blessedbe said:
I'm just having a hard time getting my brain around the whole eternal torturous hell thing. I understand that we all deserve punishment, and believe me, I am eternally(no pun intended) grateful that God has chosen me, but I just don't see the point in eternal punishment.
Well, to be honest, I don't know how long the punishment will last for those who are condemned. I've never studied it enough to form any opinion other than, "I don't want to be there."

Sorry, I'm of little help on the eternal punishment thing.
I think alot of peace in my own life is due to this knowledge. Personally, I think I have always believed in pre-destination, but I was always taught free-will and never really questioned it until I really started to mature in my faith.
It was the same for me, though I must say that the idea of human autonomy never sat well with me and I always questioned it.
At that point I realized that we only have an allusion of free-will, and our free-will is really very limited. I do believe we have it to a certain extent.
Calvinists have always professed the accuracy of man's free agency. Reformed teaching doesn't teach that men are automatons who don't make decisions. We do. We are rational creatures who make decisions. However, these decisions never happen apart of the divine providential control of God.
Maybe this is what is hard to understand. Not to try to make myself out to be soo good and all, but I have never been a rebellious type, I've never done anything "bad", I've never even really doubted my christian upbringing. I'm a positive person who wants only to see the good in people, i've been taken advantage because of this tendency(I think the term is niave and gullible right?) and I'm generally happy and content all the time. Maybe this is why I have a hard time understanding "man's fallen state" as you put it. Maybe if I had been this hard core atheist, drug addict, mean person who found the Lord, I would understand a bit more about it! LOL Does that make ANY sense at all???????
LOL! Sure, it makes perfect sense. The only way that we will fully be able to acknowledge our fallen state is if we view our life in light of the
perfect obedience of Christ. Christ kept the Law perfectly. Anything less than what Christ did is imperfect. In biblical terms, imperfect obedience denotes the presence of sin. God is a holy God and sin is nothing less than cosmic treason. We, as created beings, have a propensity to catagorize sin. We say stealing is not as bad as murder. We say lying to a friend is not as bad as physically assaulting a friend. To God, sin is sin. So, if you want to get a better understanding of your own fallenness, compare your obedience to the obedience of Christ. Anything short of perfect obedience has merited the wrath of a holy God.
I'm not denying God's justness in punishment, nor His right to do as He pleases, I just personally cannot reconscile an "everlasting" hell with pre-destination. I think that is why so many people are so taken with "free-will", then they feel justified in the belief in hell-fire and brimstone. After all, if you have free-will, YOU put yourself in hell, and not God. But if you come to realize that God chooses who comes to Him and who doesn't, you tend to get real squeemish about the idea of God throwing people into hell. It's quite the quandry......
Well, it is a difficult thing to submit to but the reason it is difficult is because humans are inherently prideful. If we end up in hell we want to say that we go there because we chose to go there. The flip side of that is, of course, that if we end up in Heaven we end up there because we chose to go there which diminishes the great sacrifice of Christ on our behalf and the regenerative work of the Holy Spirit and, in turn, elevates our own self.
God bless