How do you show true love? I love my girlfriend (Marissa) so very much. What can I do to show it? I feel so insignificant. I feel like I could kiss her and hold her in my arms for all of eternity...and I would still feel insignificant. I feel like I could die in a self sacrifice for her a hundred thousand times over...and I would still feel selfish. I never thought love could actually be a burden. I mean that in a very good way. I just thought that love was supposed to be a freedom. I feel so heavy with it...it is weighing me down. I wish I could get rid of it...give it off...lighten my load. I feel like I have so much love that I dont know what to do with it. How do you show true love? How do I get rid of this feeling? How do I become content with the way I show my love for Marissa?
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How to show true love
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pray with her...glorify the lord with her..remain godly in your relationship.....its the most loving thing you can do for her 
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KristianJ
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To me, the truest love is that of God...and sadly because we by nature are a sinful people it is impossible to show love as God shows it to us. The "best" way to show how much you love Marissa is dependent on how you feel about her, and how you express those feelings in what you do. Just let God show you how you can be a godly boyfriend, and let His plan for your life dictate the way you show your love for Marissa - be it spoken, written or through actions.Daniel_Standish said:
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"Oh, that's a relief. I thought it would be something worse!" - Daniel
"Worse than the total agony of being in love?" - Sam
"Agony... well yes there is that" - Daniel
(Love Actually)
I know how you feel. I feel that way about my boyfriend too. And it makes me realise that whatever I do to express it will pale in comparison to what God did for me. And that just makes me fall down in thankfulness to God.
"Worse than the total agony of being in love?" - Sam
"Agony... well yes there is that" - Daniel
(Love Actually)
I know how you feel. I feel that way about my boyfriend too. And it makes me realise that whatever I do to express it will pale in comparison to what God did for me. And that just makes me fall down in thankfulness to God.
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jenptcfan
My cup runneth over
Read The Five Love Languages (Gary Smalley) and figure out what her love language is. Different people perceive love in different ways. She might feel loved when you tell her your love her, or she might feel loved when you do something special for her, etc.
Really try to figure out what things you can do to make her feel special, then make it a point to do those things regularly.
Really try to figure out what things you can do to make her feel special, then make it a point to do those things regularly.
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Pope Gonzo
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Have you held her in your arms while she's having her period and she's been crying for the past hour about nothing that really matters, then gets angry at you for not saying the right thing even though it doesn't really matter, then cries some more about getting angry at you for it, then cries because she feels silly to cry about it?
It's one thing to feel emotions for someone when you're holding her in your arms, and it's entirely different(and far, far more rewarding) when you choose to love her, even though you're both angry at each other and neither of you wants to love or be loved. Choose to love in the hard times, and that will reflect a true, Godly love.
It's one thing to feel emotions for someone when you're holding her in your arms, and it's entirely different(and far, far more rewarding) when you choose to love her, even though you're both angry at each other and neither of you wants to love or be loved. Choose to love in the hard times, and that will reflect a true, Godly love.
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How do you show true love? That is a very good question, and you have already received some very good answers. For your situation I do not have the answers, but I do know what my boyfriend did to make me feel his true love. He took control of my spiritual walk. He took upon himself to lead me and hold me accountable to growing closer to God. I believe that this will be his role if I do marry him one day (to be the spiritual leader of his home), and for him to show me that he would be responsible for it now is incredible to me.
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goat37
Skeet, skeet!
True love, in my opinion, cannot be shown through a single action... or a collection of poems and songs... True love is the way you live your life with that person. It's all of the little things, all of the big things... loving that person through the great times, and using the love you have for that person to make it through the hard times.
True love is unselfish and never wanes... True love would cause me to give my life for that person to protect them, without thinking twice.
I think the best part about TRUE love, is that while you may never succeed at fully showing that person just how much you love them, you love trying.
True love is unselfish and never wanes... True love would cause me to give my life for that person to protect them, without thinking twice.
I think the best part about TRUE love, is that while you may never succeed at fully showing that person just how much you love them, you love trying.
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Sascha Fitzpatrick
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How do I know when Brad shows me love?
When he deliberately does the things I love, even though it isn't HIS particular love language...
1) When he and I are watching DVDs, and will grab me in both arms and just hold me tight, nuzzling my neck, whispering stuff like 'hello beautiful one' and just holds me in his arms for ages afterwards, saying nothing.
2) When I'm cooking dinner, and he comes through and tells me he knows I've put heaps of work in to make it special, and that I don't need to do that in order to have him love me - he loves me anyway! (then goes and makes dessert)...
3) When he gives up a day with mates to go driving with me to watch a sunrise/sunset
4) When I overhear him say stuff like 'Sasch and I did this last weekend - oh it was so nice' - knowing I'm a part of his everyday conversations now.
Basically, what shows me true love is stuff that shows me I am an important part of his life now.
Plus - there is nothing that beats him just holding me and telling me he loves me - I am a sucker for a big hug that lasts forever...
Sasch
ps. Maybe you could look at what is important to her - ie. if she hasn't had many cuddles from her dad (aka me), she may be someone who likes a snuggle every now and then - with no sexual thoughts behind it.
pps. She might like massages - I do! I love it when Brad comes and tells me to lie down and gives me an amazing back rub.
When he deliberately does the things I love, even though it isn't HIS particular love language...
1) When he and I are watching DVDs, and will grab me in both arms and just hold me tight, nuzzling my neck, whispering stuff like 'hello beautiful one' and just holds me in his arms for ages afterwards, saying nothing.
2) When I'm cooking dinner, and he comes through and tells me he knows I've put heaps of work in to make it special, and that I don't need to do that in order to have him love me - he loves me anyway! (then goes and makes dessert)...
3) When he gives up a day with mates to go driving with me to watch a sunrise/sunset
4) When I overhear him say stuff like 'Sasch and I did this last weekend - oh it was so nice' - knowing I'm a part of his everyday conversations now.
Basically, what shows me true love is stuff that shows me I am an important part of his life now.
Plus - there is nothing that beats him just holding me and telling me he loves me - I am a sucker for a big hug that lasts forever...
Sasch
ps. Maybe you could look at what is important to her - ie. if she hasn't had many cuddles from her dad (aka me), she may be someone who likes a snuggle every now and then - with no sexual thoughts behind it.
pps. She might like massages - I do! I love it when Brad comes and tells me to lie down and gives me an amazing back rub.
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I still have my problems. I still falter...and sin. I still fall short of the glory of God...I always will. Jesus is more of a friend to me...than a king. He is more like my brother...than my father. I dont know how to explain it. Jesus = Love. That's all I can say.
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I hold her in my arms. We talk about anything and everything together. We trust each other with our lives. We do not keep anything secret from each other. In fact, I have given her this website, and she comes here and reads all my threads every day. I have nothing to hide from her. I think it is good that she know what I am thinking and how I feel. She understands me on a level I can't comprehend...it seems that we are practically the same person. We both think exactly alike. We both want the same things, do the same things, like the same things...it's crazy. I love her so much...I just wish there was a way I could show it more than how I have been showing it lately. I just dont know what to do anymore.
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goat37
Skeet, skeet!
I do know what it is like to be in love, and I am right now with the most amazing woman I've ever met... but one thing I thought I should say that hopefully you'll realize...
Sometimes less is more... I know all you want to do is show her your love and affection with every breath you take, but you've got your entire life ahead of you to show her... and believe me, you'll want it to mean something special EVERY time you tell her that you love her. So instead of trying to pack as much as you can into every second of every day and saying "I love you" 10,000 times... maybe try to build up the moments that you do tell her so that they are even more romantic and special.
Early stages in relationships are great where it's ALL about each other and nothing else... but I've never seen a relationship that can sustain that pace. And believe me, the last thing you'll ever want to do is burn yourself out on telling her how much you care...
Do you remember how you felt the first time you told her that you loved her? Those butterflies in your stomach, that kind of cloudy feeling in your head... and remember the first time you heard her tell you that she loved you? How it felt like it just melted you... Sooner or later that feeling will subside if you abuse it, because it will become a routine and just something that you do because you are so used to doing it. And while everyone needs to know their loved everyday, you want them to know it came from your heart and not just out of habit.
Sometimes less is more... I know all you want to do is show her your love and affection with every breath you take, but you've got your entire life ahead of you to show her... and believe me, you'll want it to mean something special EVERY time you tell her that you love her. So instead of trying to pack as much as you can into every second of every day and saying "I love you" 10,000 times... maybe try to build up the moments that you do tell her so that they are even more romantic and special.
Early stages in relationships are great where it's ALL about each other and nothing else... but I've never seen a relationship that can sustain that pace. And believe me, the last thing you'll ever want to do is burn yourself out on telling her how much you care...
Do you remember how you felt the first time you told her that you loved her? Those butterflies in your stomach, that kind of cloudy feeling in your head... and remember the first time you heard her tell you that she loved you? How it felt like it just melted you... Sooner or later that feeling will subside if you abuse it, because it will become a routine and just something that you do because you are so used to doing it. And while everyone needs to know their loved everyday, you want them to know it came from your heart and not just out of habit.
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wow...excellent point! Thank you very much for that pointer...I will definately take that into account...definately! Thank you all so much for all your help!
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Pope Gonzo
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Another good way to show love is to hold strong during the most often rough transition from puppy love to everyday love.
Not taking action at the wrong times speaks just as much for love as taking action as much as possible during the right times.
For me, I'd say by far the most loving thing I've done for Steph is when I've had to swallow hard and back down... even when I was absolutely sure I was in the right. I'm a very proud person, and I can be very stubborn, especially when I'm convinced I'm right, so backing down is difficult for me.
Not taking action at the wrong times speaks just as much for love as taking action as much as possible during the right times.
For me, I'd say by far the most loving thing I've done for Steph is when I've had to swallow hard and back down... even when I was absolutely sure I was in the right. I'm a very proud person, and I can be very stubborn, especially when I'm convinced I'm right, so backing down is difficult for me.
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Listen to her, be interested in her life and opinions, respect her, get to know her friends, give her lots of hugs and love her as christ loves the church...tell her you love her, and mean it.
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