How many times

[Mrs. Luther073082]

A lot We would probably make people sick. We say it randomly throughout the conversations and also before saying bye or goodnight. When we say it randomly it is usually because of being reminded of something we love about each other... for example he says it randomly when I make him laugh.

When I was little, I started saying "I love you" a lot after the death of someone in my family. After a while my whole family was in the habit of saying it frequently... usually anytime anyone leaves or gets off the phone sometimes just randomly. So it is sort of a habit for me that was already in place. And for my fiance, in his last relationship the person didn't say "I love you" the day before she left him, and so in our relationship we always make sure to say it on a daily basis. There's been maybe 1-2 rare occasions where we've forgotten to say it and when that happens we always call each other back just to say it.

 

[ido]

We say it frequently and text it to each other a couple of times throughout the day, as well. Ahhh new love. We're both big on saying I love you, though, so I don't think that will change for us even after we've been together a long time.

 

[Bootstrap]

We must have said it 12 times while saying goodbye yesterday ....

 

[Bootstrap]

Ahhh new love. We're both big on saying I love you, though, so I don't think that will change for us even after we've been together a long time.

I think my fiancee and I have been dating for over 3 1/2 years now, we're still over the top with how often we say "I love you", and I'm fine with that. Actually, we're kind of over the top in love with each other too, and that's also fine ....

 

[Starcradle]

A lot We would probably make people sick. We say it randomly throughout the conversations and also before saying bye or goodnight.

Likewise.

Quite honestly, the occasions are innumerable between us.

I will add that saying "I love you" as frequently as we do does not in any way diminish its potency, especially when our love is also manifested through deeds. I humbly disagree that stating it less often somehow enhances its meaning when it is finally expressed. However, I understand that we are all different.

Me and my beloved are hot-blooded, passionate Latinos. Not only is it part of our emotional makeup to be outwardly expressive with our affections, yet it is also an element of our culture.

 

[ido]

I think my fiancee and I have been dating for over 3 1/2 years now, we're still over the top with how often we say "I love you", and I'm fine with that. Actually, we're kind of over the top in love with each other too, and that's also fine ....

 

[latteda]

When we don't see each other (usually because he's gone on a work trip), it's once or maybe twice a day. When we see each other, it's probably more like five or so. When we're having fun spending time together, it just happens spontaneously fairly often. It is always meaningful and never gets old.

One of my favorites is the time we said, "I love you Everlasting Gobstoppers!" Don't even ask me why we got into a conversation expressing our love in terms of candy, because I don't remember...but it was awesome!

There's been maybe 1-2 rare occasions where we've forgotten to say it and when that happens we always call each other back just to say it.

We have done that, too.

 

[ian90]

"Many have claimed love, but few have delivered."

My girlfriend and I define love in such a way that it would be inappropriate to to say it yet. For us, love is a series of decisions and not a measurement of a feeling. Love is knowing you are loved when you know you are unlovable, like when God loved us when we were his enemies. It's not something I want to take away from her, but I can't guarantee I won't just yet. Love has inherent security which we don't have because we are just going out.

True love is supposed to flow unconditionally. We take our definition of man-woman love from the love God has shown us (using Jesus' love of the church and Jesus love of the Father), so it is inseparable from commitment and sacrifice and marriage.

We love each other as friends and we certainly try and be loving to each other like we try to be to everyone. But because we have discussed the ideals of love I don't think we'll say "I'm in love with you" unless we get engaged because of what we'd like it to mean.

I find it useful because it means we still have somewhere to go. I look back and I realise I am so far from loving her as I ought to.

We're waiting until we can get beyond the conditional love stage because it is not what either of us truly hope to find from this relationship.

Its also reassuring that I'm avoiding giving her emotional baggage if things don't work out.

 

[JdwB10]

"Many have claimed love, but few have delivered."

My girlfriend and I define love in such a way that it would be inappropriate to to say it yet. For us, love is a series of decisions and not a measurement of a feeling. Love is knowing you are loved when you know you are unlovable, like when God loved us when we were his enemies. It's not something I want to take away from her, but I can't guarantee I won't just yet. Love has inherent security which we don't have because we are just going out.

True love is supposed to flow unconditionally. We take our definition of man-woman love from the love God has shown us (using Jesus' love of the church and Jesus love of the Father), so it is inseparable from commitment and sacrifice and marriage.

We love each other as friends and we certainly try and be loving to each other like we try to be to everyone. But because we have discussed the ideals of love I don't think we'll say "I'm in love with you" unless we get engaged because of what we'd like it to mean.

I find it useful because it means we still have somewhere to go. I look back and I realise I am so far from loving her as I ought to.

We're waiting until we can get beyond the conditional love stage because it is not what either of us truly hope to find from this relationship.

Its also reassuring that I'm avoiding giving her emotional baggage if things don't work out.

This was a rather inspirational post for me, as I have never heard of any other couple doing this. I say props to the two of you for having the strength to do this. However, I would add in that saying "I love you" is not a sin, nor is it wrong. I understand why you're refraining from using them, but I would encourage you to be open to the words as well. It's true that many say it without fully understanding what they mean; I know I did in my first relationship. But don't be afraid of the words. Just because you say them doesn't mean that your relationship will be doomed to fail. I'm not saying you feel this way at all, it's just encouraging words.


My fiancee and I say it all the time. I come from a family that is very affectionate in both words and physical contact. I sometimes get the urge to say I love you, and so I say it. It's almost like a drug to me cause I've been around it so much. Sometimes I get the urge to cuddle or hug, and so I'll cuddle or hug. My fiancee didn't come from a family who said it alot, not were they ever very affectionate. Love was abundant in his family, but in a different way. He didn't say it much when we first started dating and I asked him way. he told me. He asked me why I say it so much. I told him why. He says it more now, and I try not to say it as much.

But if I were to give a number I'd say....probably around fifteen times verbally. Maybe add in about five to ten texts.

 

[joy563]

We're in an LDR so if we wanna spend time together, we have to talk, so we end up saying it many, many times a day. And it makes me smile every time he says it.

 

[Bampot]

I'm in a LDR and we only get to talk once a day, but we say it all the time. Sometimes even text it to each other. When we're together, we still say it just as much. Love doesn't even cover the way I feel about him. It's just the closes word that I can use to let him know how I feel. I know he's the same.

 

[melody.dy]

If you mean it say it as often as you want to. Iv learnt you can never tell someone how much you love them enough... you just never know what will happen, I dont want my boyfriend to have any doubts that I love him so I tell him all the time!

 

[Downshift]

Ive never said it to any girl I've dated.
Honestly, it just wouldnt have been true.
I think those words carry too much weight to just be said over and over and become a novelty or empty words.