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How would u feel?

HisW0rd

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I have a feeling that someone is going to have something to say about this. Just to let you know I already know what needs to be done. Just to remind some people that not everyone is assigned to do what you do. I always was instructed by the Lord to do something that most religious people didn’t agree with.

This is my way to just release the tension and the anger.

My friend was homeless for three months before he came to me. The reason why it’s because someone broke into his car stealing his stereo system and etc. When he filed for a police report he found out that it was his room mate friend. So he ended up going to jail and my friend made the guy friends angry. He told me that the guy that ended up going to jail was bringing a lot of money as far as selling drugs. So his room mate told him he had to go for his safety. The guy that ended up in jail, his friends were angry to the point they were searching for my friend to do harm. They went to his family members’ house and everything.

Knowing that I really wasn’t in the position to help him since I live with my father, I asked my daddy if he could help. My father said yes but after him buying the ticket to come here my dad said no. So he decided to come by faith anyway and when he got here my daddy said yes.

So it was such a relief. THEN my older brother found out and told me that my friend had to leave the house now. He was being rude about the whole situation and was disrespectful to me. He made it seem like I invited a total stranger/murderer in my home. So while I was arguing with him, I asked him what was the difference when my 15 y/o sister and her 18 y/o boyfriend was living with my daddy fornicating under his roof PLUS my sister only knew him for two months before they even decided to move in with my father. My brother told me because it was her boyfriend…..

So I am like OHHHH OKAYYYYYY I get it now if I was fornicating with him and called him my boyfriend it would be a different situation. Of course he changed it into another excuse.

So I was put in a position to find a place to stay because I knew drama was going to start. So my brother ended up talking to my daddy and now my daddy wants my friend out. He talks to my friend like he is stupid and lies on him. He is disrespectful to him and everything. Spiritually my home has been turned upside down because of my dad bitterness towards my friend. My friend is really trying to understand why he is being treated this way when he hasn’t given anyone a reason to be this way.


My mama loves my friend and every time I talk to him she tells me he is anointed. He is its amazing on how evident it is. No matter the drama I am dealing with the day, at the end of the night my heart only has a desire to help my friend.

His grandmother is a very strong woman in Christ and she asked me about shacking up. I was ready to leave my father house in 9/2007 but wasn’t able to. When I was able to, I felt bad leaving my father because he is basically just withering away. Now I am so ready to just go because he is not hurting just Anthony, he is hurting me too.


Anthony is a good person but our friendship isn’t like that. So people can kind of throw that out the window. When his grandmother asked about fornication, I was kind of worried that people will judge me by what I am doing but I don’t care. I am helping an anointed brotha in Christ.


I am just so tired of dealing with pettiness. I can’t believe that every time I do what the Lord ask people treat me like I made the worst decision of my life. When I was out there doing wrong, no one had anything to say….


 

eatenbylocusts

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So, I think what you're saying is that you're about to or you already moved in with a guy? Lots of women have the desire to care and save others; that's part of our mothering nature, but it can sometimes be misplaced and end up hurting us and others. If you haven't moved out I would suggest you direct your energies into finding some other arrangements for your friend. Start with your church, other churches to start.
It's too bad that your family couldn't help this guy out, but it's not worth the strife in the family.
There are other living situations that would be better that wouldn't cause a problem with what people think of you. And if the guy can't pay his own way, then this could get into a using situation pretty quick. I could tell you about the guy who still owes me $1,700 and my ex, but the stories are too long. Just know that people can really surprise you and it's not always good.
 
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HisW0rd

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So, I think what you're saying is that you're about to or you already moved in with a guy? Lots of women have the desire to care and save others; that's part of our mothering nature, but it can sometimes be misplaced and end up hurting us and others. If you haven't moved out I would suggest you direct your energies into finding some other arrangements for your friend. Start with your church, other churches to start.
It's too bad that your family couldn't help this guy out, but it's not worth the strife in the family.
There are other living situations that would be better that wouldn't cause a problem with what people think of you. And if the guy can't pay his own way, then this could get into a using situation pretty quick. I could tell you about the guy who still owes me $1,700 and my ex, but the stories are too long. Just know that people can really surprise you and it's not always good.
I understand what your saying because when my friend came to me, I was feeling and thinking NO...but thats not what God put on my heart. I dont feel like I am trying to save him and I really feel like I am not caring for him so I cant grasp that. There was always strife in my family so this is nothing new. I should of had my own place a while ago.

This is just TEMP....no more than 4 months and he should be close to having his own.
 
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eatenbylocusts

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Be careful. Watch out for stumbling blocks and a feeling of disquiet. I don't think that God will usually ask us to do things that "look wrong". (other than dining with IRS agents and hanging out with prostitutes)

I have to go write up a demand letter to try and get my money back from my ex-bf now.
 
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