How to find a way to help him

[Autumncard]

I have a friend in late 30s now, he is a kind hearted and generous guy,just recently i discovered he had connection with some triad groups secretly, and it seems he refuses to get out of that cuz money etc, and he seems to be a small head of that ,even.
I tried to influence his minds about God.
He said he knew what is correct way of life, but he had gone too far away , and very hard to get back.
He came from a christian family, but his dad died early, his mom married another , and he left home when he was a teen ,he worked in different cities and now he had his own company, but complicated background.
His life is a shock for me, cuz he looks like a real nice guy, and i still have compassion for him.
I still want to help him, but dont know how....

(He is a man who fears nothing,he does not feel he is stuck, he feels very good about his present life.
He also does not feel i m a positive influence, he does not feel he needs God now. Although deep down he knows his father mother's belief is correct.)

 

[writergirl4god]

Autumn, I'm a person who also really feels other peoples' pain, so I understand where you're coming from here. You want to DO something to help - but sometimes people aren't willing to accept help. It sounds like that's where your friend is, and so the best thing you can do is be a good example, and pray for him.

I have a friend who is an atheist, and a few who are Christians but have turned their backs on God, and I consistantly pray for these people. But I know that, as someone recently said to me, "you can't pray away someone else's right to choose". Remembering that doesn't stop me from bringing the people I care about before God...but it helps me to not feel disillusioned when they continue to ignore Him. God's grace and love is there for our friends, just as it is for everyone, but they are free to disregard it if they want and we can't make them choose differently.

Love in Christ,
Jess

 

[Ceili]

Very helpful for me to read and reflect on thank you for sharing. I really got no response but one or help in the Catholic forum,so sad they don't welcome sometime posters in there. The question I have is much like what you both are speaking of. What may I ask is triad groups? Occult? My one time boyfriend off and on is now passionate about atheism and becomes enraged when any form of God is talked about. His icon is satan I fear. Are we talking about the occult OP?
I see you don't think my praying will carry any merit then Jess? I'm asking as a new and learning Catholic and Christian because I was quite sinful 8 years ago. I had many pray with me. I wonder if a religious intervention is and how you would form one believing that prayer works miracles? My friend has not seen nor spoken to me for about 8 months. I want to find a way to bring him back to God.

I also have been sent a forum to visit if OP wants that but you will have to email me.

 

[UnitynLove]

I would say that you should pray for your friend to make better decisions then the ones he is making now. You can not control his decisions because God gave us all free will. But what you can do is to pray for him that he makes better ones. Prayer does change things.