How to forgive?

[restore]

I need to find a way to forgive my family people who horribly abused me...and also other former friends...
I realize if i can not forgive, i will never get healing...

how?

I know Jesus can and i should do so,too, but so hard...

 

[BelindaP]

The first thing to realize is that forgiveness is a decision you make and not an emotion. Even after you have forgiven, you are going to feel hurt and anger. You will have to make the decision to forgive over and over again, because it is a process, as well. That's OK. Jesus understands your pain and he understands how hard it is to forgive those who have done such awful things to you.

It took me many years to forgive some of the people who hurt me. It goes hand in hand with the healing, as the two are linked so closely. I think that as the pain lessens, it gets easier to forgive. And as you forgive, some of the pain lessens.

A way to begin is to follow Jesus' example and pray for those who have hurt you. It's really hard at first, and it doesn't have to be much of anything. What it does is open up the lines of communication between you and the Father on this subject. It's even OK when you're feeling really angry to tell God about how angry you are. He is a great listener. Just be sure to listen back, because sometimes great healing can happen during or after conversations with Him.

For now let me just say to you, "Welcome to the road to recovery." It's bumpy, but paradise awaits at the end of it. God bless you.

 

[Simon Peter]

Hi Restore,

Check out this link:

http://spiritsword.org/2007/jan07/06jan07.html

Forgiveness can be a process, perhaps this will help you a little on your way.

God Bless
Simon

 

[UnitynLove]

http://www.freerangefarm.com/homework10/forgiveness.htm
http://www.creativecounselors.com/articles/forgive.htm

 

[restore]

Thanks....
I need to practise this.

 

[TamaraLynne]

Oh my ....................

forgiveness definitly was a process for me. I had no idea how to forgive throughout my life. It almost felt as if I had to condone their sins in order to forgive but knew I couldn't condone or set right what they had done to me. At first I cupped my hands as if I was holding a very delicate bubble. I started putting all my hurts into this bubble. Then I put everything and everyone who had hurt me into this bubble. Then I held my arms up and blew the bubble up towards God. I knew immediatly that God had received the bubble. I asked him to help me with the pain and I asked him to help me forgive. Years and years later I found out more about forgiveness by following Jesus in the bible. Then I knew I could ask Jesus to forgive others...........but I had to imagine at first that the sin was seperated from the sinner..kinda like Peter Pans shadow. I had to invision them in a garden of eden where sin had not touched them and the world had not touched them. I saw them without their sin and I loved them.

THEN I found out that our body is the temple of God and God lives in us. Jesus is in us . And we are asked to forgive others .......and I started to let Jesus take over and would ask him directly(within myself) if he could forgive someone for me because I wanted him to. Then I learned what picking up our cross means . I thank the Holy Spirit for opening up my eyes on what it means. This has helped me become a servent and to be filled with so much joy. No matter who has hurt me.....I am able to see them with love and put their needs above mine. And I can do this with joy because I see them the way Jesus sees them. It really has been a process for me but if I can in any way help someone get to the point I am faster then what I did I sure will try to help them.

Love
Tam

 

[TamaraLynne]

This is the link where I talk about the scriptures on picking up our cross.

All my life I thought picking up our cross was about burdens we must bear. But it is not. It is about feeling joy and so much of it as the burdens come our way. It is about the mind of Christ and how he put us before himself. I actually upon my eyes opening felt a burden lift off of me. I finally saw myself as a sinner and no better then any one else. The burden of making myself higher was lifted. It was such a releif!........to get rid of my better then thou mindset.

http://www.christianforums.com/t3760662


Love
Tam

 

[restore]

I need to keep reminding that I m servant of God...
He is slowly waking up so many ....

 

[J20]

I need to find a way to forgive my family people who horribly abused me...and also other former friends...
I realize if i can not forgive, i will never get healing...

how?

I know Jesus can and i should do so,too, but so hard...

Hi, forgiveness is something which we are commanded to do, not for other peoples benefit but for our own, it is not saying that want the other person has done is alright, it is about letting go of the anger and the hatred. Sometimes that takes time, but when you do let go it does make things easier for you.

Love J20