how to stop worrying?

[dbartley]

Hi there, I'm the one who wrote the "massage" thread.
First, I'm glad I found this forum, it's great!

I understand that God will take all our worries away from us if we let Him. However, I have a low anxiety issue where I constantly worry about the 'what if" in life.
Even though everything may be going great in my life (which it is), I still dwell on something that may be bad. These things I dwell on pop in my head when I realize how good things are, I quickly remind myself that things could change for the worse. Thing is, the things I worry about are out of my control and when I share the worries with others, they are not really worth thinking about.

I want to know how to put ALL my trust in God,
I want Him to take away my fears and worries.

I think it started when I was a teen and my dad died instantly without warning. On the way to the hospital I thought, of course everything will be ok. Well, I learned that things don't always turn out well. This scares me cause my world changed forever from that day on. I've moved on but the shock of the unexpected may have made it's way into other parts of my life.

How do I get over this? I really don't want therapy. It's not that big a deal but enough that it keeps me from feeling the innocence and care free feeling I had when I was a child. I know that God can help me achieve this but how do I get started?

I regret all the sin I committed and feel so ashamed. I am so remorseful and want to be reborn and put it all behind me. I'm a good person, I know I am, but lately I've given in to temptation and let myself down. I am carrying around these negative feelings and wish I could tear off this skin and start over.

Can anyone offer some tips? Encouragement would be great.

 

[goldenviolet]

dbartley, from reading your other posts, i'm guessing that because you don't feel righteous in God's eyes, and you feel your walk isn't fruitful; you are exsperiancing all of this. i really think it's alkl amatter of healing from your backsliding. continue to seek Christ. one day at a time, seek Him, and let this draw you near to Him. He will heal you from all of this. exspect Him too. He forgave you. now it's time to chip away the sin and build the man.

 

[BarbInArk]

Welcome to the club of worriers. I'm one of them and unfortunately have passed this bad habit on to my son. I have found that most of the things I worry about never actually happen. Also the more I read the bible the less I worry. It's really neat how that works. There are so many reassurances in the bible...it's very calming to read.

 

[Mayflower1]

Dear Bartley,

I have the same problem in worrying but every day I am learning to depend more on God. It just takes time. You just have to keep praying about it and try hard. Not easy though!!! Really though, I know what it feels like to carry around guilt of sinning against God. God loves you though and He understands your mistakes. The important thing is that you want to turn away and serve God. As GoldenViolet said, take it one day at a time. He will heal you!!!!! Lily00

 

[Im-revived]

Hi, im a counsellor, if your not sure check my profile out.

Ok so yes you do need a bit of guidance here, but it won't happen over night.
An entry point of any problem can start at any time, what I mean by that is, you think you started feeling like this when your dad suddenly died, yes typical entry point. You were a teenager, still not fully mature, it was a shock, and any child or young adult would automatically think or want to make themselves think, everythings going to be fine, we'll cope, why worry etc because they can't face the reality, its the same with adults but more with children or teenagers because there emotionally maturing aswell.

I don't know how old you are now and I havn't read your other thread yet so I'm advising as a Christian counsellor on just this post OK.

When anything so traumatising happens and is a shock, as in unexpected you are left with emotions. Bereavement is the top of the list. From what you've been through the normal emotions you will have:-

1. Guilt for your fathers death (automatical response but deep down and you won't even know you feel guilty) this isn't because its your fault, its a natural instinct of bereavement.

2. For a time you really go off the rails(again not something you can see you just end up doing things to make you feel better)

3. Anger:- Deep down, pushed away, your angry cos he died.

4. Hurt/Pain:- Emotional rememberance of the time, again you've tried to hide.

5.

Hi there, I'm the one who wrote the "massage" thread.

6. Negativeness:- You feel nothings going to be rightanymore so you become negative.

7. Wanting to rip yourself apart and start again, you feel a failure and feel this will clean you.

ANSWERS:-

Wether you like it or not these are all your emotions, if your entry point is through this bereavement.

You can understand and say you think alot about God but HAVE YOU FORGIVEN GOD, because although he didn't cause this death, you are continuing to blame him deep down.

You have to mean what you say and follow the rest through. You can't do the rest without forgiving God and possibly your Dad too. From this one thing, you then ask the Lord to help you trust properly, How can you trust someone youve not forgiven? Then as time goes by each emotion will come up. Then give it to God, lay it at his feet, do not take it back leave it with him, ask to be blessed by the Holy Spirit, if you begin to struggle speak and ask your pastor/minister to pray with you. Like I said its not an overnight thing but its a blessing everytime one of those emotions goes. You may cry, sob, get angry, but thats God working, don't be embarressed. If you need me again just PM me.

Im-revived
First, I'm glad I found this forum, it's great!

I understand that God will take all our worries away from us if we let Him. However, I have a low anxiety issue where I constantly worry about the 'what if" in life.
Even though everything may be going great in my life (which it is), I still dwell on something that may be bad. These things I dwell on pop in my head when I realize how good things are, I quickly remind myself that things could change for the worse. Thing is, the things I worry about are out of my control and when I share the worries with others, they are not really worth thinking about.

I want to know how to put ALL my trust in God,
I want Him to take away my fears and worries.

I think it started when I was a teen and my dad died instantly without warning. On the way to the hospital I thought, of course everything will be ok. Well, I learned that things don't always turn out well. This scares me cause my world changed forever from that day on. I've moved on but the shock of the unexpected may have made it's way into other parts of my life.

How do I get over this? I really don't want therapy. It's not that big a deal but enough that it keeps me from feeling the innocence and care free feeling I had when I was a child. I know that God can help me achieve this but how do I get started?

I regret all the sin I committed and feel so ashamed. I am so remorseful and want to be reborn and put it all behind me. I'm a good person, I know I am, but lately I've given in to temptation and let myself down. I am carrying around these negative feelings and wish I could tear off this skin and start over.

Can anyone offer some tips? Encouragement would be great.

 

[qh93536]

Hi there, I'm the one who wrote the "massage" thread.
First, I'm glad I found this forum, it's great!

I understand that God will take all our worries away from us if we let Him. However, I have a low anxiety issue where I constantly worry about the 'what if" in life.
Even though everything may be going great in my life (which it is), I still dwell on something that may be bad. These things I dwell on pop in my head when I realize how good things are, I quickly remind myself that things could change for the worse. Thing is, the things I worry about are out of my control and when I share the worries with others, they are not really worth thinking about.

I want to know how to put ALL my trust in God,
I want Him to take away my fears and worries.

I think it started when I was a teen and my dad died instantly without warning. On the way to the hospital I thought, of course everything will be ok. Well, I learned that things don't always turn out well. This scares me cause my world changed forever from that day on. I've moved on but the shock of the unexpected may have made it's way into other parts of my life.

How do I get over this? I really don't want therapy. It's not that big a deal but enough that it keeps me from feeling the innocence and care free feeling I had when I was a child. I know that God can help me achieve this but how do I get started?

I regret all the sin I committed and feel so ashamed. I am so remorseful and want to be reborn and put it all behind me. I'm a good person, I know I am, but lately I've given in to temptation and let myself down. I am carrying around these negative feelings and wish I could tear off this skin and start over.

Can anyone offer some tips? Encouragement would be great.

You are right on track. For some people, God will have to put them in the "wilderness", where they will have to depend on Him for their survival. At that point, they have no choice but to trust Him, for it is their only hope.
That is what happened to me. If you can learn how to trust Him without going through that, then you will save yourself some misery and heartache.

Please say this prayer. Think about what you are saying and believe it in your heart. This will help you solidify your faith and trust.

Most Heavenly Father, I give myself to you 100%, mind, body and soul, for your holy use. I commit this day to live my life, to be a blessing to you at all times.
I make your needs and priorities, my needs and priorities. I love you with a true, unrestricted love. That means that I place you at the top and make you number one in my life over EVERYTHING else. It means that I commit to be completely obedient to what I know to be your will for me. It means that I trust you implicitly with my very life, I place myself in your hands. It means that I have complete faith in your desire and ability to meet my every need.

On this day I become your loving child and accept you as my loving father. Please fill me with your spirit and let your will be known to me. Sweet Father, I make it my hearts desire to give you joy every hour of every day. I invite you to spend your day with me and be my constant companion. That is what will fill my heart with joy. Father, from this day forward, I am yours and you are mine. Please speak to me throughout the day that I can become more like you. I thank you for making me a member of your loving family. I pray this in The Name of Jesus, AMEN!

Now, live for Him. I mean REALLY live for Him.

As you go about your daily tasks, talk to Him often. He wants to share your life. Just talk to him like he is next to you, you don't need to pray to him in order to speak to him. Every time you think about him, tell him that you love him. Whenever you see an opportunity to bless him, grab it. It is worth more than gold.

If you believe and follow this prayer, it will bring peace and joy to your life, and by accepting him as your loving father, it will instill trust in your soul. He does not want to hurt you or your family. Sometimes, bad things just happen that God neither prevents or allows. They just happen. The good news is that when you give yourself to him and live for him, not only will he protect you and your family, but it will open the door so that he can bless you.

 

[RomanPrincess]

Hi there, I'm the one who wrote the "massage" thread.
First, I'm glad I found this forum, it's great!

I understand that God will take all our worries away from us if we let Him. However, I have a low anxiety issue where I constantly worry about the 'what if" in life.
Even though everything may be going great in my life (which it is), I still dwell on something that may be bad. These things I dwell on pop in my head when I realize how good things are, I quickly remind myself that things could change for the worse. Thing is, the things I worry about are out of my control and when I share the worries with others, they are not really worth thinking about.

I want to know how to put ALL my trust in God,
I want Him to take away my fears and worries.

I think it started when I was a teen and my dad died instantly without warning. On the way to the hospital I thought, of course everything will be ok. Well, I learned that things don't always turn out well. This scares me cause my world changed forever from that day on. I've moved on but the shock of the unexpected may have made it's way into other parts of my life.

How do I get over this? I really don't want therapy. It's not that big a deal but enough that it keeps me from feeling the innocence and care free feeling I had when I was a child. I know that God can help me achieve this but how do I get started?

I regret all the sin I committed and feel so ashamed. I am so remorseful and want to be reborn and put it all behind me. I'm a good person, I know I am, but lately I've given in to temptation and let myself down. I am carrying around these negative feelings and wish I could tear off this skin and start over.

Can anyone offer some tips? Encouragement would be great.

if you have repeanted and asked for forgiveness then you are forgiven.God has wiped your account clean and no longer holds old sins against you so why do you??
Let all that be gone in the past....stop worrying, don't worry.

Stay in Gods word...read it, hear it ...live it.

God Bless

 

[espen]

The way I deal with worrying is to take comfort in Gods words. Here are some words from Matthew that deals with worrying:

6:25 “Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink, or about your body, what you will wear.
Isn’t there more to life than food and more to the body than clothing?
6:26 Look at the birds in the sky: They do not sow, or reap, or gather into barns, yet your heavenly Father feeds them.
Aren’t you more valuable than they are?
6:27 And which of you by worrying can add even one hour to his life?
6:28 Why do you worry about clothing? Think about how the flowers of the field grow; they do not work or spin.
6:29 Yet I tell you that not even Solomon in all his glory was clothed like one of these!
6:30 And if this is how God clothes the wild grass, which is here today and tomorrow is tossed into
the fire to heat the oven, won’t he clothe you even more, you people of little faith?
6:31 So then, don’t worry saying, ‘What will we eat?’ or ‘What will we drink?’ or ‘What will we wear?’
6:32 For the unconverted pursue these things, and your heavenly Father knows that you need them.
6:33 But above all pursue his kingdom and righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well.
6:34 So then, do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Today has enough trouble of its own.

These words are a reassurance from God that if we seek his kingdom and his righteousness he will take care of all our needs.

I know it can be hard at times but we just need to put our faith in God and trust that his words are true.

 

[Anti Existance]

25`So, I tell you this. Do not be troubled about what you will eat or drink to keep alive. Do not be troubled about what you will wear on your body. Life itself is worth more than food, and the body is worth more than clothes.
26`Look at the birds that fly in the air. They do not plant or cut or keep any food. Yet your Father in heaven feeds them. Are you not worth more than birds?
27Can any one of you live any longer by troubling yourself about these things?
28And why are you troubled about clothes? See how the flowers grow in the fields. They do not work or make cloth.
29I tell you, King Solomon was a great man. But he was not dressed as fine as one of these flowers.
30God dresses the grass in the fields so it looks nice. It is in the field one day and the next day it is put on the fire. If God dresses the grass like that, he cares much more that you have clothes to wear. You do not believe in God very much!
31`So then, do not keep asking, "What shall we eat?" "What shall we drink?" and "What shall we wear?"
32It is the people who do not believe in God who work for all these things. Your Father in heaven knows that you need them all.
33`Work first for God's kingdom and what he calls good. Then you will have all these things also. 34`So do not be troubling yourself about tomorrow. Tomorrow will have its own trouble. Today's trouble is enough for today.'

Jesus tells us not to worry, because all our worries can't even add one day extra to our lives. Besides, do worries bring you happyness? Worrying about things in life is senseless, for life is like sand that will slip from your hands anway. Your job,your house, your car, your money you will lose it all when you die, so why worry about things like this? Only LOVE is forever, and experience we can take beyond the grave. So focus on loving and helping people, when we put our lives like that in Gods hands we truelly do not have to worry.

 

[godsgirl4ever]

i used to worry alot. But when i read this part in the bible called Do Not Worry then i stopped.

 

[VioletAngel]

Oh I am a born worrier too, and if there are not enough things to worry about, then I make some up! The best remedy for worrying too much is to read the Bible. Anti Existence has some great Bible verses to start with.