how to handle abuse from family member (moved from ethics and morality)

[DaisyDay]

She needs to know that you will lay your life down for her.
She needs a champion, a hero, a HUSBAND.

If I were in your position, I would walk away from the fruit of the education you acquired at your wifes expense.
I would go back to that point in life and live it the way you should have.
But that's just me, Denise's husband, Denise's hero.

I wonder if you would have reacted the same if the OP hadn't seemingly dissed the blue collar life. You seem to have taken that as a personal affront.

 

[bricklayer]

I thank everyone for your valuable opinions. If this had happened to my wife while staying in a friend's house or a relative,there definitely would have been violence and I would garantee" my wife would have been be safe with me" as it has happened in other situations just as bricklayer mentioned. I don't think education has anything to do with it. would you go and punch your own dad in the face?especially after have been raised as the only child in a family where you had a good childhood, youth,and they did everything for you[25 years] and then all of a sudden to be betrayed by your own father,It is difficult to comprehend,it is not something that you would expect in a normal life.would that make me a hero in front of my wife or my parents? I didnot confront my dad only because of the love and respect I had for my parents. WOuld that make a coward? my father violated a family trust as my wife would be like a daughter to him[in fact that is how he tried to get access to her,claiming to be a father figure]
now I have learnt to hate him. especially now that I have learned that he had some more endeavors with the maids, He has with him the money he had earned and his property worth approx 1 million which makes him a casanova in our country. I have with me enough armory to get back at him mentally and physically. but will that erase all the bad memories that my wife has? Will God exact the revenge on our behalf?

Dear Sir;

You have been on my heart for days. I apologize, for being so gruff.
I am a bricklayer, and not a social worker, for a reason.
I am very often more hurt than help.

Please don't think that I would ever suggest violece toward a parent.
I was suggesting that you walk out, change plans, walk away.

There are temptations faced by those favored among men that I have been spared.
Your father has not. He has faced those temptations and failed.
Jesus was tempted to exact revenge, and He did not fail.

You are now, again, faced with as graet a moment as the one you now lamet.
Do not fail again. Do the self-sacrificing thing. Revenge does not belong to you.

 

[bricklayer]

I wonder if you would have reacted the same if the OP hadn't seemingly dissed the blue collar life. You seem to have taken that as a personal affront.

Not at all.
It could have gone the other way. He could have given up a trade and had to go to school.

What caught my attention was the idea that he had no other options.
That idea, that's the failure right there.

 

[JCFantasy23]

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