>Goal 10: Wear fruity fragrances (not strong perfume....).
Or dont wear any fragrance at all...
>Goal 12: Occasionally show your vulnerability and ask for help with manly things (like opening a jar! lol). Men like feeling like heros or protectors.
Hehe. One of the best things a woman can do is ask a guy to help her with something.
>Goal 15: Shut up a bit. Yeah, I know, we just love to talk don't we? Well, it's a good idea to come up for air now and again, not only to keep yourself alive, but to allow him to get a word in. Do not be afraid of 'awkward silences'...let them come and if you give it enough time, he will start talking. Unlike most women, men actually think before they talk! lol So the silence is usually a good time for them to think about what you have just said, and then formulate their reply. By letting him talk, you build trust and intimacy and you get to learn about him, his life, his goals and dreams, and basically how he interacts with other people in his life (a great way to get an idea is to get him to tell you a true story of something that happened to him).
Just a side note, if you are going out with a shy guy and you appear to find the silences awkward at all, he is going to feel inadequate and probably hold it against you.
>Goal 18: Give him compliments, but do not let them be profuse or fake. It is common for women to get compliments from men, but sometimes women forget to return the favour. It does not have to be about saying something nice back to him once he says it to you. For example, if he is in the middle of telling you a story and you find that you admire something he said or did, you can do a quick comment like "Oh wow, that is so nice of you!"
This probably would work, but try not to come off as manipulative (though most guys probably wouldn't care).
>Goal 20: Cook for him. Yes, it's the oldest trick in the book, but remarkably one that is often overlooked by modern women. Don't you realise that a man considers the act of cooking for him an 'affectionate' gesture? And if you're lucky, he might be a good cook and reciprocate.
HOLY MOLY GARDENER101 YOU HIT THE TARGET!! It isn't about making gourmet dinners, either. Nor is it about being a homemaker. If a girl I even slightly liked made me buttered toast I would fall in love with her. A girl I was crushing on once chopped some cucumbers and I thought that was an extraordinary accomplishment demonstrating true generosity. I know someone who got to know his wife by her leaving bundled up treats that she would make (e.g. cookies) on his desk. You can make something for multiple people if you don't want to appear obvious in your intentions.
>Goal 21: Be bubbly, laugh a lot. If I could give just ONE quality that men tend to say they find attractive about a woman's personality, it is that she has a good sense of humour. This does not mean that they are looking for clowns or comedians, but just someone who can laugh at them (& their silly jokes) as well as laugh at themselves...people who don't take life TOO seriously, who see the funny side of things...even when they are crying! lol. Be lighthearted, laugh as innocently as a child without a care in the world. If you slip up, use homour, laugh at yourself. If HE slips up, use humour and laugh at the situation (not AT him). Just be known for always having a cheerful disposition (*my claim to fame in real life...lol).
But try not to come off as an airhead or phony. I love a girl that laughs easily, but only when the laughs are completely genuine. (I once had a woman make a dissatisfied grunting sound following an attempt at being semi-funny with a nearby friend, which she followed up with a very loud laugh...and I did not appreciate her at all...). Also, it isn't just about laughing at him being funny, try to be funny yourself! PLEASE! Even if you aren't an improv goddess, your effort would be appreciated.
>Goal 23: Be mysterious. I am a reknown blabbermouth in real life, but at the same time very cheeky and mysterious. Guys absolutely love this. Don't always answer their questions with a direct answer. For example, if he asks a SIMPLE question like "So where do you live?" you can say "Somewhere in the North" and if he says "Where?" then say "Guess". At the end of the day, you can either choose to finally give him the answer at that conversation, or promise to tell him at a later date. That keeps him hanging and keeps YOU on his mind...long after the conversation ended. By the next time you talk to him, you will find that he has remembered this question you did not answer. In fact, he might contact you sooner than expected due to simple curiousity! Men often say to me "Gosh, you are wicked...why do you answer some questions with questions? It's absolute agony waiting to get the answer from you when you're like that". Yeah, but it keeps them keen Don't overdo it though, as it can quickly become irritating and totally offputing.
I wouldn't take this too far... or you might not seem serious enough. I certainly wouldn't want to be with a woman who was like this for more than a very short time.
Goal 25: "It helps to let a guy know that you are available" - Mark2010 The best physical way is to avoid wearing rings on ANY FINGER on either hand (left or right, except your thumbs...lol). I know this sounds extreme, but I have learnt that the 'wedding ring' finger varies from country to country, culture to culture, so to avoid confusion, just avoid wearing rings altogether. If you have a ring (on anything but the thumb)...a guy can subconsciously use that as an excuse not to ask you out (particularly if he is very shy). If you are single, let a guy know by casually dropping it into a conversation in passing e.g. "So I really wanted to see this movie and I asked my friend to come along with me. She told me that I really need to get a boyfriend because she is sick and tired of me dragging her along to watch Action Movies....hahahaha". Yeah, slip it in somehow! lol. Also, if you notice a single guy staring at you (like he might be interested) give him the green light by staring back at him briefly then smiling to yourself, then staring back at him and then smiling at him before turning away...and if you can handle it...stare, smile and wave. Wow. If he does not approach you after that big green light, then he might be blind or something...lol.
This would be so incredibly helpful. The girl I am currently crushing on ("rooster-hair girl" aka "really hot older lisa simpson") has a ring on her wedding ring finger, but the ring appears to be on the level of a Crackerjack toy. What is its relevance??? The rest of the stuff you wrote, excluding making eye contact with a smile, might be a little bit too much for most situations. I.e. you might want to not wave.
