hurt feelings...

[LadyBird]

recently i learned that many of my "friends" at church are rooting for the break up of my boyfriend and me which by the way...we have no intent on breaking up. should i care what they think of us and our relationship...it really made me upsetto hear such an awful thing because we are really happy together and want to get married someday. i just dont understand why some people (people from my youth group) are against our relationship and us being together...they dont even know anything about our relationship. his parents and family approve of our relationship as do my parents and my family and WE want to be together. we have been together for over 2 1/2 years and are happy...so should we even care what other people think?

 

[LifeInYou]

What are their reasons for wanting you guys to break up??

I think you shouldn't worry about what they think, but sometimes people can see things from the outside that can not be seen on the inside. For instance, if you guys fight all of the time or something- they may view it as unhealthy and they think a break up would be better for both of you? Not really sure, just speculating.

 

[LadyBird]

i have no idea for their reasoning. maybe they can see things from the outside but there's not really much for them to see or make persumptions or accusations about because we don't hang out with them much anymore...i heard this from my best friend's boyfriend who doesn't even attend our church...he was just talking to her ex boyfriend and someone else he knows who attends our church and that is how they feel...and apparently others do as well which i had no idea about. we really dont fight a lot...like one major fight every few months...the last big argument we got in was in april.

 

[LifeInYou]

Then maybe the reason is because you guys have chosen not to hang out with them as much anymore, like you guys as a couple are only focused on yourselves?

I don't know, I'll be quiet now. But, yeah, as long as you both are right with God, just go on and live your lives. I'm sorry that you hurt. People can be cruel at times.

 

[LadyBird]

the reason why we dont hang out with them is because they are rude to us. we hang out with different people now too...interests change and so do circumstances. we still see our good friends and hang out with the people who want us to break up when we are invited to their get togethers. i just talked to my boyfriend about this and he said that it doesn't matter what they think because he's not breaking up with me any time soon. but it still really hurts to hear stuff like that. thanks for your input...lifeinyou...i really appreciate it

 

[LifeInYou]

 

[RevKidd]

"because we don't hang out with them much anymore"

Maybe that's the reason. I know it's really easy to forget about people when that special someone comes into your life. Maybe if you could set some time aside away from you boyfriend you might find out that your friends miss you. They may see your significant other as a destraction or someone that is causing you to forget your priorities, or something along those lines. Hope this helps.

 

[RevKidd]

Why would they be rude to you?

Sometimes when two people meet, especially at your age and time in your life. There are always those people who will want what you have and when you have that and they do not they become jealous, envious, covetousness steps in, all thoughts come into play.

People become jealous and envy over all types of situations and circumstances. These are our human flaws and unfortunately also signs that some people need to grow up a little. I am 27 now and there are people still my age who still act like they are in highschool and refuse to give up there childish ways. They still require milk and shy away from the meat.

In certain cicumstances it's better to remove (not completely) yourself from those people, so that you don't bring yourself down. People are unfortunately people. We can't do anything about it. Enjoy what you have, keep yourselves true to God first and then true to each other. And don't compromise one inch.

 

[S Walch]

Yeesh - some people don't half deserve a good slap sometime.

Tina - all I can say is to ignore them.

It's either that - or you go on a slaping contest

 

[LadyBird]

It's either that - or you go on a slaping contest

lolololololololol....i've been laughing for a few minutes...

 

[S Walch]

At least it made you feel better tina

That's my job you see.

Always have to please the ladies

 

[DaveKerwin]

If you two are having sex, and they know it, then I understand their desire for you to break up. I don't know the reason. It may be a good reason, it may be a bad reason. Either way, I would confront the people saying it, and ask them why they feel that way. Either you are in the wrong, or they are in the wrong. If you confront them, you will know what is going on.

I say talk with them, and listen. I know some of my friend really got on my nerves when I was about to do something, and they ended up saving me a lot of heartache. I love them for doing that for me, but I didn't at the time.

 

[LadyBird]

we are not having sex...never have had sex or intend to have sex until our wedding night. i just think that the select few are jealous.

 

[sad astronaut]

My parents disaproved of my relationship with my girlfriend. I gave careful consideration of why they disapproved and the things they didn't like, but I didn't let it prevent me from continuing in a happy relationship. Now, we are getting married in 3 weeks and I couldn't be happier.

 

[revivedinChrist]

lol yeah.. ignore them ayt?

 

[Adam_for_Christ]

Hmm, I dunno, sometimes people tell you things you don't want to hear or beleive when it may be true.. this is rather common among teenagers... just food for the thought.

 

[gehenna]

That's too bad. Real friends want you to be happy. hugs