How long? How far?

[RJHarmony84]

Ok, I know y'all are probably sick of hearing from me by now, but I have another couple of things to talk over.

(Edit--to those ppl who don't know me, read one or both of these to understand the situation!
http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=18289917#post18289917

http://www.christianforums.com/showthread.php?p=18786652#post18786652 )

First of all, I'm seperated(most ppl who know me know that) and he wants to work things out between us. I do not think this is possible, and so I don't want to try...I've been hurt enough. I pray and pray, and I just keep coming back to "I need to get a divorce, make it final, leave him behind and never look back." and I know, that's not right. maybe I should eventually get a divorce, but I can't go through life not learning from past mistakes...I can't hide from my past, I have to accept it.
SO I guess I'm just confused...it seems like God is telling me to get a divorce from this man(who has proved to me time and again that he won't change), and yet God also says so much about miracles...and so much about hanging on, reconciling differences, etc. And I KNOW that if he was the man I married, I would still be in love with him, still want to live my life with him.
On one hand, to wait and hope is to have faith the God can & will change him--on the other hand, to wait & hope is stubborn naivety and procrastination. lol...

 

[Autumnleaf]

What do you believe about wives and husbands and God? Make whichever choice would allow you to look at yourself in the mirror tomorrow without regret.

 

[Athene]

I read your previous thread, I know why you have left your husband. I wouldn't recommend you try and reconcile.

 

[RJHarmony84]

I read your previous thread, I know why you have left your husband. I wouldn't recommend you try and reconcile.

Most people don't... I'm not talking anytime even close tho, It'll be probably 6 months before I even see him again. And I'd like to think that he could change after being nearly killed in jail...Hah, now he knows what it feels like...
One of his cell-mates tried to hang him his first week in, and if he gets charged with a few years he probably won't last long in a state penitentiary. He's got a huge ego and a bad temper, and he's weak from not eating anything for a month--he's lost over 30 lbs but they can't do a thing about it, his avoiding food is legally protected until he goes insane from lack of it...he said he can't stomach jail food. Right.

*prediction: he will be charged with 2 years, the minimum sentence, he will go to spend 6 months in a state prison, get molested and/or raped and/or beat up and/or stabbed right off by everyone who has the wish and the means, and he'll die of starvation & abuse in a prison hospital in about 4 months. Maybe 2. That is my prediction.

And if it comes true, I'll be kicking myself for the rest of my life for putting him in there...placing him in a situation where he can die so horribly, just the way he wants. So that he can be a martyr to everyone. Then I'll be the bad one again, and he will be the saint who 'just made a few human mistakes'.
I can't stand it...I lept out of the frying pan and into the fire...
I just wish, I wish so badly, that I could make people see him the way I do... He's messed up, hurting, and needs help...but I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HELPING HIM!!
Ok I'll quit ranting now...
G'night...

 

[llghoney]

Most people don't... I'm not talking anytime even close tho, It'll be probably 6 months before I even see him again. And I'd like to think that he could change after being nearly killed in jail...Hah, now he knows what it feels like...
One of his cell-mates tried to hang him his first week in, and if he gets charged with a few years he probably won't last long in a state penitentiary. He's got a huge ego and a bad temper, and he's weak from not eating anything for a month--he's lost over 30 lbs but they can't do a thing about it, his avoiding food is legally protected until he goes insane from lack of it...he said he can't stomach jail food. Right.

*prediction: he will be charged with 2 years, the minimum sentence, he will go to spend 6 months in a state prison, get molested and/or raped and/or beat up and/or stabbed right off by everyone who has the wish and the means, and he'll die of starvation & abuse in a prison hospital in about 4 months. Maybe 2. That is my prediction.

And if it comes true, I'll be kicking myself for the rest of my life for putting him in there...placing him in a situation where he can die so horribly, just the way he wants. So that he can be a martyr to everyone. Then I'll be the bad one again, and he will be the saint who 'just made a few human mistakes'.
I can't stand it...I lept out of the frying pan and into the fire...
I just wish, I wish so badly, that I could make people see him the way I do... He's messed up, hurting, and needs help...but I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HELPING HIM!!
Ok I'll quit ranting now...
G'night...

(but I AM NOT RESPONSIBLE FOR HELPING HIM!!)

Yu are exactly right on this point! He has to want to change. Really to be honest God needs to come into his life. It may take such a harsh reality as jail but maybe some good will come out of this. Let's not hope for the worse & pray for his heart that it will not be so hard. In the mean time you need to be taking of #1 especially if you have kids.

You are in my prayers! And remember one step at a time!