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I had lunch today with a girl from my church who I've worked with in the senior adult ministry. I knew ahead of time that she'd be bringing her 17-month old daughter, and I was sort of dreading the experience.
I could not have been more pleasantly surprised. First of all, the baby was so good! She had a moment or two, of course, but she's only 17-months old and she totally listened to what her mom told her she was not to do! She can't talk yet, but her mother has used some sign language to communicate with her, and it really worked. The baby could ask please, she knew no, and even when we prayed the baby put her arms out to hold hands.
But beyond that, my friend told me she never wanted children, and it was only when her husband said straight up that he did that she changed her mind. He was always, "I think I want kids" and her reaction was, "As long as you just 'think' so, I'm a no."
So she completely understood when she asked me if I had kids and my unthinking reaction was, "Ohhhh no, no no no." She laughed and said she totally understood and told me her story. I made a joke about how I'm not good with kids, I don't care for fluids or stickiness, and kids are "full of fluids and stick" and she actually appreciated the joke. Like me, she's a little OCD about germs and cleanliness, and she said she doesn't even like her own baby's fluids and stickiness.
Then, she said, "I always told people, if you can show me one place in the Bible where it's clear that it's sinful not to have children, then I'll have a child, but it's just not in there." It was amazing. This was the first real-life Christian woman, with a child of her own no less, who felt the same way about the issue as me.
Anyway, it was a very refreshing experience, and I had to share it with you all.
I could not have been more pleasantly surprised. First of all, the baby was so good! She had a moment or two, of course, but she's only 17-months old and she totally listened to what her mom told her she was not to do! She can't talk yet, but her mother has used some sign language to communicate with her, and it really worked. The baby could ask please, she knew no, and even when we prayed the baby put her arms out to hold hands.
But beyond that, my friend told me she never wanted children, and it was only when her husband said straight up that he did that she changed her mind. He was always, "I think I want kids" and her reaction was, "As long as you just 'think' so, I'm a no."
So she completely understood when she asked me if I had kids and my unthinking reaction was, "Ohhhh no, no no no." She laughed and said she totally understood and told me her story. I made a joke about how I'm not good with kids, I don't care for fluids or stickiness, and kids are "full of fluids and stick" and she actually appreciated the joke. Like me, she's a little OCD about germs and cleanliness, and she said she doesn't even like her own baby's fluids and stickiness.
Then, she said, "I always told people, if you can show me one place in the Bible where it's clear that it's sinful not to have children, then I'll have a child, but it's just not in there." It was amazing. This was the first real-life Christian woman, with a child of her own no less, who felt the same way about the issue as me.
Anyway, it was a very refreshing experience, and I had to share it with you all.
