How much is "A few extra pounds"?

[Stanfi]

Ok, here is the question. You meet soemone on the net, and they describe their body type as "A few extra pounds". What do you expect? A little extra padding? or belly to the knees?

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

Well, I always put "a few extra pounds" or if the option is there "thick". I weigh around 180, which is more than I want to. But I don't have "cankles" or a belly to my knees. I'm thick, sadly thicker than what most guys care to date these days. Seriously, men secretly want a curvacious woman, but are ashamed to be seen in public with one because their friends will ridicule them for it. Hahaha my driver's license still says I weigh 125 lbs.

 

[PurpleBunny]

Ok, here is the question. You meet soemone on the net, and they describe their body type as "A few extra pounds". What do you expect? A little extra padding? or belly to the knees?

To be honest, that could mean just about anything. It depends on how the person views themself. If they weigh 125 lbs but think they should weigh 120 lbs and are a bit insecure they'll say they weigh a few extra pounds. On the flip side, someone who weighs 300 lbs but doesn't want to scare someone off might say the same thing... so it really depends.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

Oh, MrStace . . . depending on the person it could probably mean 5 to 50 pounds or more. Who knows? Question is, what's a "little extra weight" to you?

A little extra padding . . . a little extra "junk in the trunk" is what I consider a "little extra weight." But ask any man, that definition is just as varied for them as it is for the women.

 

[brettnolan]

Ok, here is the question. You meet soemone on the net, and they describe their body type as "A few extra pounds". What do you expect? A little extra padding? or belly to the knees?

The "few extra pounds" girl that I met long ago exceeded my wingspan, if you catch my drift.

 

[fluffy_rainbow]

But ask any man, that definition is just as varied for them as it is for the women.

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Exactly! I know some guys who won't even consider dating a girl bigger than a size 6. Some guys prefer thick women, but are afraid of what their friends will think. And other guys really dig the thick chicks. But in all honesty, nobody wants to be with someone who is morbidly obese. By morbidly obese I mean the people who can barely push a shopping cart through the grocery store because they're so heavy, or have to do a Dr. Phil interview via satellite because they can't get out of their bed. Now I was dating a guy who was around, I'd say 300 lbs. and I was almost repulsed by his weight. He was short so he looked kinda like a Weeble and he wore his pants high on his waist and tucked his shirts way in. It was unflattering. Plus he carried most of his weight in his face so he had no neck, just a double double chin. It was gross. Jon, the guy I mentioned in my Introduction thread, weighed 310lbs, but he was 6'4" and alot of that was muscle from his NAVY days. He dressed nice and carried his weight well. Yeah, he was a big guy but being so tall the weight was distributed accordingly and next to him I looked smaller. With this other guy we looked like "the fat couple". Ah well.

 

[Stanfi]

The "few extra pounds" girl that I met long ago exceeded my wingspan, if you catch my drift.

That is what I am saying!!! Could be why I started this thread!

 

[Stanfi]

Oh, MrStace . . . depending on the person it could probably mean 5 to 50 pounds or more. Who knows? Question is, what's a "little extra weight" to you?

A little extra padding . . . a little extra "junk in the trunk" is what I consider a "little extra weight." But ask any man, that definition is just as varied for them as it is for the women.

A little extra weight to me is some extra padding. Not a gut to the knees!

I think the definition of "A little extra weight" needs to be standarized!

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

I think the definition of "A little extra weight" needs to be standarized!

Yeah, um, good luck with that one.

 

[Tuffguy]

On the internet????? LOL

It means shes the size of Shamoo and only whalers will be able to get her out of the water!!!!

Curvy = fat
Medium build = fat
don't work out = fat

Pretty much anything other then super skinny means fat. LOL This is the internet.

 

[Tink]

Why can't they just put options "5-10 pounds over" "10-20 pounds over" "20-50 pounds over" "50-80 pounds over" "80 pounds or more over"? Of course, people would think I was huge if I had to choose one of those, but in life I carry my weight well. (According to others.)

:shrug:
Life could be so much worse.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[Xen_Antares]

Ive been burned twice on this. I met two girls from the net, one said she was a few extra pounds and the other said she was average, Im not sure what she considers average but she was hardly average. To me that was an instant turn off, not because they were big but because they lied to me first thing and I dont like being lied to. I didnt tell them I was a buff muscular athletic individual, so I didnt appreciate the lie

 

[Spicy McHaggis]

Yeah, thing about the internet is you get the information other people GIVE you, they control the flow of information, they control the spin.

 

[chickenfeet]

hmm.. even in real life, girls are gonna lie about their weight. just as a guy will lie about the size of his thingamabob.

Curvy = fat
Medium build = fat
don't work out = fat

jennifer lopez is curvy.. is she fat? i think not.

curvy is a pear shaped body type. you can be 106 lbs and be curvy. it don't mean ur fat. it means God blessed ya with a figure.

medium built.. that isn't neceesarily fat either. it could just mean the girl is athletic, or big boned. you can be big boned and thin.

the don't work out comment, made me laugh. i know girls who are barely 100lbs and havent worked out a day in their life, and maintain a slim figure.

but um hmm.. ppl call me superficial.. some of the guy's on this thread appear more superficial then i am. ask yourself why you put so much emphasis on weight? or looks. i thought xtians were all about whats in the heart, first and foremost.

if a girl has a few extra pounds, does that really make her any less of a person? or not worth your time? if its such a big deal, offer to work out with her. weight can be lost.

 

[Tuffguy]

hmm.. even in real life, girls are gonna lie about their weight. just as a guy will lie about the size of his thingamabob.



jennifer lopez is curvy.. is she fat? i think not.

curvy is a pear shaped body type. you can be 106 lbs and be curvy. it don't mean ur fat. it means God blessed ya with a figure.

medium built.. that isn't neceesarily fat either. it could just mean the girl is athletic, or big boned. you can be big boned and thin.

the don't work out comment, made me laugh. i know girls who are barely 100lbs and havent worked out a day in their life, and maintain a slim figure.

but um hmm.. ppl call me superficial.. some of the guy's on this thread appear more superficial then i am. ask yourself why you put so much emphasis on weight? or looks. i thought xtians were all about whats in the heart, first and foremost.

if a girl has a few extra pounds, does that really make her any less of a person? or not worth your time? if its such a big deal, offer to work out with her. weight can be lost.

...which is why this thread is about "a few extra lbs on the INTERNET"!!!

blah ,,blah blah,,fat people, thin people,,thats not the discusion.

The point i was making is that women/men underestimate their weight gain on the internet cause they can.

 

[BeautyForAshes]

But if there is no definitive definition of what "a few extra pounds mean", how can you ascertain that someone is lying over the 'net?

A few extra pounds can mean "just right/average" to person A, "fat" to person B, "chubby" to person C, etc. I think we all agee that its meaning is in "the eye of the beholder".

To cut out the confusion, how about just asking for a pic when meeting someone over the 'net? That way, for those that are interested in a certain weight/build (or not meeting someone with a certain weight/build), you will know what you're getting.

Problem solved.....

 

[Xen_Antares]

But if there is no definitive definition of what "a few extra pounds mean", how can you ascertain that someone is lying over the 'net?

A few extra pounds can mean "just right/average" to person A, "fat" to person B, "chubby" to person C, etc. I think we all agee that its meaning is in "the eye of the beholder".

To cut out the confusion, how about just asking for a pic when meeting someone over the 'net? That way, for those that are interested in a certain weight/build (or not meeting someone with a certain weight/build), you will know what you're getting.

Problem solved.....

The problem with that is your again hoping they will be honest with you. I can send you a picture of some stud and claim its me, I can even edit to put my head on it, Im good enough at photoshop I could even pass it off as real.

Going back to the girls I was burned on, one posted a picture of her from about 7 years before, that was before the extra weight, she probably put on almost well over 150 lbs and was close to 300 lbs, I dont know how many beholders would see her with her eyes and think shes a few extra pounds. It was also annoying that because of her weight she ran out of breath way too easily, she ran out of breath going from the Car to the ticket line at the theater, then again from the Concession Stand to the actual theater, we had to stop so she could catch her breath. No she didnt have asthma, it wasnt a disease that made her fat, it was her eating habbits. She was bragging that she put down nearly a whole chocolate cake by her self and the scarfed down a pizza. There was also that thing of her telling me she had contracted a stomach virus and was at the hospital earlier that day because she was sick. I didnt appreciate that one either, dont come around me if you have a virus, I dont want it.

The other girl was of less weight, but still I doubt very many would look at her and behold she was average. Very few if any will behold me and say I am buff or atheletic. Im slender and because that option is there I choose it, I dont like lying and I really dont appreciate being lied to. Honesty people, honesty.

 

[MrsGnomeCrusher]

From what I've read/seen, men seem to be more up front about their size than women. For whatever reason, I do think that women try to hide it more. I think they think that once they start talking that it wouldn't matter. Or perhaps, in their eyes, they are just a "few extra pounds???" If you walk out in public, you see many women of various sizes dressing like they're a size two. They think they look okay and perhaps when they write "a few extra pounds," in their eyes it is???

As I told MrStace, men if you are looking over the internet, and a gal posts a picture that was done at one of the "Glamour Shots" kinds pics where they're all done up and hair is all nice, skin is flawless, they have a silly pose and a rose in their hand, you need to stay away from them. That's not what they look like everyday. Pick the gals that place a real-life picture on their profile.

 

[Tink]

For the public's information, I'm fat. Thanks for listening!

This way we have it settled before I even talk to you guys. No matter what.

In Christ,
Tink

 

[KeilCoppes]

I think the definition of "A little extra weight" needs to be standarized!

mrstace, I think that will happen several years after they standardize women's clothing sizes (and about five minutes before hell freezes over). The clothing sizes make it so that women have to come in and check things out rather than simply buying off the rack, giving stores more chance to persuade them. I believe that the leeway "a little extra weight" as a phrase has the same effect (and for guys as well). In principle I can't imagine any woman ever wanting to be simply 'bought off the rack'!


You have inspired me to update my avatar, though - I don't look at all like the squirrel from my back yard (lots more reflectivity going on). May take a while to update. :^)