How to eliminate geeks from my dating pool

Toro · Sep 4, 2012

Daughter of Ararat said:
sometimes a girl just likes the feel of something black and fitted... Meow!

Wait okay hold up, if liking women in something form fitting makes a guy a "geek"..... we all turn into slobbering idiots then, "geeks" just have a heart attack like hyper chimps at the zoo and don't know what to do with themselves, the rest of us just forget about the need to look forward while walking.

sorry but if thats the case then ALL straight men are geeks, the only place you can go to find a "non geek" is in a gay bar.

Obzocky · Sep 4, 2012

To be fair you posted on an internet forum about how to eliminate geeks from your dating pool. Striding fully into stereotype land that's a bit like going to a country show and asking how to eliminate people gamekeepers from your dating pool; the show may not be full of shooters, but there will be enough of them to go "now hang on just a minute, give us a chance, we're not all going to hang pheasants in the pantry and expect you to skin rabbits with us!".

OneWithTime · Sep 4, 2012

SNES said:
I never saw video games as geeky... Just spending their spare time not socializing lol

Oh how funny. That is why I play video-games in the first place

Ana the Ist · Sep 4, 2012

Daughter of Ararat said:
There is always room to re-focus my wardrobe. I'm actually working on cleaning out some old clothing soon. If your any kind of fashion wiz, message me.

LOL I'm no "fashion wiz" by far but to be honest I was thinking of a specific girl I knew. When we would be out girls would shoot her the meanest looks, I mean total strangers. She wasn't the type to go around in anything lowcut, skirts that you'd need two haircuts to wear, or anything super tight. She still looked gorgeous, like she cared about how she looked but didn't have to dress like a [bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse][bless and do not curse] (for lack of a better word). Guys from 15-65 would be checking her out everywhere but surprisingly even when I wasn't at her side, she rare ly got hit on. The point I'm trying to make here (admittedly probably very poorly) is that girls (and guys to a lesser extent) who project confidence and security are naturally intimidating to the unconfident and insecure. It's more than just what you wear, its your posture, your voice, the attitude you project.

Again, maybe I'm assuming too much, but isn't that really what you're trying to avoid here? The unconfident, insecure type of guy who buries himself in hobbies, hides himself in costumes, and appears uneasy in groups of strangers. He'd rather discuss his character in WOW because he finds himself boring and uninteresting. It's not so much his hobbies you dislike, its the way he hides behind them to make up for a lack of any real personality or character.

Or am I way off?

Daughter of Ararat · Sep 4, 2012

Ana the Ist said:
Again, maybe I'm assuming too much, but isn't that really what you're trying to avoid here? The unconfident, insecure type of guy who buries himself in hobbies, hides himself in costumes, and appears uneasy in groups of strangers. He'd rather discuss his character in WOW because he finds himself boring and uninteresting. It's not so much his hobbies you dislike, its the way he hides behind them to make up for a lack of any real personality or character.

Or am I way off?

I genuinely won't bother with some of those interests, but this would make them more tolerable in a guy.

Entered · Sep 4, 2012

This is so lame but all I could think of is, "stop cooking with cheese."

Yikes....

Amber.ly · Sep 4, 2012

First off, a gamer is not automatically a geek. If you don't want a man-child who plays video games for hours and hours in the quest for the next level, I find that to a be a reasonable deal breaker.

However, if you want a guy who won't touch a controller and disdains Mario Kart then maybe that is taking the principle a bit too far.

Places to meet jocks, artists or other lame people? P)
-Take up hiking, volleyball or flag football. Find a local group (meetup.com is a good place to start) and jump into going to the activities.
-Spread the word to your friends of the "type" you are looking for. More times than not, its the friend of a friend who will send someone your way
-CF!

redblue22 · Sep 5, 2012

if only the world would conform to my beliefs and desires, why I would be ever so happy. so, I'm unhappy and it is the world around's fault. especially geeks.

Ariadne_GR · Sep 5, 2012

I really don't see why people are getting bent out of shape over this thread. It's something that you don't look for in a mate and being that it's your choice you have every right to be selective. I made the mistake of lowering my standards, big mistake. Not doing it again. There needs to be a level of communication between the two of you. For example if he's talking about games/gadgets and you're talking about world politics, you don't really have a meeting of the minds there. Good luck finding the right guy!

Nanopants · Sep 5, 2012

I don't see how one can't see that this thread is offensive to some of the population here.

How would you feel about someone walking into your church with an openly displayed attitude that he or she will only associate with winners and not losers or the poor, etc. Should we stratify the church so the in-crowd can enjoy the most favorable seat in the house? This is supposed to be a christian community, but whether it is or not, it reflects the state of the christian body as a whole. It's only natural that some Christians might be upset about this sort of stuff.

And before anyone gets uppety about dating and the mating game having nothing to do with the topic.. nobody is saying that you can't be selective in how you choose your mate, but what reason does anyone have to introduce public disapproval of any group of Christians for dating purposes beside a selfish reason?

Daughter of Ararat · Sep 5, 2012

Nanopants said:
I don't see how one can't see that this thread is offensive to some of the population here.

How would you feel about someone walking into your church with an openly displayed attitude that he or she will only associate with winners and not losers or the poor, etc. Should we stratify the church so the in-crowd can enjoy the most favorable seat in the house? This is supposed to be a christian community, but whether it is or not, it reflects the state of the christian body as a whole. It's only natural that some Christians might be upset about this sort of stuff.

And before anyone gets uppety about dating and the mating game having nothing to do with the topic.. nobody is saying that you can't be selective in how you choose your mate, but what reason does anyone have to introduce public disapproval of any group of Christians for dating purposes beside a selfish reason?

Why does not wanting to date someone because of a lifestyle incompatibility with increasingly divergent interests and aspirations mean that the person is a loser? As for mentioning the type of person I was finding myself more incompatible with as I grow older, I thought it would be valuable to find out the kind of advice I was looking for. I can tell that I should have been more specific (which I do apologize for the poor communication of), but it was not that they are losers, unless the only thing that winning means is dating me, which would be seriously conceited of me. And BTW, if geeks are losers, then so are some of my friends, except I don't have loser friends-I have awesome friends, geek and non-geek.

BayCityBomber · Sep 5, 2012

Singling a group of people out and declaring you find them too deficient to date is naturally going to be offensive to anyone that is in that group. Wouldn't be easier, and more positive, to ask for advice on finding the kind of guy you want instead of how to eliminate the undesirables?

AwesomeSock · Sep 6, 2012

Geeks in the pool? I thought they were all inside, playing World of Warcraft.

m.a.r.X · Sep 6, 2012

AwesomeSock said:
Geeks in the pool? I thought they were all inside, playing World of Warcraft.

IMO, geeks != gamers

Rhye · Sep 6, 2012

BayCityBomber said:
Singling a group of people out and declaring you find them too deficient to date is naturally going to be offensive to anyone that is in that group. Wouldn't be easier, and more positive, to ask for advice on finding the kind of guy you want instead of how to eliminate the undesirables?

People single a lot of people out on the forums for dating purposes. For example, as Christians they say they wont date non-Christians. Or smokers or drinkers, etc., etc. Its not always offensive because the majority feels that way or have such beliefs. However, because the majority of the group on the forums are gamers and/or consider themselves "geeks" then its an offensive subject if someone doesn't agree with it.

Capitan obvious to the rescue.

Nanopants · Sep 6, 2012

Ethnog said:
People single a lot of people out on the forums for dating purposes. For example, as Christians they say they wont date non-Christians. Or smokers or drinkers, etc., etc. Its not always offensive because the majority feels that way or have such beliefs. However, because the majority of the group on the forums are gamers and/or consider themselves "geeks" then its an offensive subject if someone doesn't agree with it.

Capitan obvious to the rescue.

Who says it's not offensive? I just keep my mouth shut because I'd gladly quit smoking for the right woman and it's a good way to find out who's too judgmental to spend any significant amount of time around.

Culture is something else though, isn't it? We don't exactly applaud someone openly shunning people for nationality right?

Rhye · Sep 6, 2012

Nanopants said:
Who says it's not offensive? I just keep my mouth shut because I'd gladly quit smoking for the right woman and it's a good way to find out who's too judgmental to spend any significant amount of time around.

Culture is something else though, isn't it? We don't exactly applaud someone openly shunning people for nationality right?

Of course its offensive. But when the majority speak then a lot of people don't post about it because they just don't want to deal with it. I know I don't.

Why did you bring up culture? Do you mean the Christian cultures?

Nanopants · Sep 6, 2012

Ethnog said:
Of course its offensive. But when the majority speak then a lot of people don't post about it because they just don't want to deal with it. I know I don't.

Why did you bring up culture? Do you mean the Christian cultures?

Because geek culture.

Rhye · Sep 6, 2012

Nanopants said:
Because geek culture.

Oh, thats right.

BayCityBomber · Sep 6, 2012

Ethnog said:
People single a lot of people out on the forums for dating purposes. For example, as Christians they say they wont date non-Christians. Or smokers or drinkers, etc., etc. Its not always offensive because the majority feels that way or have such beliefs. However, because the majority of the group on the forums are gamers and/or consider themselves "geeks" then its an offensive subject if someone doesn't agree with it.

Capitan obvious to the rescue.

I would find that equally unnecessary, and rude. Imagine if the topic was how to eliminate Mexicans from my dating pool.

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