How to cope

[flowerforever7]

I have been looking for a job and exhausting my resources, I am about broke and going on food stamps. Despite all the interviews, applications and resumes I have submitted still no job. I am sleeping on someone's couch, have no car and no license, have small practical and financial support (my mom is financially disadvantaged and disabled, living in another state) and I just feel like really dropping out of life. I can't seem to get ahead no matter what I do. I have resolved not to commit suicide, and though it is tempting I am avoiding to doing drugs and alcohol to cope. Should I just take a pledge of mediocrity in life and expect the worst always, this way I won't be disappointed by hopes and expectations not being met? I am seriously done. I can't go on an anti depressants because I have Asperger's Syndrome and it makes me stim out of control. Talking to people about my problems is not going to help, I am not looking to be coddled, I need solutions. It doesn't seem like solutions are happening, so I am looking for suggestions on how to drop out of life. Sorry, not trying to discourage anybody.

 

[EternalMoment]

counselors help with suggestions...they don't just tell you what you want to hear.

you are feeling sorry for yourself.

this too shall pass.

ask your friend to help you get a drivers license....ask him to help you find a job... tell him you are so disabled he's going to have to do most of the work....also if all else fails just go to a homeless shelter.




i know you are better than this.......

 

[flowerforever7]

I don't think I am feeling sorry for myself, it's more that I am frusterated that almost every time I try it seems to bring no solid results (as in a job). The person I am staying with initially told me they would teach me how to drive, now they got a different job and don't have the time. That person can't really help me that way because they are constantly at work. It's not that I am incapable of doing things myself, I'm not, I've been trying and trying and trying and it's not seeming to yeild results (as in a job). I am just getting tired of trying. Ofcourse I will continue to try because I have to survive, but mentally I am tired of fighting to get out of the rut I'm in only to fall back into it again. Believe me, I am grateful for what I do have. But it's hard when the person you are staying with seems to be getting irritated that you haven't found a job yet and you have done so much to get a job. I kind of feel like I don't know what else to do, other than keep trying. It's just frusterating.

 

[JCFantasy23]

This job market is so rough. It's been such a bad time for so many, hopeless, discouragement for all. I have been feeling very discouraged lately too. FINALLY got a job after 2 years but it is a minimum wage job with little hours so I still can't get ahead. Fiance finally got a job but has been having to live with other people. Not trying to bring this up to compare to your situation, just trying to make you feel less alone. I'm 30 also and having to live with parents as lost everything - apartment, car, independence, job of 3 years and happiness with work, money and bank account, ruined credit after five years of building up, all bills - 3 years ago. It is so rough to live with someone else and feel like this. I know how life can seem so hopeless and meaningless like it's not possible to get ahead anymore

The funny thing about life, which should be under the definition of IRONY in the dictionary, is that it really is unexpected. Something can happen that can turn it around at any moment. And of course God comes through in miraculous ways when it sometimes seems like He won't

Sent up a prayer for you, hope things get much better soon sister (hugs)

 

[flowerforever7]

Thank you; good to know I am not alone in this situation, though I am sorry for your circumstance. =( You are right that sometimes things happen and turn life circumstances around. I guess it may be wise to see what lesson(s) we can learn in our circumstances to help us bring more honor to God. For me I have learned how to be more frugal, and I have been on so many interviews, and applied to so many jobs that I feel like I am really getting that down. Who knows, maybe one day I will be able to teach a class on it. lol, but I first have to get a job.

 

[JCFantasy23]

Thank you; good to know I am not alone in this situation, though I am sorry for your circumstance. =( You are right that sometimes things happen and turn life circumstances around. I guess it may be wise to see what lesson(s) we can learn in our circumstances to help us bring more honor to God. For me I have learned how to be more frugal, and I have been on so many interviews, and applied to so many jobs that I feel like I am really getting that down. Who knows, maybe one day I will be able to teach a class on it. lol, but I first have to get a job.

That's how I am trying to look at things too It's amazing how much bad stuff in life will eventually make something good come up you never would have pictured.

 

[Nienna_Lady_of_Tears]

I've been jobless for almost three years now, my husband and I are both aspies, but the government claims I can work so we're trying to live on my husband's disability check of $674 a month. Last year we were homeless, as in literally on the street homeless.

 

[AlbusEarwax]

That is not good.