If only we could all get that. One of the reasons that Christians divorce is that they bring baggage (whether emotional or mental) into their marriage. So now, they are not the only one that has to deal with their issues. Their mate does too, and possibly vice versa. Often times it's these very issues that motivates them to rush into a marriage. They aren't looking to marry so that they could be a vessel of grace and love to another believer. They're looking to have needs met, whether sexual or emotional. Thus they are only two reasons marries; either selfish or selfless. And I seriously hope they do marry someone also in Christ. So what we need to do, is pray and focus on the God who heals, and begin to trust that he'll deal with our wounds and emotional scars which are the results of past sinful relationships(there are some exceptions). Insecurity, manipulation and control, financial instability, etc. are all tendencies that would need to be dealt with by God before looking for a mate to marry. God is faithful and He will do it. But on His terms. Are we willing to wait to let Him? That, may be the determinative factor in a healthy successful prosperous marriage, or a failed disastrous one. I think I am going to start a new thread now. Thanks forsakic.