The Bible has a lot to say about self-control. Specifically how do we develop self-control?
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How to develop self-control
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Pal Handy
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By surrendering our lives to God in Christ.
As long as you live your life your way under your own desires,
you will never find the victory of living the life God has for you.
Christ said that those who seek to save their own lives will lose it but
those who lose their lives for His sake will be saved and find life.
Surrender your cares, failures, sins, burdens, worry, fears and life to
God in Christ and ask Him to take your life and fill you with His spirit
and give you the life He has for you in Christ.
Acts 13:52
And the disciples were filled with joy and with the Holy Spirit
Galatians 5
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, forbearance, kindness, goodness,
faithfulness, 23 gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law.
Surrender your life to God in Christ and ask Him to give you the promise
of the Holy Spirit in your life so you can walk in the spirit and not the flesh.
John 14:16-17
16 And I will pray the Father, and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide with you forever— 17 the Spirit of truth, whom the world cannot receive, because it neither sees Him nor knows Him; but you know Him, for He dwells with you and will be in you.
Galatians 5:16
I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
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agree with what's been posted. Previously, I guess I thought Yahweh would just one day dump the fruit of the Spirit on me but I'm finding it's a very step by step process. In other words, when I need more self control, I ask Yahweh to replace my anger and frustration for His peace and then thank Him. For example, previously when driving I would be very upset with some other drivers constantly. Now when someone cuts me off in traffic, many times I chose to put my focus on Him and I assure you I can't do it by myself either.
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Self control is the fruit of the Holy Spirit, which is every born again christian. You make the effort to have self control, and the Holy Spirit in you helps you by his fruit of self control in you.
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FaithInChrist85
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I agree with the others. I think the most important thing is to first pray about it and ask for guidance. Also, sometimes it's helpful to step back and take a "time out" to think things through. Sometimes that's hard to do, and it will probably take many tries before getting the hang of it. But I've learned to recognize and be thankful for small steps when trying to make a change. When learning to take a step back, there are many things you can do such as count slowly to 10, take a walk, deep breathing (it's easier to think things through more thouroughly when relaxed), or do something else to destract yourself for awhile. If there is a specific issue that a person is struggling with, it might help to take some time to write down that issue and make a list of good ways to handle it. That way, when the issue arises again, the person can be a little better prepared to make a more thought out decision. And another big one is finding some reading material on the subject. Besides spending time reading the bible, there are a lot of good books out there. And like other said, focus on God and always be thinking about what he would wants us to do.
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I think the strongest thing is, prayer for wisdom.
I once read: PERMANT changes comes from the innerly motivation.
When a teacher punish you from doing something bad, but dont tell you why. You only wont do it in his presence, because you dont see why its bad. You needed to be teached why its bad.
If you understand the logical thought behind each sin, why it is bad. You just dont want it anymore.
Also, a lesser tip. Is to say this about a particulair sin: I dont need you, I feel good enough.
I once read: PERMANT changes comes from the innerly motivation.
When a teacher punish you from doing something bad, but dont tell you why. You only wont do it in his presence, because you dont see why its bad. You needed to be teached why its bad.
If you understand the logical thought behind each sin, why it is bad. You just dont want it anymore.
Also, a lesser tip. Is to say this about a particulair sin: I dont need you, I feel good enough.
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