How to overcome depression?

[esther22]

Hi dear people, i need help, i am suffering from depression, in the last year my boyfriend left me, my hairdresser completly burned my hair, that was realy long and beautifull, i had severe car accidnet and i destoyed my friends car,now i have to pay it to him, i hit in a wan and injured a man and my self, my nose was completly crushed..., i lost my job, and now i cant get out of depression, i feel like i am in a pit and cannot get out...i am a beliver but i cannot even go to church cause i have bitternes in my hearth towards God, all i see in church is my happy blessed friends that are getting married, getting babies having really blessed lives, and i dont have strenght to get out of my bed...no one understands me, and doesnt want to bother with me, i started praying to God to take me, i had a hard life before this, really messed up family, but i had hope in God that things will get better, now i lost hope and every day is suffering -how to get up?

 

[NumberOfStars]

Hi, I'm sorry about the tough things you're going through at the moment. Depression can be really hard to get through, medication and/or counselling can be very helpful though. I'll be praying for you.

 

[knw1991]

esther22, im very sorry you are going through all of this, its a lot and people around you should be willing to be there for you. God has not abandoned you, He will never leave nor forsake you. Your name is written in the palms of His hands. I will be praying that God restores all that was taken from you. I pray that God will send you someone that will love you and who has Christ first in their life, I pray that God will restore your hair, I pray that he will make a way for you to be able to pay back your friend. I pray that you and the man will recover from the injury. I pray that the Lord will bless you with job that you love and where you will be around people that love Him. I know the feeling of feeling like youre in a black hole and not wanting to go to church because everyone around you is happy while youre suffering and it makes you feel like God has turned his back on you.

He hasnt, so dont let the devil tell you those lies. God said He will be with you always even until the end of the age. His love is unconditional and never fails.I will keep you in my prayers. Keep talking to people here on christian forums. Loneliness can make the pain worse. Try finding a counselor or open up to someone at your church that you know will listen to you and be there for you.

 

[esther22]

Thank you for caring and for your prayers, i would really use counseling but we don't have counseling ministry developed in the country where i live, we have really small churches and our pastors are not trained, people arround me actually dont understand what i am going through and they say that God can help me, i should just pray...I live with my mother and she acctually had a really hard life, my father left her, my brother is problematic and i can´t talk with her about my problems cause it is too hard for her, and she is disapointed with me already cause i'm failure in life/no husband, no job, she says that God is punishing me and thats why all the bad things are happening to me.
People i really need a miracle to get me out of this!I wouldnt like to use medication i would like for God to heal me, i just want to be me again!

 

[RuthD]

I'm sorry you have been through so very much. In my life I have had the same experiences. Please pray to Jesus and ask for guidance. I do it and he gives me guidance, a wise inner voice to listen to. Take things at your own pace and try to do something positive every day and pat yourself on the back. You are a good child of God. Praying for you.

 

[LovebirdsFlying]

In my opinion, and I am no professional, sometimes depression isn't something to be suppressed, but something to be experienced. You have gone through an incredible amount of stress, and it seems you have normal feelings in reaction to abnormal situations. I'm sorry you've had to endure all that. Prayers are being said for you, that you will be brought through to the other side of it, and see the daylight after the dark night.

God loves you. It may not feel that way, but He does. Sometimes we may think He is punishing us, but He has already punished Jesus Christ for our sins. Our Lord and Savior took it all on Himself when He died on the cross. The Father marked the debt paid in full, so now there is no need to punish us for whatever our sins may be.

I know what it feels like to think everyone else in church is happy and blessed, while you are still burdened. That may or may not be true. Sometimes people put on a happy face, and appear to have themselves all together, but inside they are struggling too. We cannot judge our insides by someone else's outsides. It could be just a mask. God knows the heart.

And He works through other people to help us bear our burdens. We never have to go through it alone. I'm praying that God points you to someone you can talk to, who will understand and be able to give you counsel.

 

[esther22]

thank you...one of my problems is that before accident i was really beautiful an now my nose is not the same as before, it was completly crushed,and my apperance is driving me crazy...i should save some money to have plastic surgery but acctually i am terrified by the bad experiencess some people had with plastic surgery and they now look even worse and i couldnt stand one more shock in life...i lost all selconfidence cause of my apperance...cause i am not the person i was before...this is cosing me emotional pain and whenewer i want to pray to God all i can say is that i am so angry at Him, cause i remember my life...my father that died of cancer in great pain,it lasted years and it was horrible to look,my mentally ill brother that was harassing me and my mother for years,kicked us out of our appartement, and we lived in poverty, my friends that left me because my faith in Crist,this guy that broke my hearth,my fasting and praying for years and Gods silence,and now my apperance after this accident...i need to reprogram my mind, but sometimes i think is suffering all that God has for me?like i need to kiss the hand that's beating me...i can't sing worship songs cause i dont feel worship...all i feel is anger...and sadness...sometimes i just want God to take me so this pain is over...but then i see that there are people that are going through even harder stuff and overcomming in God, and then i am ashamed...the problem is i am not surronuded with that kind of people but most of my friends are really beautifull, blessed people of God, with nice families, jobs, everything nice so my problem is that i compare with them...and then feel bad...sorry for writting so much but i have nowhere else to say what is in my hearth.

 

[Spiritlight]

Hi there Esther, one of these might help you because each helped me in different times during depression. Also its a great idea to talk to a mental health therapist if you that depressed because it helps a lot.

Your name means star and stars are in the heavens set apart, they shine beautifully and illuminate those around them.

The Beauty Of God

Look at the trees
And what do you see?
The beauty of God.

Look at the flowers
And what do you see?
The beauty of God.

Look at the sky
And what do you see?
The beauty of God.

Now, look in the mirror
And what do you see?

© Charles Johnson

 

[Spiritlight]

Footprints in the sand


One night a man had a dream. He dreamed
he was walking along the beach with the LORD.


Across the sky flashed scenes from his life.
For each scene he noticed two sets of
footprints in the sand: one belonging
to him, and the other to the LORD.



When the last scene of his life flashed before him,
he looked back at the footprints in the sand.


He noticed that many times along the path of
his life there was only one set of footprints.



He also noticed that it happened at the very
lowest and saddest times in his life.


This really bothered him and he
questioned the LORD about it:


"LORD, you said that once I decided to follow
you, you'd walk with me all the way.
But I have noticed that during the most
troublesome times in my life,
there is only one set of footprints.
I don't understand why when
I needed you most you would leave me."


The LORD replied:


"My son, my precious child,
I love you and I would never leave you.
During your times of trial and suffering,
when you see only one set of footprints,
it was then that I carried you."

 

[Spiritlight]

"And God Said No!"

I asked God to take away my pride, and God said "NO".
He said it was not for Him to take away, but for me to give up.

I asked God to make my handicapped child whole, and God said "NO".
He said her spirit is whole, her body is only temporary.

I asked God to grant me patience, and God said "NO".
He said that patience is a by-product of tribulation,
it isn't granted, it's earned.

I asked God to give me happiness, and God said "NO".
He said He gives blessings, happiness is up to me.

I asked God to spare me pain, and God said "NO".
He said suffering draws you apart from worldly cares
and brings yo closer to me.

I asked God to make my spirit grow, and He said "NO".
He said I must grow on my own, but He will prune me to make me fruitful.

I asked God to help me love others as much as He loves me,
And God said "Ah, finally you have the idea"!