from the wicked one, do you want to help lodge those words in your spouse's heart? It's best to watch what we say when we disagree, especially if things get heated.
Now if you always speak calmly and respectfully to him, and he gets upset when he sees something not done the way he wants, and leaves, that is a different scenario. Maybe when everything is calm, you could explain your concerns for him when he leaves, and get him to agree to tell you before he leaves, "I'm going for a walk around the neighborhood to cool down, and I'll be back in a couple of hours" or something like that so you know what is going on. You could also ask him to take his cell phone.
