How long do you wait to tell?

[Leanna]

No, this is not a subliminal message.

I was wondering how long most people waited to tell family and friends that you are pregnant, considering the risk of early miscarriage.

The first time we only told a few souls at 6 weeks along, and "everyone" didn't know until I was 10-12 weeks (somewhere in there).

I'm going to make a poll.

 

[SavedChild]

We told super close family, and a couple close friends found out, I was around 5 weeks...

But everyone has big mouths, lol, so alot of others found out

 

[~Mrs. A2J~]

With our daughter we told everyone pretty much straight away at 6 weeks. With the new baby we waited until almost 13 weeks as hubby and I were still adjusting to our surprise.

 

[Linnis]

We told everyone the day we found out. Which was at exactly six weeks because I couldn't keep it in. Some people made comments about it being "bad luck" etc to not wait until 14 weeks.

 

[Athene]

10-12 weeks, though my mum found out when I was around 8 - she just new I was pregnant by the look of me.

 

[~Nikki~]

We told famiy as soon as we found out (at 5 weeks), then waited til about 10 weeks to tell everyone else...just couldn't keep it in for longer than that.

We thought that we were supposed to wait til 12-13 weeks because of the early chance of miscarriage, but then we found out that most people in this country wait out of superstition that you'll somehow jinx it if you tell too early, so that's the other reason we told everyone at 10 weeks, because we didn't want to wait if it was purely from superstition.

 

[HeKnowsMyName]

We told as soon as we knew. Me and my Mom are close and I felt like I was lying to her by not letting her know. LOL And DH doesn't hold water so I wanted to be the one to tell her.

 

[giddybiscuit]

We told our families the day we found out, at which point I was about 4 1/2 weeks pregnant. We announced it to friends the same week. Even though the risk of miscarriage is higher at that time, we wanted the people who care about us to know, so that they could be praying for the health of the pregnancy and, if it had ended tragically, for us and our grief.

Next time we'll probably do it the same way, for the above reasons and because I can't stand not telling something that important. :-D

 

[Savedthroughfaith]

Our parents knew within an hour of my positive home test. Everyone else followed closely behind. With my previous miscarriage, we felt the more prayer we had, the better!

 

[CarrieAg93]

When I was pregnant the first time we were waiting until the 2nd trimester, but when I miscarried we told everyone what happened anyway because I was so upset. So with the following pregnancies we just told as soon as we found out.

 

[JulySheMustFly]

#1 we didn't tell anyone until I was 13 weeks. Lots of reasons why.
#2 we told around I think it was 11 weeks.
#3 we told at what we thought was 10 weeks but apparently I was much further along than that. It was more like 15 weeks.

 

[lin1235]

We told our parents and our best friends as soon as we found out, and then everyone else found out between then and 12 weeks.

 

[tas25]

well all my family and a few friends know so that would be 6 weeks and my co workers, I'll wait and tell them sometime next month....

 

[New Creation]

We found out when I was 4 weeks along and called my family the night we found out from the home pregnancy test.
My dad thought it was a bad idea in case we lost the baby but I told him that I want all the people I love to know and if we did lose the baby, we'd have that much more support. The difference between the "hide it" generation and the "tell it" generation.
We told the entire church congregation the next day and they all went insane with joy! They prayed over us immediately and they have been ever since. I'm so glad we did what we did!

 

[Leanna]

Its cool to hear so many people say they told soon.... I was just wondering because I've heard such mixed reviews. I think part of the thing about not telling everyone until you are farther along is because you don't feel like answering the questions if there is a miscarriage, at least that's how I would feel. People would ask how the baby was, and you'd have to answer. People who are only a friend of a friend might run into you in the grocery store and have not heard yet, all of this would cause you to relive losing your baby. So for that reason I don't know that I will tell everyone real soon, just family and people who wouldn't ask me two months later about the baby who is gone. But it is really hard not to tell because its so exciting too, so I understand.

 

[tas25]

Leanna, are you pregnant?

 

[Leanna]

Nope!

 

[tas25]

aha! that baby bug is biting!!!!watch out!

 

[Leanna]

I hope it bites me then I am patiently waiting, heehee...

 

[shainamsu]

we told our parents as soon as we found out. and the type of work that i did, i did a lot of heavy lifting (i worked in animal rescue) and was around cat feces, etc.... (i know, ew), so i had to tell my boss right away b/c i couldn't work anymore, especially in that sensitive first trimester. and, it just so happens that all of mine and rick's friends worked there, also, so they all found out immediately. it turned out well for us, though!