How to get a wife

[tonychanyt]

The following are not some good ideas. I actually did them, and it worked out for me.

1. Study hard. Work hard.
2. Save money. Don't indulge yourself except on special occasions.
3. Seek God's kingdom first. Find a home church. Participate in the programs that you enjoy.
4. Keep fit. Exercise regularly. Run a marathon. I ran a few. That was how I tried to deal with the sexual urges: redirection and marathons.
5. I attended church every Sunday morning and evening. I also attended IVCF every Thursday and the Overseas Chinese Christian Association every Friday, as well as other Christian programs, Bible study groups, retreats, outreaches, etc.
6. When did I start dating? When I was 25 years old, I thought I was ready. I had $6,000 (1985 CAD) in my bank account. I thought I could get my PhD degree, no problem. I thought I had the money and the spare time from my work and study. The very first time in my life when I asked a girl out, she said yes I didn't marry this one. A few years later, I met another girl who became my wife. She is the only woman that I have ever kissed.
7. Godly women are attracted to a Christian man like that. Don't chase them, but let them come to you. When a woman shows interest in you, take the initiative and ask her out if you are interested in her.
8. How important is a woman's virginity? It was a must for me, but it is up to you. Lady Diana was a virgin when she married. But then, she had an affair with the art dealer Oliver Hoare while being the husband of Prince Charles.
9. How important is physical attraction? That depends on you. It was quite important for me, and I had a minimum requirement. It was a necessary condition but not sufficient. I was lucky. I ended up marrying the most beautiful girl that I had ever laid my eyes on.
10. I didn't go out with a girl that I had no intention of marrying. Still, it is best to treat your Christian dates as sisters in Christ. This also means I was never interested in more than one girl simultaneously. By the way, I had never initiated dumping a girl either.
11. Pray that you will marry the one who loves God and you the most. Pray regularly that God's will be done, overriding your own liking of women. Prayed particularly intensely before you ask a woman to marry you. I was 31.5 years old, a virgin, marrying another virgin.

Can you advise me on how to get to know my potential wife more deeply and intimately without living together first?

Sorry, I cannot. For that, I relied on God's guidance. See the last item above. I would not go out with a woman who was not a virgin.

 

[Diamond72]

Don't chase them, but let them come to you.

Chances are if you let women chase after you then you will end up with an aggressive women who wants to run the show.

 

[exitstageright]

The following are not some good ideas. I actually did them, and it worked out for me.

1. Study hard. Work hard.
2. Save money. Don't indulge yourself except on special occasions.
3. Seek God's kingdom first. Find a home church. Participate in the programs that you enjoy.
4. Keep fit. Exercise regularly. Run a marathon. I ran a few. That was how I tried to deal with the sexual urges: redirection and marathons.
5. I attended church every Sunday morning and evening. I also attended IVCF every Thursday and the Overseas Chinese Christian Association every Friday, as well as other Christian programs, Bible study groups, retreats, outreaches, etc.
6. When did I start dating? When I was 25 years old, I thought I was ready. I had $6,000 (1985 CAD) in my bank account. I thought I could get my PhD degree, no problem. I thought I had the money and the spare time from my work and study. The very first time in my life when I asked a girl out, she said yes I didn't marry this one. A few years later, I met another girl who became my wife. She is the only woman that I have ever kissed.
7. Godly women are attracted to a Christian man like that. Don't chase them, but let them come to you. When a woman shows interest in you, take the initiative and ask her out if you are interested in her.
8. How important is a woman's virginity? It was a must for me, but it is up to you. Lady Diana was a virgin when she married. But then, she had an affair with the art dealer Oliver Hoare while being the husband of Prince Charles.
9. How important is physical attraction? That depends on you. It was quite important for me, and I had a minimum requirement. It was a necessary condition but not sufficient. I was lucky. I ended up marrying the most beautiful girl that I had ever laid my eyes on.
10. I didn't go out with a girl that I had no intention of marrying. Still, it is best to treat your Christian dates as sisters in Christ. This also means I was never interested in more than one girl simultaneously. By the way, I had never initiated dumping a girl either.
11. Pray that you will marry the one who loves God and you the most. Pray regularly that God's will be done, overriding your own liking of women. Prayed particularly intensely before you ask a woman to marry you. I was 31.5 years old, a virgin, marrying another virgin.

Can you advise me on how to get to know my potential wife more deeply and intimately without living together first?

Sorry, I cannot. For that, I relied on God's guidance. See the last item above. I would not go out with a woman who was not a virgin.

But,it is hard to find an adult woman in the State of California who is a virgin.

 

[tonychanyt]

But,it is hard to find an adult woman in the State of California who is a virgin.

Attend more different Christian groups to cast a wider net

 

[Diamond72]

Godly women are attracted to a Christian man like that. Don't chase them, but let them come to you.

I do not like rejection so I let women show interest in me first. But you can get some aggressive women that way and this may not be the best advice to give people. There were lots of Godly women who wanted to get to know me. But when they found out I was divorced and a single parent for the most part none of them wanted a second hand husband and none of them wanted to get involved with another women's child.

So I went to a third world nation where they had the additional incentive to get a green card in American. Like I told you before my wife worked for 9 years in Hong Kong. That was actually where I went to marry her. There were lots of women there that wanted a husband so they could go to American. My wife did arrange at least 5 or 6 marriages. She found her sister a husband and her best friend. The years are passing though and the husband and her best friend have gone onto their reward.

It works out well. They get a better quality husband and he gets a better quality of wife. Esp the kids are healthy and intelligent.

 

[exitstageright]

Attend more different Christian groups to cast a wider net

Good advice!