How often should we talk?

[Sketcher]

Yeah, you read the title right. I am very new to dating, partly because I am normally not the most social of people. But last week, I set up a date for this Friday. We're not official, this is probably still the exploratory phase. I'm just wondering if I should call/email her tonight or tomorrow. I don't want to come off as either blowing her off or being obsessive. I don't really have much new to talk about, though I could probably come up with something. But that's one less thing to talk about during the date.

 

[eatenbylocusts]

If you can't think of anything new to tell her right now then just email her tomorrow. Tell her you're looking forward to Friday, blah, blah, blah. If you enjoy the date, email her that night or the next day and let her know! That means a lot. Even if you set up a second date Friday, follow up with the email or a phone call.
With me ex bf I was on cloud 9 after our date and we scheduled a 2nd, but I was disappointed that he didn't call me for a few days. If she's into you she's going to want to have a little communication. The guy I'm dating now blew it the first time because he didn't follow up after our date for a week. I had already fallen for the ex-bf, but I told him later that he should've called. This time around he's been doing it right with the communication. He followed up right away after we went out again in March.
I hope you have a great time.

 

[princessellie]

i agree always follow up after the date either that night or the next morening, either text her or email, i think send her an email or text thursday night kust to tell her your looking forward to seeing her, it will make her feel special and give you a head start for the pending date most importantly, try to relax while you are out with her, be yourself and make her feel special, treat her like a princess and she will be sure to agree to a second date

 

[Maeyken]

I think it's a nice idea to send her an email, or even call her about Friday. Just say something like you're looking forward to it, and hope she'll have a good time. If there are any details that need to be covered, you could include that as well... something like "see you at 7 at _______", or "I'll pick you up around 8"... that sort of thing.

I hope you guys have a good time!!

 

[Ceris]

Yeah, you read the title right. I am very new to dating, partly because I am normally not the most social of people. But last week, I set up a date for this Friday. We're not official, this is probably still the exploratory phase. I'm just wondering if I should call/email her tonight or tomorrow. I don't want to come off as either blowing her off or being obsessive. I don't really have much new to talk about, though I could probably come up with something. But that's one less thing to talk about during the date.

1) Chill (if you're nervous), because 1 date (unless you royally mess up) is not going to make or break your chances with this woman.

2) It would be stupid of me to say "Oh you should talk for x amount of time or send x amount of emails." Some of the ladies here have suggested that you send an email. Me, I say that I'd much rather talk to someone that get an email from them. If you're comfortable with it, just call her up and ask her how she's doing (how her day was, was work ok, etc) and mention that you're looking forward to seeing her on Friday. If it's just one call (and not 20 before Friday), I think you'll be just fine in not comming across as the over bearing jerk or the OCD psycho stalker.

 

[ByLoveAndGrace]

Personally I think you should call her. Hehe. Girls love it when guys call them. Plus, it doesn't have to be a long phone call, just long enough to let her know you care about her, and that your excited about the date. She'll love it Good luck!!