How To Attract Men and Keep Them Interested

[Gardener101]

 

[Gardener101]

 

[Niels]

For me, I just be me and if it is meant to be he will be attracted and stay interested in me, my life and vice versa.

Now there's a good attitude. He's not going to lose interest in the real you if the real you is what he was attracted to in the first place.

Personally, I would never want to marry someone who I couldn't be real with.

Not that I think there's anything wrong with nice clothes on dates, cosmetics etc. That's still the real you... it's when somebody acts fake by trying to change their personality, dreams, values etc. that things stop being real.

 

[KomissarSteve]

What about confused? Unsure if it's over or not.

Right, that sounds about right. I was in that position until a few months ago myself; never very fun.

 

[TySJI]

"The way to a man's heart runs through his stomach"

Feed him. A lot.

 

[sweetlambofgod]

"The way to a man's heart runs through his stomach"

Feed him. A lot.

gotta say I much prefer that version

 

[Tumbleweed64]

Put a dab of the very finest BBQ sauce behind each ear lobe...

 

[ImperialPhantom]

bump

 

[Balugon]

I thinks its easier for a girl to just be herself, and be interested in the guy like she would choose to try to make friends with anyone else. The same concepts that win friends will win a spouse imo. No need to try to be all fake and laugh at random jokes to try to get an 'in' with him. He will catch u on it eventually, and then he'll end up either giving up on u or telling u plainly to not be fake.

As for concepts for friendship-
1. make the effort to ask questions and details about the person and to start convos (if u arent naturally an outgoing person). Just showing interest in this way makes people more fond of u because u are valuing them by taking interest in them.

2. choose to do silly things every once in a while if u think it might be funny (even if it means it could fail and the person think ur weird). Fear in this area is the biggest stopper of me doing things a lot of times, but im starting to realize that simply not thinking about the fear and just doing it no matter what the person might think often times make them feel i am more enjoyable and worthy to spend time with than otherwise. No one wants to spend their time with a rock that just sits there and does nothing.

-dont be ashamed of where you are in life, it doesnt mean that it is where you are going. People want others who are going to build them up, or at least be equal with them in life; people dont want someone that they have to keep encouraging "its gonna be alright." A sob story tells the other person that the friendship or relationship isnt going to be equal, and its hard for people to even think about staying around those kinds of people for long times.

There are other things that might help. But i have found those to be the basic things that help making decent friends.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I'm so sick of people saying "just be yourself". That's such a cop-out. If the person following the advice is a psycho, a schizo, a serial killer, a klepto, a pathological liar, bitter, someone with anger issues, an addict, someone who's so shy that they want to never talk, or a loser with no friends who worships the ground the nearest semi-attractive member of the opposite sex walks on.

If anyone else wants to reply with "just be yourself", DON'T BOTHER.

 

[KomissarSteve]

I'm so sick of people saying "just be yourself". That's such a cop-out. If the person following the advice is a psycho, a schizo, a serial killer, a klepto, a pathological liar, bitter, someone with anger issues, an addict, someone who's so shy that they want to never talk, or a loser with no friends who worships the ground the nearest semi-attractive member of the opposite sex walks on.

If anyone else wants to reply with "just be yourself", DON'T BOTHER.

I think that's a fair assessment; saying "be yourself" is partially true, but it's also an oversimplification. There are a lot of people I know who need to learn how to be themselves before being themselves is at all advisable.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Can build skills to better woe her, but if not being one's self isn't that false advertising?

I mean how many marriages go sour when guy shows who he really is after marriage. Or woman.

 

[nathans1987]

dont be yourself

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Can build skills to better woe her, but if not being one's self isn't that false advertising?

I mean how many marriages go sour when guy shows who he really is after marriage. Or woman.

"Yourself" is an ever changing thing. Don't pretend, but CHANGE yourself. Remove the bad qualities that are not getting you any farther in life, and replace them with good qualities.

 

[AWorkInProgress]

"Yourself" is an ever changing thing. Don't pretend, but CHANGE yourself. Remove the bad qualities that are not getting you any farther in life, and replace them with good qualities.

That is defined as personal growth. Which case I completely and utterly agree with you.

What I meant was share the personality that is us. Yes many parts can be changed, but there is underline of thought or gifted intelligence in which makes us all different and unique at the core.

 

[Tamara224]

Can build skills to better woe her, but if not being one's self isn't that false advertising?

I think you mean 'woo' her. If you need to build skills to woo her, you're probably already woe-ing her.

 

[CoachR64]

A mini skirt and a large pepperoni pizza will attract many more guys than simply "being yourself."

Coach

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Everybody has some sort of skills that are it their favor as far as wooing and dating go. Except for me - I just have talent

 

[AWorkInProgress]

I think you mean 'woo' her. If you need to build skills to woo her, you're probably already woe-ing her.

Thinking about woofing too, but they might put me in a straight jacket if I displayed those skills in public.

 

[alfrodull]

Can build skills to better woe her, but if not being one's self isn't that false advertising?

I mean how many marriages go sour when guy shows who he really is after marriage. Or woman.

That's the challenge I face.

I mean, I know I would attract more guys if I wore makeup. Am I going to wear makeup every day after I've met a guy, especially after I'm married? Heck no. I would attract more guys if I channeled my interest "normal" things instead of science and video games. Am I going to avoid those topics for the rest of my life? Heck no.

I'm definitely in the minority, but I think that if you have to change yourself just to attract someone, they weren't worth the time in the first place. (Now, if you needed changing for your own well-being, that's different...)