how should i react when this happens

[ssammoh]

I finally solved my conflict with my parents (I made a post about this recently). But now I have a new conflict to deal with.

I know it's a sin to not keep your word. Because of this, I try to avoid making plans. I don't want to say "yes I am going to do this thing." and then find out later that I can't do it. I have no excuse to put myself in a position where I might sin. But what if a parent tells me to make plans with them?

Example: I have something wrong with my knees and I started going to physical therapy. What if my dad says "I need to know if you want to go to physical therapy today so I know if I should pick you up or not." How do I deal with something like this? I don't want to say "yes" because I might, for some reason, end up not going. And then I would be a liar.

 

[Burl]

Go to therapy.

 

[chapmic]

Sometimes things beyond our control can cause us to change our plans. It doesn't mean you sinned because you said yes if you really thought you would be able to make it to that event. Hope this helps! God bless!

 

[Kit Sigmon]

I finally solved my conflict with my parents (I made a post about this recently). But now I have a new conflict to deal with.

I know it's a sin to not keep your word.
ssammoh: It be a sin to put yourself under stringent rules, that put you back under the law again.

Because of this, I try to avoid making plans. I don't want to say "yes I am going to do this thing." and then find out later that I can't do it. I have no excuse to put myself in a position where I might sin.

ssammoh: You can make tentative plans, lightening up on yourself...plan a something.
If you can't do a thing, all you do is let the other person know that you can't do that if something happens, that be a fact of life, things happen that you had no knowledge of...it don't mean you a bold faced liar.
This is all part of life and people know plans aren't written in stone.
***The key to all this is letting it be known IF something happens that will prevent you from doing what had been planned.***

But what if a parent tells me to make plans with them?
Make tentative plans.


Example: I have something wrong with my knees and I started going to physical therapy. What if my dad says "I need to know if you want to go to physical therapy today so I know if I should pick you up or not." How do I deal with something like this? I don't want to say "yes" because I might, for some reason, end up not going. And then I would be a liar.

ssammoh: Like I said, make "tentative" plans...that way nothing be "carved in stone"...so it's "subject to unforeseen problems" and if things need to be changed, you have that option available.

 

[FutureAndAHope]

The bible says "we have been called to liberty, only don't use that as a excuse to sin". Liberty means we are free to make choices, free from any guilt from sin, there is no sin held against us in Christ. Your choices are not sin. You are free to choose what you do. The bible also makes it clear that "if we fail, or sin", Jesus forgives us. God is not harsh, or critical of our lives.

You have liberty in Christ to make choices, and even to fail in them. Don't feel guilty, God loves you.

 

[TheresaC.]

Be a liar means saying "yes" when you already know (at the moment you say yes) you will not make it and the right answer should be "no".
All of us change plans in the meantime, if someone gets involved with our plan changes, we give explanation and say "I'm sorry". In these cases try to take the opposite point of view, what if someone informs you he had to change his plan involving you? Would you be really upset and judge him a liar?

In the end, how did you solve your conflict with your parents? I'm happy you solved that