How to get a girlfriend when you have problems?

[pantingdeer]

Do you have any access to counseling? An understanding counselor can help you clarify your issues.

I don’t get anything out of counselling. I used to get counselling at school. It just feels like you’re having a conversation with someone and you’re not getting anywhere.

 

[Daniel Marsh]

We’re only friends

I think she would be your best counselor that's all.

The easiest way to let a girl know you like her is to give her a compliment.

"Your hair looks nice"
"Great smile"
"Cool name, what does it mean?" be careful with this one.
"That dress looks good on you"
"I like that you did...."

followed up by you saying,

"do these pants make me look fat?"

Best advice I have is:
Look at a girls mother because in 30 years the girl will look like that.
My Dad also told me to check her teeth which is tricky. I used something is stuck in your teeth, I think. Girls used their tongues to check out my teeth which I don't recommend.

Identify things you like to do and places you like, personal goals, sports, the Bible, Church, College and so on. Hang around groups that have similar interests. Get to know people of both sexes in such groups. From there simply spend time with people of both sexes alone. In short, work on friendships which is why some are suggesting your cousin. Online, work on a positive brand name for yourself like on facebook, indeed, MySpace and avoid twitter because too many shadow people hang out there.

If you meet a girl at a store wearing the Jesus thing on her name tag tell her Jesus is my Lord too. The other day, at a store I did that. I noticed the Cashier had the same Jesus thing on her name tag. I said, Are you ________'s sister because she looked alike. The next time I went to that store, both approached me and asked me to come over for Dinner. I asked if it was ok to bring my wife and brother along. So, we went over to their house for dinner. Keep the social distancing too.
But, made new friends.

 

[Daniel Marsh]

I used to go to church until about 6 years ago when I developed doubts in my head. I don’t really have doubts anymore though.
I don’t really participate in things as I have no friends to be with and also because I find it really hard to get along with people. I’m just not that fun, cool person people love to be around and so get the impression people aren’t interested in me. I worry a lot about what people think of me.

Andrew, I am sure many here will be praying for your future spouse.

Don't worry about what others think of you. Make a list of self improvements. Many you likely already do like shaving and taking a bath. If you have a speech problem, see a speech therapist.
If you wear t shirts all the time, get some with meaningful messages on them and dress up at least 2 or 3 times a week. Helping others is the best way I know to gain confidence. In the meantime, call churches to talk with Pastors and Priests.

Google
simple ways to build self confidence

simple Christian ways to build self confidence

 

[pantingdeer]

Andrew, I am sure many here will be praying for your future spouse.

Don't worry about what others think of you. Make a list of self improvements. Many you likely already do like shaving and taking a bath. If you have a speech problem, see a speech therapist.
If you wear t shirts all the time, get some with meaningful messages on them and dress up at least 2 or 3 times a week. Helping others is the best way I know to gain confidence. In the meantime, call churches to talk with Pastors and Priests.

Google
simple ways to build self confidence

simple Christian ways to build self confidence

Thanks

I think she would be your best counselor that's all.

The easiest way to let a girl know you like her is to give her a compliment.

"Your hair looks nice"
"Great smile"
"Cool name, what does it mean?" be careful with this one.
"That dress looks good on you"
"I like that you did...."

followed up by you saying,

"do these pants make me look fat?"

Best advice I have is:
Look at a girls mother because in 30 years the girl will look like that.
My Dad also told me to check her teeth which is tricky. I used something is stuck in your teeth, I think. Girls used their tongues to check out my teeth which I don't recommend.

Identify things you like to do and places you like, personal goals, sports, the Bible, Church, College and so on. Hang around groups that have similar interests. Get to know people of both sexes in such groups. From there simply spend time with people of both sexes alone. In short, work on friendships which is why some are suggesting your cousin. Online, work on a positive brand name for yourself like on facebook, indeed, MySpace and avoid twitter because too many shadow people hang out there.

If you meet a girl at a store wearing the Jesus thing on her name tag tell her Jesus is my Lord too. The other day, at a store I did that. I noticed the Cashier had the same Jesus thing on her name tag. I said, Are you ________'s sister because she looked alike. The next time I went to that store, both approached me and asked me to come over for Dinner. I asked if it was ok to bring my wife and brother along. So, we went over to their house for dinner. Keep the social distancing too.
But, made new friends.

Thanks for your two messages. You seem like a nice person. Could we maybe talk sometime?

 

[pantingdeer]

I think she would be your best counselor that's all.

The easiest way to let a girl know you like her is to give her a compliment.

"Your hair looks nice"
"Great smile"
"Cool name, what does it mean?" be careful with this one.
"That dress looks good on you"
"I like that you did...."

followed up by you saying,

"do these pants make me look fat?"

Best advice I have is:
Look at a girls mother because in 30 years the girl will look like that.
My Dad also told me to check her teeth which is tricky. I used something is stuck in your teeth, I think. Girls used their tongues to check out my teeth which I don't recommend.

Identify things you like to do and places you like, personal goals, sports, the Bible, Church, College and so on. Hang around groups that have similar interests. Get to know people of both sexes in such groups. From there simply spend time with people of both sexes alone. In short, work on friendships which is why some are suggesting your cousin. Online, work on a positive brand name for yourself like on facebook, indeed, MySpace and avoid twitter because too many shadow people hang out there.

If you meet a girl at a store wearing the Jesus thing on her name tag tell her Jesus is my Lord too. The other day, at a store I did that. I noticed the Cashier had the same Jesus thing on her name tag. I said, Are you ________'s sister because she looked alike. The next time I went to that store, both approached me and asked me to come over for Dinner. I asked if it was ok to bring my wife and brother along. So, we went over to their house for dinner. Keep the social distancing too.
But, made new friends.

We’re not super close. She’s just a nice person and we get along when we’re together.

 

[Daniel Marsh]

Thanks

Thanks for your two messages. You seem like a nice person. Could we maybe talk sometime?

Yes