How to react? How will you react?

[Intrepid99]

Anyway, As the school started, I want to ask something regarding being among non-believers and brats.
I have been hearning a lot of swearing and cursing in school among students. They sit right beside me and swear others in really brutal way. I don't know how I must respond to that and stop them do it. I just prayed for them and remained silent when they were swearing others. I thought, if they were swearing me, I could respond with love and not by swearing again. And if, they were swearing someone who is good and not swearing back to them, I can go and talk to the swearning person about their acts.
I want to know how to react or if not to react at all when people are swearing back and forth.
Secondly, when they are spearing rumors and gossiping really squalid about others.
Thank You,
Ram

 

[white dove]

Anyway, As the school started, I want to ask something regarding being among non-believers and brats.
I have been hearning a lot of swearing and cursing in school among students. They sit right beside me and swear others in really brutal way. I don't know how I must respond to that and stop them do it. I just prayed for them and remained silent when they were swearing others. I thought, if they were swearing me, I could respond with love and not by swearing again. And if, they were swearing someone who is good and not swearing back to them, I can go and talk to the swearning person about their acts.
I want to know how to react or if not to react at all when people are swearing back and forth.
Secondly, when they are spearing rumors and gossiping really squalid about others.
Thank You,
Ram

Aww man..my heart goes out to you, brother what a great role model you have been so far, though It is just so disheartening to hear such nasty talk being spoken from the lips of anyone, muchless children who are just sooo young *sad*(not the kids you are talking about per se, but in general) Anyhow, by you not cursing along with these kids, your refusal to partake in that kind of talk aides you in such a huge way; by you not following along w/ that kinda behavior, you show that you are indeed different in a really really good way I, too, deal with the same general things you do, but I most often deal with it in the workforce and lemme tell ya, this kinda thing does not go away...it exists everywhere; so by you asking now, it better prepares you for future confrontations
anyway, as far as whether or not you should confront ppl directly and suggesting that they stop what they are doing: cursing ppl out, spreading rumors & unhealthy talk, etc...
I feel that there are indeed times to voice ourselves when there is something going on that we know in our hearts is wrong. God gave us a spirit of power, not timidity. If you'd like, you might want to look up Titus 3 1-11, 2Timothy 2:23-26 & 2Timothy 1:7 for further encouragment..
Just prayerfully take it to God and let the Spirit of peace speak through you during those testing times with ppl..and He will also let you know when is the time to be silent...

again, it says alot about you to even ask how to deal with this issue..God bless you, peacemaker!!

 

[Intrepid99]

Thank you very much for such encouraging words. So you suggest that I don't be silent and show the swearers their mistakes and immoral acts even if they are not swearing to me?

 

[WeakButHopeful]

Just a small point (and many would disagree with me but take this for what it's worth). There are all different levels of "swearing" (some say "cursing").

There are vulgarisms, basically sex or toilet words used for emphasis. There are violent or antagonistic phrases used to show you are angry about something, or to show prejudice towards someone (like racial or cultural slurs). And then there's profanity, using God's name in vain or combining his name with vulgarisms.

Personally, I think vulgarisms are questionable, and make you look uneducated or coarse, but it's never been clear to me that Jesus would have a big problem with them. He hung out with fishermen! I recall Him being angry with their back biting or their ignorant attitudes, but I don't recall Him (in the Bible) saying anything about their language.

Racial slurs, threatening language or language that makes a woman appear only as a sex object would clearly not be in any spirit of love, and I am sure that Jesus would be very unhappy with it, but I think he would expect you to be loving in your explanation of why you object to it, because that is always our responsibility as Christians.

Profanity against God's name is (in my mind) the worst, because all good things come from God, and to slander His name is to show one's lack of regard (or understanding) for all the good in the world. Still, just as God loved the sinful world so much that He gave his only Son to save it, I think we still need to be loving in our defense of His name...but defend it we should.

My opinion, for what it's worth.

 

[white dove]

Still, just as God loved the sinful world so much that He gave his only Son to save it, I think we still need to be loving in our defense of His name...but defend it we should.

EXACTLY!!

 

[Intrepid99]

cool

 

[white dove]

Soooo what happened, intrepid ??

 

[korry]

i hafta put up with exactly the same thing at school, a few years ago i was thge same. I didn't seem to see anything wrong with it. Till i read i think it was Col 3:8, and i decided to stop. It was hard at first but now its all good.

I think the best thing to do is to pray about it. And if you get the chance, explain to your friends that there really isn't any need for swearing, and that no good really comes outta it. If they're Christians, maybe you can direct them to some Bible verses.

 

[kuntrygurl_26]

I just recently graduated high school and my school wasnt very big. It had maybe 400 kids in it from prek-12th grade. Out of 400 people I was always the only pentecostal in the whole school. Althought there were kids the cursed in the school, they knew what I stood for in my beliefs and most of them wouldnt curse around me and if they did they would apologize. I never said anything when they cursed around me, i just let God convict them because he can do a way better job than i ever could. So just hang in there and know that God is with you and he hears all things

anna