So a same sex attracted couple has been invited to our family Christmas function. (I had no say, my mother in law has organised it). I have a young child and am not sure how to handle this. I have been told, "kids won't notice anything," but kids do...and I really don't want to have to explain these type of things to my young child yet (they are too young to understand), and I am also concerned of this becoming a regular Christmas thing now and over time, and my child will come to see it as normal.
My initial reaction was to say, well our child is not going, but my husband said then that I will not be invited and I am being a bigot, and that I am being 'racist.'
I just feel uncomfortable having to put on a facade that I am ok with it all in front of family and friends, and children, when I am not. I don't really want to go to be honest anyway as I don't want to feel uncomfortable having to put on a facade, because anything less than total acceptance with this mob, well I will likely be called a bigot and other things anyway and it won't be a comfortable day out.. To be honest, I don't trust myself to handle this situation well on the day..
Plus my husbands has said he will ban our child from spending any time with my family on Christmas if he cannot go to the Christmas function with his family... So it is our child that ends up disadvantaged in the end.
Any thoughts or ideas on how to deal with this situation, how to approach it as I am stumped.
I just get so disappointed that my husband seems to place his family over and above his wife and child, in everything.....he told me when we first married that it would always be that way, and he has certainly proved it to be true...
My initial reaction was to say, well our child is not going, but my husband said then that I will not be invited and I am being a bigot, and that I am being 'racist.'
I just feel uncomfortable having to put on a facade that I am ok with it all in front of family and friends, and children, when I am not. I don't really want to go to be honest anyway as I don't want to feel uncomfortable having to put on a facade, because anything less than total acceptance with this mob, well I will likely be called a bigot and other things anyway and it won't be a comfortable day out.. To be honest, I don't trust myself to handle this situation well on the day..
Plus my husbands has said he will ban our child from spending any time with my family on Christmas if he cannot go to the Christmas function with his family... So it is our child that ends up disadvantaged in the end.
Any thoughts or ideas on how to deal with this situation, how to approach it as I am stumped.
I just get so disappointed that my husband seems to place his family over and above his wife and child, in everything.....he told me when we first married that it would always be that way, and he has certainly proved it to be true...