How long after miscarriage should we wait....

[sgrimsley]

Well, here's the thing... DH and I tried for almost two years and finally got pregnant in march. We miscarried the day before mother's day in May. It was early enough where I didn't need a D & C and my body seems to have cleaned up nicely. Well, doc says we need to use protection until after I've had 3 healthy periods. We don't really believe in contraception, but we complied for the first month and a half, and I've had one healthy period. We both agreed to stop contraception and see what God wants. Is this wise? Is there really much risk? I think God's proven to us that we will get pregnant when He deems it our time. Our pregnancy was directly related to a prayer the week before, so the loss wasn't so difficult because we understood that God answered our question of fertility by showing us that a) yes we can get pregnant, but b) it will be when I want you to. Anyone have experience in this? Any healthy pregnancies shortly after miscarriage? Any subsequent losses because you didn't wait long enough? All the research I've looked at is inconclusive and most just want at least one healthy period so that they can date when conception was. Thoughts??

 

[gracepaints]

I'm sorry for your loss.

The three month wait is totally arbitrary but based on the idea that it takes at least that long for a person to recover emotionally. In my opinion, it is very wise to wait at least one cycle, as you have, because of the complications of dating a new pregnancy and the possiblity of detecting left over hormones from the first pregnancy and thinking it is a new one. There is really no risk to a new pregnancy by getting pregnant sooner though.

After my early miscarriage, we planned on waiting three cycles but got pregnant again on my second. I am 22 weeks today and baby is healthy and kicking me as we speak!

 

[Assisi]

We didn't wait the three months after we miscarried. Talk to your doctor and your OB/GYN about it and ask specifically why not.

About emotional recovery. After the first month or so, my husband and I both felt ready to try again, physically and emotionally. But the emotional pain came back to bite...only you and your husband can decide what to do - but do take into account that you may be feeling better now than you will in a couple of weeks.

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.

 

[becky81101]

dh and i didn't wait anytime at all after my 2nd m/c. ethan (who is now 4) was conceived 3 weeks after i m/c'd. we were advised to wait 3 healthy cycles also, but didn't. i had a very healthy pregnancy with him and had another healthy pregnancy after him. i have not miscarried since then and we're currently ttc #3.

as far as emotionally, i actually handled the 2nd m/c better than the 1st because i got pregnant so quickly. it was difficult, don't get me wrong. but i think that once i got past the 3 month mark with ethan, it was definitely easier to recover.

 

[jenrenee]

I was also told to wait 3 months - but didn't - no luck conceiving though. I was always told it is for emotional recovery. I think you are fine - if you and DH agreed to quit using contraceptives, I think that must mean you are ready to at least let things happen according to God's timing. You waited one cycle - I think that is enough if you are emotionally ready. Good luck!