How true is Proverbs 19:22?

[NASA321]

In Proverbs 1922 it says that what makes a man attractive is his kindness (or loyalty). There's this girl in my church that I have come to really like a lot. I am extremely kind and loving to her, not just because I like her but because I legit care about her. I encourage her in a Godly manner, shown her what it means to put herself under God's Grace with the issues that she struggles through in life, I support her emotionally and expressed to her as a loyal person in general and yet I feel like I will never win her affection. I may even be in the friendzone. Now I know that there are other things too that come into play. My physique is about average male height and muscular athletic build. We also have a lot of fun together when hanging out, have similar musical taste, and telling jokes as well so I don't think my personality sucks. I know what the Bible says makes a man attractive and yet here I am wondering why I don't have her affection for me and why I am potentially friendzoned.

 

[RC1970]

In Proverbs 1922 it says that what makes a man attractive is his kindness (or loyalty). There's this girl in my church that I have come to really like a lot. I am extremely kind and loving to her, not just because I like her but because I legit care about her. I encourage her in a Godly manner, shown her what it means to put herself under God's Grace with the issues that she struggles through in life, I support her emotionally and expressed to her as a loyal person in general and yet I feel like I will never win her affection. I may even be in the friendzone. Now I know that there are other things too that come into play. My physique is about average male height and muscular athletic build. We also have a lot of fun together when hanging out, have similar musical taste, and telling jokes as well so I don't think my personality sucks. I know what the Bible says makes a man attractive and yet here I am wondering why I don't have her affection for me and why I am potentially friendzoned.

The proverb is not really saying that if you're loyal you will always attract the one you really want. What it's saying is that if you're not loyal, you will most likely not attract her at all.

Loyalty is necessary, but not necessarily sufficient.

Interestingly though, the answer to your problem is found in the preceding Proverb (19:21)

 

[Cearbhall]

The proverb is not really saying that if you're loyal you will always attract the one you really want.

I agree. It's not a matter of checking off everything on a list and then expecting that every girl will consider dating you.

 

[ReesePiece23]

On at least two occasions, a girl I liked turned out to be a lesbian. One was as recently as 18 months ago.

Just goes to show the calibre of woman I go for doesn't it? Beer drinking, cigar smoking Motorhead fans.

So fear not son, it happens to us all. You're in good company if it falls through, so just be a man about it if it does.

 

[timewerx]

Proverbs 19:22

-You'll be attracting the **right** women You just need to open your eyes a little more to see them!

 

[leothelioness]

In Proverbs 1922 it says that what makes a man attractive is his kindness (or loyalty). There's this girl in my church that I have come to really like a lot. I am extremely kind and loving to her, not just because I like her but because I legit care about her. I encourage her in a Godly manner, shown her what it means to put herself under God's Grace with the issues that she struggles through in life, I support her emotionally and expressed to her as a loyal person in general and yet I feel like I will never win her affection. I may even be in the friendzone. Now I know that there are other things too that come into play. My physique is about average male height and muscular athletic build. We also have a lot of fun together when hanging out, have similar musical taste, and telling jokes as well so I don't think my personality sucks. I know what the Bible says makes a man attractive and yet here I am wondering why I don't have her affection for me and why I am potentially friendzoned.

Have you even tried asking her out? if you like her, just tell her.

 

[SnowyMacie]

Proverbs are well, proverbs, they're trying to relay a teaching about something, but aren't necessarily the law of nature. The entire proverb is "What is desirable in a person is loyalty, and it is better to be poor than a liar.", meaning that it's a person's reputation is more valuable than anything else.


Regardless, just ask her out.