Welcome back, and care for your own spiritual health. I hope we can help you with some of your questions.
Keep in mind, I'm answering from the heart. I'm not trying a rhetorical trap that I'm not caught in myself ... just saying off the cuff the way I see it.
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-Like, why do you think God created people just to send them to Hell? I know, romans 9, but I mean why?
Well, most of us don't think God created people *just* to send them to Hell. But God does create people that His mercy doesn't rescue from death. I believe your own church's theology says exactly the same thing: God can save everyone; God doesn't save everyone. In both cases the unsaved has a will which disbelieves God. Right? So there's not quite so much difference between us as ... well many would think. Most of us are not hypercalvinists or fatalists: people don't want the submission and sacrifice that the love of God costs; people don't trust God to rescue them; people don't want to love their enemies, to never have a strong word for their neighbors, to avoid lust at every turn (Mt 5), they don't really seek God in all sincerity (Rom 3:9-19), but out of self-interest and self-preservation.
We've all severely offended God by our actions, thoughts, words, and desires, and "It takes more than your saline eyes to make things right." It takes a sacrifice viciously, painfully carried out on God the Son. God is interested in keeping that in mind: He hasn't cheapened that sacrifice down to where everybody gets it.
Actually we're less sure why anybody is rescued than why everyone isn't rescued. Nobody deserves it. So it sounds more ungrateful than just to us, to hear, "Why doesn't God save everybody?" Kinda like asking a fireman, "Why didn't you save every robber from that burning bank?" at his graveside.
But it does come back to Romans 9: if God told you something, would you believe Him? We start there. It's not like we have any control over what God tells us. Often God's very disconcerting. But we're going to believe it. God doesn't lie.
So it really comes down to asking us, "Why do you believe in the second law of thermodynamics? I know, like Newton and all, but I mean why?" It's a fact, we're told it by a trustworthy source. No guile. A serious look at Romans 9 might help explain more of why we believe it.
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-Why do you think God's goodness is proved by the fact that He saves even some of us from eternal torment? Shouldn't a good God save all His children? Or is that beyond His power?
As I pointed out, nothing is beyond Him, but some things are beyond His willing mercy to rescue. The rescue of people in dire need tends to be at the rescuer's discretion. He decides. And essentially we've all lit the matches of our own Hell. We're not innocents, here. We're asking the only good Man in all this, to die to rescue us pyros. That's quite a selfish thing to ask. God's not interested in doing this for everybody. I'm not sure I'd be so impetuous to ask Him why not, but then I'm a little humbled by what He went through so far.
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-Do you think Mother Theresa is in Hell?
No. Nor purgatory, either
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-Are you bible idolators? Do you know what that is?
Depends on what you mean. Some take this so narrowly that any Bible quote is met with disgust. We take hold of the fact that the Bible has something more to tell us than "take it or leave it" type ideas, yes. Y'know what Abe told the rich man in Jesus' parable of Lazarus and the rich man? "[Your brothers] have Moses and the prophets; let 'em listen to them. ... If they do not listen to Moses and the Prophets, they will not be persuaded even if someone rises from the dead."
The fact is, people who don't listen for the Spirit in the words of the Bible will only hear their own desires and arguments. In a sense the Bible challenges us to new ways of looking at things, making us grapple with hard realities.
Many of us believe the Bible is inerrant/infallible; most believe it's inspired. Few of us believe it's to be worshipped -- the God Who gave us the Bible is to be depended on, not our interpretation of His words.
'Hope it helps.