And what has kept you together and gotten you through the hard times in your relationship? Please don't just say God. God gives wisdom and I'm sure He helped you know what to do to work things out.
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How long have you been married?
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Chaplain David
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My wife and I have been married for 40 years. More than anything our faith and the Gospel have been the greatest things that have helped us. An abiding faith in our Lord through His Son Jesus Christ that we share supports us.
Three other things are a willingness to see the other's side, a willingness to sacrifice for the other and our greater good, and a willingness to do the hard work that is sometimes necessary to maintain and build our marriage.
God bless everyone.
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SearchingStudent
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We've been married almost 15 years. We've run the gamut of our vows, better, worse, richer, poorer, sickness and health.
My husband developed a chronic illness that was cured, sort-of by an extreme surgery, however, in curing that illness, he is now diabetic.
What's kept us going through the hard times is remembering the "until death do us part" part of our vows. Divorce was never an option, ever.
My husband developed a chronic illness that was cured, sort-of by an extreme surgery, however, in curing that illness, he is now diabetic.
What's kept us going through the hard times is remembering the "until death do us part" part of our vows. Divorce was never an option, ever.
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Been married 7 years.
We got to know each other well before we got married. We talked about pretty much everything, and we knew that we had the same/similar hopes and dreams about the future. We also talked lots about how we view marriage, and how seriously we take it. We agreed that once married that was IT. There is no turning back, there is no option of quitting if things get tough.
But most importantly, we were both Christians and shared the same faith--the very foundation on which we stand.
We got to know each other well before we got married. We talked about pretty much everything, and we knew that we had the same/similar hopes and dreams about the future. We also talked lots about how we view marriage, and how seriously we take it. We agreed that once married that was IT. There is no turning back, there is no option of quitting if things get tough.
But most importantly, we were both Christians and shared the same faith--the very foundation on which we stand.
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CounselorForChrist
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2 months now. 
I know it hasn't been a long time but since she lives 8,100 miles away we have had alot of trials so far. God obviously plays a role but so does patient, strength, communication. These type of relationships are for the very strong. I am just blessed to have a wife that is strong too. Our vows we often bring up to remind us of "forever". It was one thing we agreed to was that the word divorce is the same as taking Gods name in vein. We never use divorce. Of course her in country its not even a law there.
Its about realizing you are one. Your work to build your marriage and put aside ego and pride. You become good forgivers.
I know it hasn't been a long time but since she lives 8,100 miles away we have had alot of trials so far. God obviously plays a role but so does patient, strength, communication. These type of relationships are for the very strong. I am just blessed to have a wife that is strong too. Our vows we often bring up to remind us of "forever". It was one thing we agreed to was that the word divorce is the same as taking Gods name in vein. We never use divorce. Of course her in country its not even a law there. Its about realizing you are one. Your work to build your marriage and put aside ego and pride. You become good forgivers.
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I forgot. Thirty some'in.
The unregenrate don't obey to become the elects, They obey because they are Elects.
It just happens when one find themselves still married.
The unregenrate don't obey to become the elects, They obey because they are Elects.
It just happens when one find themselves still married.
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Only a little over a year, but we've been through "heck" and back several times already in our relationship. We like to joke that we've squeezed in about a decade's worth of life into the just-under-two-years that we've known each other lol. We both came into the relationship with several major challenges: my husband has some severe health issues, he moved across the country to be with us, so his whole life was uprooted and had to be re-established, I have a son, so we had an instant step-family mechanic that was formed instead of just being two newlyweds on our own, etc. They say it takes about 2 years for a new step-family to adjust, so we're right smack in the middle of it, and lemme tell you, we're definitely feeling it 
I've described some of our struggles on other threads. What's kept us together is 1) having God at the center of our family, our marriage, and our individual lives (you've GOT to have your own, personal relationship with God apart from your spouse and kids, it's essential), and 2) both my husband and I are to-the-death committed to this family. "Giving up" is not in our vocabulary. I guess some other things fall under those two, rather broad categories. Things like, being willing to admit when you're wrong, not being afraid to apologize, not being passive-aggressive, not keeping secrets, learning to nurture your spouse's soul (IOW not doing what YOU think they want and need, but really learning to do what they need, no matter if you agree with it or understand it), building each other up with words, complimenting each other (not just on looks, but on ideas and achievements), praying together, laughing together (so important!), listening to each other (learning to shut up ), picking your battles, and learning to let things go!
I've described some of our struggles on other threads. What's kept us together is 1) having God at the center of our family, our marriage, and our individual lives (you've GOT to have your own, personal relationship with God apart from your spouse and kids, it's essential), and 2) both my husband and I are to-the-death committed to this family. "Giving up" is not in our vocabulary. I guess some other things fall under those two, rather broad categories. Things like, being willing to admit when you're wrong, not being afraid to apologize, not being passive-aggressive, not keeping secrets, learning to nurture your spouse's soul (IOW not doing what YOU think they want and need, but really learning to do what they need, no matter if you agree with it or understand it), building each other up with words, complimenting each other (not just on looks, but on ideas and achievements), praying together, laughing together (so important!), listening to each other (learning to shut up ), picking your battles, and learning to let things go!
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pursuetruth
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My husband and I have been together for 33 years.
What has kept us together is our history together, and our daughter.
What has kept us together too, I think, is that even at our lowest points, we both somehow knew that this marriage was worth preserving. I am so glad that we have stuck out the tough parts so far. I am sure there are many to follow, because that is life. I think I love my husband more now, than ever.
What has kept us together is our history together, and our daughter.
What has kept us together too, I think, is that even at our lowest points, we both somehow knew that this marriage was worth preserving. I am so glad that we have stuck out the tough parts so far. I am sure there are many to follow, because that is life. I think I love my husband more now, than ever.
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We have been married for 40 years (this coming October).
We found that praying together, expressing our thoughts and feelings (no secrets), listening to one another, never going to bed angry, sharing common interests/activities, and keeping a united front re: issues with the kids, kept us close, strong, and happy.
Yes, there are 'days'...but we always worked through them, and love one another more NOW than the day we married.
We have been greatly blessed
We found that praying together, expressing our thoughts and feelings (no secrets), listening to one another, never going to bed angry, sharing common interests/activities, and keeping a united front re: issues with the kids, kept us close, strong, and happy.
Yes, there are 'days'...but we always worked through them, and love one another more NOW than the day we married.
We have been greatly blessed
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Niffer
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5 years this June. Our first milestone.
Looking back I think sometimes that it was only through God's grace that we've been able to work some of our issues out. (moving/job loss/health issues etc)
What keeps us together is the commitment we made to each other, really working on communicating and meeting emotional needs; as well as plenty of grace for each other.
Peace,
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Looking back I think sometimes that it was only through God's grace that we've been able to work some of our issues out. (moving/job loss/health issues etc)
What keeps us together is the commitment we made to each other, really working on communicating and meeting emotional needs; as well as plenty of grace for each other.
Peace,
~ Niffer
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1 yr and 14 dayz.
What kept us together is knowing that God put us together for a reason and a purpose. But there are times when we both get irritated w both of us. Its just that we love each other that we just work it out. u have to work on the relationship every single day.
What kept us together is knowing that God put us together for a reason and a purpose. But there are times when we both get irritated w both of us. Its just that we love each other that we just work it out. u have to work on the relationship every single day.
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My wife and I have been married for 40 years. More than anything our faith and the Gospel have been the greatest things that have helped us. An abiding faith in our Lord through His Son Jesus Christ that we share supports us.
Three other things are a willingness to see the other's side, a willingness to sacrifice for the other and our greater good, and a willingness to do the hard work that is sometimes necessary to maintain and build our marriage.
God bless everyone.
I wanna be like you when I get married
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8 years now. I think the biggest way to stay married is simply to communicate openly. You feel angry? Talk about it. Your spouse makes you mad? Talk about it. Want something more from the relationship? Talk about it. Also realize though that your spouse needs to be able to talk with you about how he/she feels, as well, so open LISTENING is just as important as open TALKING.
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Jimmy P
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This November will be 11 yrs for my wife and I....
Other than God, what keeps us together? Our love for one another...
As for myself, what keeps me with her is, she is my best buddy...she makes me so happy...she is such strength for me...she gives me courage when I need it...she's beautiful, she is an awesome cook and she's the ONLY person that can handle me...I can sure be a nutcase at times and she can deal with it...I have a hard time dealing with me lol...but she can do it...I would be lost without her...
I enjoy her company, her smile, her voice, her....
Other than God, what keeps us together? Our love for one another...
As for myself, what keeps me with her is, she is my best buddy...she makes me so happy...she is such strength for me...she gives me courage when I need it...she's beautiful, she is an awesome cook and she's the ONLY person that can handle me...I can sure be a nutcase at times and she can deal with it...I have a hard time dealing with me lol...but she can do it...I would be lost without her...
I enjoy her company, her smile, her voice, her....
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It also helps that, no matter how frustrated and annoyed I get with him, all I have to do is look into his eyes for about 5 seconds, and my heart goes all mushy and I just want to squish him.
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