How to stop her from hurting me?

[Eleana]

There is this colleague of mine who is also a christian...she has been making my life in school very very difficult. I don't want to judge her or say bad things about her...just that she always take away my precious Sundays and rest days to go back to school to take her shift -- carrying out activities for students.

We are teachers and from the same batch, so that doesnt make her any senior than me. But she always throw her weight around me and make me come back to school even on sundays. I told her I need to go church but she always reply to me that she has to go too, so some one must sacrifice....God will understand. She always throw temper at me if i refuse to come back....I tried to be nice to her, talk to her nicely, but that make her think that I am inferior to her (she told other colleagues that I dont have a degree therefore i surely MUST feel inferior).

I am very sad....how can someone claim she is a christian and do things like that to another fellow christian? How am I going to stop her from hurting me?

 

[IKTCA]

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[Eleana]

thanks.

Just wondering is it a false impression we always give to ppl when we are trying to be meek and gentle. Ppl always think i am inferior to them if I put my words gently and trying to be humble.

 

[JillLars]

My advice to you would be to simply ignore her temper tantrums, if you are not required to be there on sunday's, and you have things to do, then you shouldn't go in. If she does have a problem with it, she can talk to your superior, who I'm sure will agree that you can't be forced to work sundays. It sounds like this person will do whatever she wants to get her way, and sometimes you just can't be nice to people like that, you have to do what you want, and ignore her requests. Tell her that you can't come in, and then don't come in. Every time you say you can't come and then show up only encourages her to pressure you again next time. Stand your ground and don't let this person take advantage of you anymore.

 

[IKTCA]

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[pmarquette]

There is this colleague of mine who is also a christian...she has been making my life in school very very difficult. I don't want to judge her or say bad things about her...just that she always take away my precious Sundays and rest days to go back to school to take her shift -- carrying out activities for students.

I am very sad....how can someone claim she is a christian and do things like that to another fellow christian? How am I going to stop her from hurting me?

don't understand the problem ?
Are you driving ? Does she have a vehicle ? Why should you go back if
your services are not required till later ?
could you not say :
If you wish to go back , you drive your own self , be blessed ....
I will return later ....

 

[endure]

you said

she always take away my precious Sundays and rest days to go back to school to take her shift -- carrying out activities for students...I told her I need to go church but she always reply to me that she has to go too, so some one must sacrifice....God will understand.

well if its her shift, her job, her calling, shes the one that needs to sacrifice to fullfill her purpose, not you. thats why its not your job.

it really isnt about God understanding, shes using you.

its not something she cant deal with without you, she needs to pray, be firm, whatever and deal with her problems herself, there are ways for her to go to church without having to sacrifice yourself so that she can do this.
shed find a way if it really mattered to her, and if you really mattered to her.

shes using you.
just say no you cant doit.
like another person said, just ignore her fits, shes being childesh and very selfish.
God doesnt always give you enough to take care of you and everyone else, sometimes you need to take care of yourself and pray and trust in the Lord to take care of everyone else. they have relationships with God too, it isnt up to you to seek the Lord for them or watch over them.
and if they mess up or fail or fall, its between them and God. thats not being selfish, but when they stand before God they will be standing there and not you... becuase God gave THEM everything they need that pertians to life and Godliness, this person doesnt need you to sacrifice your own relationship with Jesus to help her.

you just have to say
"look, i love you, but i cant do this for you and i wont."
you have to take care of you, before you can take care of anyone else.
thats why we see several times of Jesus and others AWAY from the multitudes...there are times when you have to shut the ministry and helping other people off so you can get away and be fed yourself, in order to keep yourself healthy.
becuase if you arent where you need to be, youll do no good to others.
she shouldnt be willing to allow your life and health to die, for hers.

shes being selfish, whats right or wrong isnt her concern.

i remember a great pastor once saying that at church, hes the pastor and the sheperd but at home, he turns it off becuase it would destroy him to be constantly giving out of himself till he was empty.
we have to have our own times to go and be refilled.

recognising a fault in others isnt being judgemental, its knowing the truth.
you dont mock it, you dont make fun of it, and you dont exploit it, but you cant allow it to destroy you either.

i remember when abraham said "stay behind with the asses" and went on up the mountain with his son...
he wasnt mocking them, looking down on them, but there are times when you just have to move on with your life in order to save yourself and fullfill your own calling and do what God has called you to do.
it isnt leaving them to die, God can make a way for them too, if they will seek him.

if she gets angry its becuase shes selfish wants to use you, not becuase you did something wrong.
just leave her to God, pray for her, but sometimes thats all you can do.
you gotta reach out, but God never asked you to take care of anyone else except for your own family or children etc, thats his job and he does it very well.
everyone reaches a place when their failures become their own responsibility.
its growing up.

 

[endure]

how to stop her from hurting you
well love yourself enough to protect yourself from her.
say no and leave, your protecting yourself, not neglecting her. shell be just fine.

 

[seangoh]

There is this colleague of mine who is also a christian...she has been making my life in school very very difficult. I don't want to judge her or say bad things about her...just that she always take away my precious Sundays and rest days to go back to school to take her shift -- carrying out activities for students.

I've never heard of teachers going back to school on sundays. Moreover it's the holidays now. But i guess you are referring to activities for students in the holidays?

But anyway, you've gotta accept that some people are not really behaving in a christlike way. Take it in your stride because it's part of life. I've also met a christian whom i teamed up with for a project and the way he treated me was quite bad too and yet i knew that he was active in church. And i couldn't understand what got into him.lol. But i just take it that people are people, they are not you who is meek and gentle like a butterfly. Perhaps you can even use this opportunity to strengthen your patience and other areas because maybe God wants you to go through it as He knows that next time you'll meet more difficult people, so you need to pick up this "skill" early.

James 1:2-4 "Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Perseverance must finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything"

As for going to church, try asking her about happenings in her own church. And maybe you can say "oh i wish i could attend church too."