How to tell the kids about possible divorce ?

[MyKidsDaddy]

How do you go about telling your kids.. "It looks like Mom is not coming back home" & "If things don't change for the better, divorce will be the outcome". She moved out in July.

I have 3 college age kids and they know enough to surmise that their mom had an affair. There are two younger ones 12yo and 9yo living with me at the house and basically know that "Mom and Dad weren't getting along, so Mom moved out".

I'm to a point where she has to show some effort of trying. I feel that 5-6 months of separation should be long enough to at least decide if you want to consider the idea of reconciliation.

Lately, I have been doing better at "not thinking about what she's doing", and instead focusing on what I need to do and what me and the boys can do.

I don't want this post to come across as lacking faith in what G-d can accomplish. I realize G-d's answer is indepedant of what I want.

 

[ido]

I'm sorry that you are facing having to have this talk with your kids and will be in prayer over your family. I would highly recommend a book titled "Christian Family's Guide to Surviving Divorce". I don't recall the author at the moment, but can look it up for you, if you'd like. It is a great book and addresses how to handle just about everything you'll face through separation/divorce (if it comes to that for you).

 

[5kidsdad]

MKD,

Mu situation is different, but I just sat down my kids, and told them what was going on, in kid terms, exolained to them that daddy wasn't going to be coming back to live with them in the house, and constantly reinforced the fact that what happened was not their fault. I told them that I loved them very, very much. I would never stop loving them, and that I would be there for them, no matter what might happen. It was after prayer and fasting, a lot of it. Yes, after a separation of that length, there should be some movement. Just pray, seek God, and He will give you the words to say. He will also open up the time for it to be done. I know how you feel...there is nothing easy about this at all, but you can do it with His help.

God bless,

5kd