How to help a Lonely girl?

[CurlyGirl01]

You all know what it's like from one point and time. Everyone goes through this phase of loneliness. In fact, I'm rather lonely myself! But that's not the point.

The point is, I'm trying desperately to help a new shy girl at my school. I'd love to be her friend SO MUCH! I can tell she desperately wants a friend or two and feels left out.

But, there are a few problems. First of all, I'm shy and TERRIBLE at starting conversations! I even tried a few times. Ended in an awkward silence. Also, as I said, she is fairly shy, and I am a little too, so it's rough..

Once we get going on a topic, it's great! But I just can't get a good one going.. Rarely ever!

I've started trying group conversations to get the topic flowing, then braking off and talking to her OR just including her.

The last problem is that I have only one class with her- so the time I have with her has to be well spent.. If I ever want to consider asking her to sit with me at lunch! ( The Ultimate step towards friendship! )

So tell me, you shy girls and guys out there.. How do I approach you? What do I say? When do I ask you to sit with me at lunch without sounding strange?

And what about those girls and guys with super confidence.. What's your secret?

 

[ghag17]

a great thing for having a good friendship is listening to the other person. of course, in order to do this you have to get them talking, so just try to find out her interests, and get her started on those. people love to talk about themselves, some more than others, so if you can figure out what she likes and such, then you can maybe get her to really open up. there will be awkward moments, but don't be afraid of them.
there really isn't a particular point that you need to wait for to ask her if she wants to sit with you at lunch, especially if she doesn't have a lot of friends. just ask her, she'll appreciate the offer, even if she declines. it'll show that you're interested in getting to know her.
the one thing i want to emphasize is listening. sometimes you might feel like something needs to be said, but you don't know what to say. it'll be awkward, but it's ok, because what's more important is that you're willing to listen and you care about what she has to say.

 

[graciesings]

I'm very outgoing, and I just figure that people rarely get mad if I'm nice to them, so why not? Go up and say hello to her, smile, invite her to sit with you. It can't hurt to be nice to someone!