Hello Coram Deo, first off (since I see that you are a new member),
WELCOME TO CF 
As far as whether I've ever experienced or seen behavior like you are describing from the man that you are dating, yes, but only very rarely because, unlike a marriage relationship, abusive dating relationships are simple to remedy by comparison, because all you have to do is walk away (since there is no true union there, legal or otherwise, to try and save, or to have to officially end).
I'm not, for a second, saying that this is easy to do in many cases (especially when one's heart is already so invested), you just don't have all of the baggage to deal with to end the relationship, the kind that you almost always have with a marriage.
So, since we are on the Christian Advice board, my advice to you (after reading what you wrote above) is to follow through and break up with him, permanently this time around. This "relationship" is not going to get better!! Best, by far then, to move on and find a truly loving relationship, one where love is a two-way street.
Question, have you talked in private with your pastor about this? If not, I would call him and do so immediately, for his counsel, help and prayers (w/o your boyfriend along, of course, and w/o telling him that you are doing so).
Hello Alex et
@Coram Deo, I wholeheartedly agree with your first bit of advice (about ditching the man), but not with your second. I've known a few who have tried actual "marriage counseling"
* BEFORE being married, but I've never seen it work (just FYI, I was in the wedding business for about a decade, and while I know that I have not seen it all, I have, sadly, seen a LOT
).
Quite frankly, if you need to have "marriage counseling" before getting married (when everything that a couple experiences with one another is typically wonderful), and you push past the obvious signs and get married anyway (hoping that getting married will fix all of your problems somehow), I can pretty much guarantee you that you will not be married for very long (I know a couple, clients who became friends actually, who THOUGHT that marriage counseling would fix the problems that they were having while dating. So, they got the counseling, thought they had their problems licked, and got married. You know what, they TRULY/GENUINALLY seemed to be deeply in love with one another at the time of their marriage and we all thought that they were going to make it, but they returned home from their honeymoon early and divorced
)!!
Getting married doesn't fix problems anymore that having babies will, both will simply give you a whole new set of problems to have to deal with as a couple (and individually). This is why the underlying dating relationship has to be rock solid and grounded in Christ before considering marriage, and the marriage hopefully the same then, before having babies (whenever possible anyway).
Praying for you!
God bless you!!
--David
p.s. -
@Coram Deo, I have a question about your opening sentence in the OP, why do you believe that it was God who gave you this abusive man to have a relationship with? Thanks! (BTW, if answering that question makes you feel uncomfortable in any way, please don't do so!)
*(
Just to be clear, PRE-Marriage counseling for engaged couples is both typical and, IMHO, necessary to help a new marriage get off the ground running. BUT, if you need the kind of "marriage counseling" that is given to couples whose marriage is in trouble after many years of being married ~BEFORE~ ever getting married, that is a BIG "red flag", and a message to you then that should be listened to carefully 
).
