How will I know When My Husband Comes?

[Asimina]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Well, first of all, I would advice you NOT to look at every guy you meet as a guy who could potentially be "the One". It will put strain on the flow of the relationship and possibly even strain your ability to use logic and your head in the relationship.

Right now, just take it easy and when you meet a guy you like, get to know him better. Find out who he is, what is it about him you like? If you still like the guy you mentioned, why try to forget him? Why not hang out with him again and see where things go? You honestly won't know if any guy is even compatable with you until you spend some time with.

It's obvious you want Christ involved, but remember, God helps those who help themselves. He isn't going to paint "the One" bright blue and have him walk up to you carrying a sign that says "I'm him!"

Keep dating and meeting people and when you find the one you will marry, you'll know. Honestly I can't explain it, but you'll know. For me, I don't have any doubts, I don't need to think it through....We're perfectly compatable in every possible way, our personalities work together perfectly, it honestly is like we were literally made for each other. And keep in mind, I didn't believe in soulmates at all until I started getting to know him better.

 

[dobieman0488]

bad advice, first corinthians clearly tells us to not look for a husband or wife if we are single, and marriage is borderline sinful according to Paul. we should focus our attention on God, but if we are married we will have divided focus on our spouse, i feel that god wants less people to get married, since paul wouldn't have wrote it in the ibble if God didn't want him to.

 

[FOG]

bad advice, first corinthians clearly tells us to not look for a husband or wife if we are single, and marriage is borderline sinful according to Paul. we should focus our attention on God, but if we are married we will have divided focus on our spouse, i feel that god wants less people to get married, since paul wouldn't have wrote it in the ibble if God didn't want him to.

the bible also says that there are some people who need to get married - those who are able to go through life without getting married are blessed because they can be more devoted to God. I don't think the bible ever makes marriage a sin - in fact another place also says to watch out for groups that forbid marriage, as that is a sign of false teaching.

 

[Niffer]

Hey Hun,
In the end you don't need to worry about it.
I have a guy friend, strong christian, good looking, built like a tank and voluteer fire-fighter, yet he couldn't get a date to save his life.
I've talked to other young women about him and they all say the same thing: "He's trying too hard."

Every woman he meets he tries to make into his wife, he doesn't build a friendship just for friendships sake. The women feel like they're just being primed to become his "One" - it's a major turn off.

Don't look at guys as potential husbands - when you meet your husband, it'll probably be when you least expect it, and it'll be right. The timing, the person, the place - it'll all fit!
I've know my husband since I was 14 - we weren't even friends until I was 19. After a year of just being friends, and becoming eachothers best friends, we dated a year then married.

It all works out. Pray for your future husband, then realize it's not the most important thing - serving God is. And you can do that awsomely as a single person

~ Niff

 

[Asimina]

Hey Hun,
In the end you don't need to worry about it.
I have a guy friend, strong christian, good looking, built like a tank and voluteer fire-fighter, yet he couldn't get a date to save his life.
I've talked to other young women about him and they all say the same thing: "He's trying too hard."

Every woman he meets he tries to make into his wife, he doesn't build a friendship just for friendships sake. The women feel like they're just being primed to become his "One" - it's a major turn off.

Don't look at guys as potential husbands - when you meet your husband, it'll probably be when you least expect it, and it'll be right. The timing, the person, the place - it'll all fit!
I've know my husband since I was 14 - we weren't even friends until I was 19. After a year of just being friends, and becoming eachothers best friends, we dated a year then married.

It all works out. Pray for your future husband, then realize it's not the most important thing - serving God is. And you can do that awsomely as a single person

~ Niff

Thank you My sister
I will focus in My Life with Christ But Praying for my future Husband!

 

[Bill_monkey]

Hello guys
I'm 20 and I really pray to God to keep me and the Man He has for me.
I'm so excited and keeping myself for Him.

There is this young boy that for 4 years now i cant like any other guy.
I mean..i asked the Lord to take any feeling if He is not the one..but it's been 4years..and the Feelings are still there.
I dont know if He feels the same.We was once together(nothing too serious) But knowing the right thing in Christ we stayed friends.

what can i do to forget Him if He is Not the one?

so..The fact is..How can i know when i see Him that He is the One?
DO any of you had any special feelings when you found you..

"Bone of your bone &..Flesh of your flesh"?

Thank you all.

How about being patient?

Most people your age (or my age) just are not ready to be married. If you look at the stats, there are considerably higher divorce rates in "red states" then in the liberal North East. Why? Probably it largely has to do with the fact that there are more people your age getting married in those states - people who aren't ready. Instead of focusing on finding a guy that you love, focus on learning about the world and yourself. Focus on what you can do to make the world a better place and figure out what you need to follow through with your goals and what you need to be happy.

You may want a guy - but that doesn't mean that you will want to live with the guy. And when the love that you thought was there runs out as your goals diverge or you become irritated at living a lifestyle that you can't stand, who will be punished? Maybe you. Maybe him. Probably any kids that you have with him. Probably your community.

Marriage is not about you and him, its about a family. So make sure that you are in a position to know -without online help- that your marriage will last and that your kids won't be hurt if you made a mistake.

 

[Johnnz]

the bible also says that there are some people who need to get married - those who are able to go through life without getting married are blessed because they can be more devoted to God. I don't think the bible ever makes marriage a sin - in fact another place also says to watch out for groups that forbid marriage, as that is a sign of false teaching.

Paul did not teach that as you stated. The local situation was that many, including Paul, expected Jesus to return shortly and therefore trouble was just around the corner. Paul never canceled out God first command to humanity to be fruitful and multiply. In Timothy Paul advised widows to marry.

How to chose? Don't get super spiritual. Use you intelligence (common values, interests etc) advice of others, pray, and finally make a decision. God did not create you with a great brain to put it on ice.

John
NZ

 

[Kimmip]

I think it's wise of you to pray for your future husband, family and marriage if it be in your future. That's a very loving move on your part. Now stay still. Let things just happen and don't seek it, that is biblical. Don't seek to be in a different position and be content where you are. If it's God's timing and will and plan for you, you will see it and know it and all will happen. Stay a beautiful sister serving Him for now, your light will attract the right stuff. Be it a man or not. Pray for patience and your heart and mind not to focus on what is not there at this time, it's very hard but is good for God and helps us as well.
God bless!

 

[Asimina]

I think it's wise of you to pray for your future husband, family and marriage if it be in your future. That's a very loving move on your part. Now stay still. Let things just happen and don't seek it, that is biblical. Don't seek to be in a different position and be content where you are. If it's God's timing and will and plan for you, you will see it and know it and all will happen. Stay a beautiful sister serving Him for now, your light will attract the right stuff. Be it a man or not. Pray for patience and your heart and mind not to focus on what is not there at this time, it's very hard but is good for God and helps us as well.
God bless!

That's a very strong and Blessed answer. Amen to that
Thank you girl for your answer! i will keep it in Heart.
Stay Blessed in the Hands of the Almighty..

 

[windcatcher]

I have my own theories to make the process fast. It's basically how ready you are in God's eyes. If you are ready to marry, I am sure He will lead you to your future husband.

So, it's not about waiting with doing nothing. The reason we need to wait is probably because we are to learn something before. If you can learn what God wants you to know to become someone's wife, He will bring you the one.

I think people get so impatient, and they go ahead of God. Often, they marry to wrong ones. They marry just because they think they "feel" like it. I think there is lots more to it. Maybe your future husband is not ready to marry you, either. Exercising your patience itself is one of the most important things you need to learn in your life, including marriage.

 

[SheepoftheShepherd]

When I was younger I idolize the true love waits. Now I am trying to balance it out. Its soooo hard. I am still waiting and praying once in a while for my future husband. But sometimes I wonder how far is too far idolizing waiting for that special someone.

 

[Asimina]

When I was younger I idolize the true love waits. Now I am trying to balance it out. Its soooo hard. I am still waiting and praying once in a while for my future husband. But sometimes I wonder how far is too far idolizing waiting for that special someone.

well your still 20 .....so i think that there is still some hope!!!

 

[Asimina]

I have my own theories to make the process fast. It's basically how ready you are in God's eyes. If you are ready to marry, I am sure He will lead you to your future husband.

So, it's not about waiting with doing nothing. The reason we need to wait is probably because we are to learn something before. If you can learn what God wants you to know to become someone's wife, He will bring you the one.

I think people get so impatient, and they go ahead of God. Often, they marry to wrong ones. They marry just because they think they "feel" like it. I think there is lots more to it. Maybe your future husband is not ready to marry you, either. Exercising your patience itself is one of the most important things you need to learn in your life, including marriage.

thank you for your answer...

 

[BrokenOne]

You never know what it will look like when you meet the "one". When I met my wife who I still love deeply but am separated from her (her choice) I was just trying to help her out, she was going through some tough things with friends and family and I was just there for her to talk to ect. Eventually that developed into a more serious relationship. All Im saying is you just really do not know what it will look like. Just look towards God and he will provide.

 

[Asimina]

You never know what it will look like when you meet the "one". When I met my wife who I still love deeply but am separated from her (her choice) I was just trying to help her out, she was going through some tough things with friends and family and I was just there for her to talk to ect. Eventually that developed into a more serious relationship. All Im saying is you just really do not know what it will look like. Just look towards God and he will provide.

yeah, i suppose we can't know what tommorow will bring..God knows and will provide for all.
thank you for your answer my brother.
sorry to hear that you & your wife are no longer together.
everything in life is done for a purpose...that's what i can only say..

Also God Bless

 

[Johnnz]

Whereas we should not feel pressured to find a lifelong partner just 'waiting God''s timing' can end up in spinsterhood. For most of history parents arranged marriages. You have a brain, you make choices based on values and information in many areas of your life already. You have taken initiatives before. Be a human and activate, without pressure, your god given capacities to make sensible decisions. John NZ

 

[JesusFreak2008]

I think that, like all others have said here, you may not want to think of every man you meet as the potential "one" for you. This tends to add stress on the relationship. Be patient, and I believe that the Lord God has someone for everyone.

I was in a relationship not long ago, with a man named Jason, and I thought he was the one for me. I became engaged to him the first night we met, I thought that he was going to be the perfect man for me, but then as time went on, I found out who he really was. An abuser, and someone who desperatly needed help but refused to get it. I cried out to God, and then Dustin came into my life. Do I see Dustin as a potential future husband? The answer is yes, but will I press the issue, no. Not until I get to know him, and he gets to know me. We have been together for about two weeks now, and he is amazing in every way, shape and form. There is a special feeling you get with someone, that you just can not explain it. Dustin and I have this feeling for each other, but know that only God knows the future.

I believe that if you are trying to find your future husband, quit trying so hard. He will pop up when you least expect it. Dustin did. But I also want to tell you that you need to not rush into marraige in a relationship, because that will just cause problems. I know from experience.