Perhaps it is good to consider what act is required for a man and woman to become "one." Does this unity depend upon a written document from a worldly institution?
Some legal institutions may not grant documents allowing marriage for some, so it does not depend upon documents.
I would say, it depends on what God considers to be marriage, since God is the one who constituted that arrangement.
There are some people who live together, and consider themselves married, because,
according to the, "they love each other".
Does God consider them married? Well no, since marriage is not a mental exercise.
So, to be married, the individuals need to take the action necessary, for a marriage to take place.
The first marriage was shown with these words. [God] brought her to the man. Genesis 2:22
There was no audience... well at least no human audience, and no documents.
They were husband and wife, in God's eyes.
In ancient Israel, the father gave away his daughter - the groom needed to have that approval,, and he took her to his home. It was understood by that process, they were married. No documents. They were husband and wife, in God's eyes.
Today, the custom is similar, in that the father gives away the bride - though not in all cases, due to different factors, and circumstances.
However, an officiator, performs the marriage ceremony, and in some cases, documents are made up, in order to have proof of the marriage - for legal reasons. They are husband and wife, in God's eyes - with, or without the documents.
However, God also requires this. Romans 13:
- Every person is to be subject to the governing authorities. For there is no authority except from God, and those which exist are established by God.
- Therefore whoever resists authority has opposed the ordinance of God; and they who have opposed will receive condemnation upon themselves.
- For rulers are not a cause of fear for good behavior, but for evil. Do you want to have no fear of authority? Do what is good and you will have praise from the same;
- for it is a servant of God to you for good. But if you do what is evil, be afraid; for it does not bear the sword for nothing; for it is a servant of God, an avenger who brings wrath on the one who practices evil.
- Therefore it is necessary to be in subjection, not only because of wrath, but also for the sake of conscience.
- For because of this you also pay taxes, for rulers are servants of God, devoting themselves to this very thing.
So, his people do not try to bypass what God has allowed for the tie being. What he provides is a protection.
True marriage begins with consumption.
I don't understand. What do you mean?
It seems, therefore, that this thread began with the admission of a marriage having already taken place. Though a worldly marriage has not been undertaken, this young man is not allowed to move from woman to woman throughout his life. Adultery is first of the heart, then of worldly laws (that desire to judge us).
I'm not sure the OP contains any admission of marriage.
Perhaps I am not reading between the lines, but it seems the OP is admitting to sexual immorality outside of marriage, and wanting to find a way to avoid repeating this.
Maybe I missed something.
This is the position that I personally hold, which is that the last woman whom I had "known," that woman is my technical and Spiritual wife.
Is that God's view though?
I know we have our personal feelings, views, ideas, etc.
However, I try to hold God's view, because I realize that my personal opinion is not really the important thing.
In fact, Jesus himself felt the same way, and I am trying to imitate Jesus, since I know that to do otherwise, is to be disapproved by God.
John 5:30
“I can do nothing on My own. As I hear, I judge; and My judgment is righteous, because I do not seek My own will but the will of Him who sent Me.
John 16:27
for the Father Himself loves you, because you have loved Me and have believed that I came forth from the Father.
Therefore, I am to be faithful to her. When a man enters himself unto a woman, he is essentially sharing the Promise that circumcision represents. And so it is with his woman, that he is uniting himself with his woman as he is united with God. As a man is one with God, he is to be considered one with his woman. And though we may make a mistake in "knowing" a worldly, ungodly woman, this does not grant us an excuse by which to engage with sexual experiences with woman after woman after woman. We must accept the consequences of the mistakes we have made, even if they leave us living the remainder of our lives as ones set apart for Christ, our Nazarene Father, never to be romantic and sexual again.
There are many persons that feel the same way you do, and they do give reasons as to why what they do, is acceptable, but can I ask, Do you think we need to conform to what God determines is right, or God should conform to what we determine is right?
At the same time, I am thinking of Matthew 7:21-23
What are your thoughts?