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how old is too old?

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I grew up with my parents having a big age gap- there is 9 years between my Mum and Dad with my Mum being older.

However- I personally at this point in my life wouldnt see myself with anyone more than a max of 11/12 years older tops and 2 years younger. But I am 22 (give 8 days!) When I am 30 if I am still single that may change.

I would prefer to be the younger in the relationship regarless of the situation with Mum and Dad
 
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I think it would depend on the maturity levels. My uncle is 10 years older than my aunt and they seem to be a happy couple. But I know that isn't always the case.

For me, right now I probably wouldn't be with anyone much older than me because I know I'm not mature enough. I'm still growing up... I still feel like I barely left my teens despite almost being 21. I'm not ready to settle down or have kids and I know that if I were with someone much older, that would most likely be a desire for them. That's not always the case either, but I know it was true for my sister and I know many others who would like to be married and have kids by 26.

So sticking to my own age group would probably be best unless I knew the person well enough, and knew exactly who I am as a person.

Yeah, I thought I'd be married and have kids by now. So far I'm just divorced.
My mum and stepdad are 51 and 70.
I'm thinking of checking out daycares so that I can be a cougar later.
 
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My personal age range is 3 years younger or up to 10 years older. Beyond 10 years for me is too much. I've flirted with the idea and started talking to someone 15 years older than me but we wanted too many different things in life so we went our separate ways.
 
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Well, like you said, it's personal. Just something that everybody has to decide for themselves.

I've always been sorta cautious about dating guys that are much older than me. I just don't want a relationship to turn more into a father-daughter thing, nor do I want an older man to think that he can mold me or manipulate me into what he wants. There are also issues of being in different stages of life. I couldn't date a man who just wanted to settle down and have babies. That's not what I want in life right now and that may never be what I want in life.

That being said, I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 27 and we don't have a problem.
 
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I don't think I could ever state a number as a matter of principle. But for me, now, I'm uncomfortable with women more than a few years older than me, and women not in their twenties. I know there's a disparity between my old vs. young ranges. I can't explain it.
 
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Seeing as I recently revealed that Sean Connery was my celeb crush perhaps I'm the wrong person to comment in this thread :p

But I will say that I don't think there is a rule. I know there's are a couple cutesy formulae that people like to use, but honestly when it comes down the individual level I'd throw those in the garbage. As a general rule, sure, but keep in mind that there always be exceptions.

Maturity, compability and being at a similar stage in life is more important than the number. That's what the number is supposed to communicate anyway, right? Oh yeah, that and the number of grey hairs lol But c'mon, we all find a little salt and pepper sexy :p
 
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But for the right person it wouldn't matter.

I agree :thumbsup:. I've dated guys as young as 6 years younger than me and up to 9 years older than me. I think it has to do with how mature each person is and where they are in life.
 
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