How to introduce Christianity to my girlfriend

[-Luca]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

 

[BobRyan]

There is a lot of bad news in the press these days. That is a good place to start with "the God of Heaven has a solution for this"... "He has a plan".

Show her some video testimonies of people that used to be atheist but then converted to be Christian - for example... this next one.

Chinese communist atheist direct encounter with Christ -

An amazing testimony by a former Chinese communist who recently converted to Christianity due to a direct encounter with Christ... truly an amazing testimony.

 

[BobRyan]

here is another one

Must See Amazing Story! Saved from alternate-lifestyle, drugs, suicide, demon worship, and a strict non-Christian faith.

From: Found Rest

You really need to set aside an hour or so to watch this free online feature length Christian movie / biographical account - a gripping testimony about the miracle working power of God reaching out to the lost where no human hand can reach, nor human mind can persuade. You will meet Christians who are now “on fire” for Christ and it comes through loud and clear in their testimony going from tragic utter darkness to the amazing light of Christ.

 

[Maria Billingsley]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

Well, if I may be so honest, if you are exercising chastity, she will know by your actions. However, if you are not then that shipped has sailed. I know because I learned the hard way. Blessings.

 

[Soyeong]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

You are in a difficult position because even if she were to become a Christian, it is hard to know whether her conversion is genuine or whether she is just going along with what you say because she wants to continue to be in a relationship with you, so it is important that she believes because she has been convinced of the truth of Christianity and would continue to be a Christian even if you guys were to break up.

I don't know if this is the case with you, but it can sometimes happen where someone is a Christian just because that is what their parents taught them to believe while they were growing up, any they lack the foundation for having solid reasons to be able to explain why they believe that Christianity is true or explain to others why they should believe. So even if you don't convince your girlfriend of the truth of Christianity, this might be an opportunity that is for your own good to dig deeper and to find solid reasons for why you believe that Christianity is true so that you can be prepared to give a defense for the hope that is within you (1 Peter 3:15).

You also need to be prepared for the possibility what you are going to do if you are unable to pursued her to become a Christian. I would not recommend getting married to someone who is not a Christian because that would be being unequally yoked. You would have different world views that could lead to conflict. However, if you've already decided that you won't get married to someone who is not a Christian, then it is not really fair to her to continue to be in a relationship with her if she does not know that that is a deal breaker. But if she does know that that is a deal breaker for you, then that gives her motivation to go along with what you say just to continue to be in a relationship with you, which is why I said that you are in a difficult position, so the way forward is by putting a strong focus on not just what you believe, but on digging into the truth of why you believe it.

 

[Ligurian]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

Why do you have a girlfriend who's not Christian?

 

[St_Worm2]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

Hello -Luca, I'm gathering that your girlfriend does not have a problem with your Christianity, yes (or is she aware of little more about your faith than what you just told us, IOW, that you are a Christian who prays and reads the Bible)?

Also, it would be helpful to know if she is part of a different faith than Christianity, if she has no faith at all (e.g. humanist, atheist, agnostic, etc), or if she is actually opposed to having a religious faith of any kind(?)

In general, I would look for/pray for additional ways to bring up God/Christianity/your faith (and what God and your faith have meant to you and why/in a practical sense) in the day by day/moment by moment of your relationship with her. IOW, begin to find ways to make God and your faith a normal part of your conversations with her whenever possible.

Also, if you have not begun to do so already, pray for her salvation regularly.

BTW, I believe that learning to ask leading questions (rather than simply giving unbelievers the facts, so to speak) is the best way to witness, because asking such questions will allow the person who you are sharing your faith with to come to their own conclusions (and they feel less "backed into a corner" as a result).

If you're not sure that you know how to do that, this book will help you: Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Plan for Discussing Your Chrisian Convictions by Greg Koukl.

Finally, if you have not been a Christian in BOTH word and deed in your 5-month relationship with your girlfriend, then you need to start to be, for her sake principally, but for yours as well Apologizing for having not been totally upfront with her about how important/integral your faith is to you/your life, for instance, could be a good way to break the ice and get a conversation started

Praying for you!

God bless you!!

--David
p.s. - as @Soyeong has mentioned, you need to consider the fact that she may never come to saving faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, and what you will do if she does not (again, for her sake as well as your own).

Romans 10
17 Faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.

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[d taylor]

I would not start with introducing her to christianity.

I would began with a focus on The Messiah (Jesus) and God's free gift of Eternal Life through faith in The Messiah.

I would use The Gospel of John in this.

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Honestly, leave her be. She will seek more about it from you if she's genuinely ready and interested.

 

[Petros2015]

I want to start introducing Christianity to her

Every Christian
Is an introduction to Christ
If Christ lives in their hearts

 

[wendykvw]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

Have you asked her what she thinks about your faith? Start with where she is at, if she isn’t comfortable with it, I would not push her, if she is open then you can ask her more about what she is comfortable with. Like attending church with you.

 

[Hannah66]

pray for her and introduce her to Christ by your love <3

 

[disciple Clint]

I have been with my girlfriend - who is not a Christian - for 5 months now, and I want to start introducing Christianity to her, but I do not know how to start and I am afraid that I go about it the wrong way. She knows that I am a Christian, and she knows that I pray and read the Bible.

Please can I get some advice?

My thinking would be that it is up to the Holy Spirit to give her the grace to be open to Christianity, so I would just live out my faith and wait for her to start asking you questions about it, let her show that she is open to know more about your faith.

 

[-Luca]

Well, if I may be so honest, if you are exercising chastity, she will know by your actions. However, if you are not then that shipped has sailed. I know because I learned the hard way. Blessings.

Thanks for your comment, but I do not believe things are always so black and white. There is always hope

 

[-Luca]

You are in a difficult position because even if she were to become a Christian, it is hard to know whether her conversion is genuine or whether she is just going along with what you say because she wants to continue to be in a relationship with you, so it is important that she believes because she has been convinced of the truth of Christianity and would continue to be a Christian even if you guys were to break up.

I don't know if this is the case with you, but it can sometimes happen where someone is a Christian just because that is what their parents taught them to believe while they were growing up, any they lack the foundation for having solid reasons to be able to explain why they believe that Christianity is true or explain to others why they should believe. So even if you don't convince your girlfriend of the truth of Christianity, this might be an opportunity that is for your own good to dig deeper and to find solid reasons for why you believe that Christianity is true so that you can be prepared to give a defense for the hope that is within you (1 Peter 3:15).

You also need to be prepared for the possibility what you are going to do if you are unable to pursued her to become a Christian. I would not recommend getting married to someone who is not a Christian because that would be being unequally yoked. You would have different world views that could lead to conflict. However, if you've already decided that you won't get married to someone who is not a Christian, then it is not really fair to her to continue to be in a relationship with her if she does not know that that is a deal breaker. But if she does know that that is a deal breaker for you, then that gives her motivation to go along with what you say just to continue to be in a relationship with you, which is why I said that you are in a difficult position, so the way forward is by putting a strong focus on not just what you believe, but on digging into the truth of why you believe it.

Thank you for your advice. I feel so much conflict right now. To tell you the truth, being with her, my walk with God falters, and it is greatly because she is not a Christian. But I just can't imagine losing her. I don't want to lose her and I feel like I will do whatever it takes to save her. She is my first girlfriend, and as cliche as it sounds, I want her to be my last. We have pre-marital sex so I feel like I am tied to her now.

 

[Joined2krist]

How are you going to lead her to your religion if you are doing the same thing unbelievers are doing?(premarital sex). You will have to first repent, stop doing it, then see how she reacts. You have to be ready to lose her to win Christ. God bless

 

[Maria Billingsley]

Thanks for your comment, but I do not believe things are always so black and white. There is always hope

Understood but I warn you, if you are not in a celibate relationship she will use it against you and possibly call you a hypocrite. I repented. Fornication is one of the most egregious sins towards our Lord. I am only telling you this because it happened to me. I am still with the same person but we are now celibate until marriage.
Blessings

PS: in case you need some scriptural reference.
What Does the Bible Say About Fornication?

 

[-Luca]

Hello -Luca, I'm gathering that your girlfriend does not have a problem with your Christianity, yes (or is she aware of little more about your faith than what you just told us, IOW, that you are a Christian who prays and reads the Bible)?

Also, it would be helpful to know if she is part of a different faith than Christianity, if she has no faith at all (e.g. humanist, atheist, agnostic, etc), or if she is actually opposed to having a religious faith of any kind(?)

In general, I would look for/pray for additional ways to bring up God/Christianity/your faith (and what God and your faith have meant to you and why/in a practical sense) in the day by day/moment by moment of your relationship with her. IOW, begin to find ways to make God and your faith a normal part of your conversations with her whenever possible.

Also, if you have not begun to do so already, pray for her salvation regularly.

BTW, I believe that learning to ask leading questions (rather than simply giving unbelievers the facts, so to speak) is the best way to witness, because asking such questions will allow the person who you are sharing your faith with to come to their own conclusions (and they feel less "backed into a corner" as a result).

If you're not sure that you know how to do that, this book will help you: Tactics, 10th Anniversary Edition: A Plan for Discussing Your Chrisian Convictions by Greg Koukl.

Finally, if you have not been a Christian in BOTH word and deed in your 5-month relationship with your girlfriend, then you need to start to be, for her sake principally, but for yours as well Apologizing for having not been totally upfront with her about how important/integral your faith is to you/your life, for instance, could be a good way to break the ice and get a conversation started

Praying for you!

God bless you!!

--David
p.s. - as @Soyeong has mentioned, you need to consider the fact that she may never come to saving faith in the Lord Jesus Christ, and what you will do if she does not (again, for her sake as well as your own).

Romans 10
17 Faith comes from hearing, and hearing by the word of Christ.

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Thank you for your comment. She doesn't have a problem with me being a Christian. She is Japanese, and religion isn't very big in Japan. I would say she is atheist but she has never thought about the possibility of there being a God. She once said to me that when we get married she would become Christian as well, or something along those lines.

I would say that I have been a Christian in word and deed, and I sometimes bring Christianity up in conversation, for instance, the importance of forgiveness.

 

[-Luca]

How are you going to lead her to your religion if you are doing the same thing unbelievers are doing?(premarital sex). You will have to first repent, stop doing it, then see how she reacts. You have to be ready to lose her to win Christ. God bless

Sure, we engage in pre-marital sex, doesn't mean that I don't behave as a Christian should in other areas, she can see that. She would need to start her Christian journey before I can explain to her that we need to repent

 

[-Luca]

Understood but I warn you, if you are not in a celibate relationship she will use it against you and possibly call you a hypocrite. I repented. Fornication is one of the most egregious sins towards our Lord. I am only telling you this because it happened to me. I am still with the same person but we are now celibate until marriage.
Blessings

PS: in case you need some scriptural reference.
What Does the Bible Say About Fornication?

I do not have the willpower to refrain from pre-marital sex with her especially when she is not a Christian yet. I need to bring her to Christianity first before we can repent. I never brought up pre-marital sex as an issue. However, I did tell her about masturbation and pornography and that I avoid these things because they are ungodly. I never told her about pre-marital sex because I was fearful of how she would react