How important is physical attraction?

I know I've already posted in this thread, but here's a few other thoughts:

There are plenty of women here that I find beautiful. Gottabemore2life and flnativegirl come to mind as women I think are physically beautiful. I admire them for their personalities and value the relationships I have with them as my Sisters in Christ, but couldn't see a relationship forming not based on their appearance, but based on who they are as individuals and their current state in life (i.e., location, age, interests, circumstances, etc.).

There is one person on this forum, though, who has caught my attention more from who she is, though, rather than what she looks like. Don't get me wrong: she is gorgeous. I just hadn't bothered to click on her picture until now. While I might think that the women I've mentioned are beautiful ladies right off the bat, there's one woman here who has recently caught my attention, and I catch myself thinking, "Why didn't I notice her before?!" It was only after she and I started talking that I noticed her picture. I was already attracted to her by who she came across as a person, and her appearance simply adds to her appeal.

And before anyone goes into an absolute frenzy about who she is, I've already sent her a private message.

Looks are somewhat important, but they certainly don't "seal the deal."

BlackFyre said:

I know I've already posted in this thread, but here's a few other thoughts:

There are plenty of women here that I find beautiful. Gottabemore2life and flnativegirl come to mind as women I think are physically beautiful. I admire them for their personalities and value the relationships I have with them as my Sisters in Christ, but couldn't see a relationship forming not based on their appearance, but based on who they are as individuals and their current state in life (i.e., location, age, interests, circumstances, etc.).

There is one person on this forum, though, who has caught my attention more from who she is, though, rather than what she looks like. Don't get me wrong: she is gorgeous. I just hadn't bothered to click on her picture until now. While I might think that the women I've mentioned are beautiful ladies right off the bat, there's one woman here who has recently caught my attention, and I catch myself thinking, "Why didn't I notice her before?!" It was only after she and I started talking that I noticed her picture. I was already attracted to her by who she came across as a person, and her appearance simply adds to her appeal.

And before anyone goes into an absolute frenzy about who she is, I've already sent her a private message.

Looks are somewhat important, but they certainly don't "seal the deal."

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Thanks for the confidence boost. Sorry I couldn't be the one to steal your heart with my radiant personality! But what a lucky girl, whoever she is!

flnativegrl reminds me of my dance partner except a little older.

She has the same shape of face and smile.

Looks/Physical attraction isn't important to me, though within reason. Obviously, hygiene is important. Weight-wise, I don't mind overweight women. Actually, I think them having a little fat on them is healthy and natural looking. However, there's a difference between overweight and morbidly obese, and I cross the line at morbidly obese.

Of course, what is considered morbidly obese will differ from person to person. I don't go by BMI as that's horribly outdated and inaccurate. :v

BlackFyre said:

I know I've already posted in this thread, but here's a few other thoughts:

There are plenty of women here that I find beautiful. Gottabemore2life and flnativegirl come to mind as women I think are physically beautiful. I admire them for their personalities and value the relationships I have with them as my Sisters in Christ, but couldn't see a relationship forming not based on their appearance, but based on who they are as individuals and their current state in life (i.e., location, age, interests, circumstances, etc.).

There is one person on this forum, though, who has caught my attention more from who she is, though, rather than what she looks like. Don't get me wrong: she is gorgeous. I just hadn't bothered to click on her picture until now. While I might think that the women I've mentioned are beautiful ladies right off the bat, there's one woman here who has recently caught my attention, and I catch myself thinking, "Why didn't I notice her before?!" It was only after she and I started talking that I noticed her picture. I was already attracted to her by who she came across as a person, and her appearance simply adds to her appeal.

And before anyone goes into an absolute frenzy about who she is, I've already sent her a private message.

Looks are somewhat important, but they certainly don't "seal the deal."

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hey, if i dont get to be one of the beautiful girls on the forum thats fine. But you gotta gimme gimme gimme credit for helping you get worked up in a frenzy about this girl!

i dont know if i have "a type" anymore.

I have "un-types" But anything outside of that has the potential to work.

radhead said:

Hold the phone. ["time out" signal]

I don't think think the majority of people understood what I was asking. (Sorry, I'll take the blame for not being more clear.)

But, like someone mentioned earlier, he prefers shorter women. Or, someone else mentioned that their preference in the looks department have changed.

My question is, do you find that these women [whom you feel are your type] tend to have good personalities as well? Or do you tend to get along better with women who are not exactly your physical type?

My OP was based on the fact that I often get along better with women who are NOT my preferred physical type. (They might be the type for a lot of guys though).

Is that more clear?

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thank you for the clarrification and i apologize if i started my responses too much with being confused about the topic.

actually i find myself getting along with people like my physical preference and then i get along well with people who are not my physical preference.

I Love these posts they always make me feel all warm and fuzzy on a lonely rainy saturday..........

Anywho here is what I have found to be a general rule note i said general!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

People who value physical attractiveness and say it is a deal breaker etc are physically attractive themselves they are fit and beautiful on the outside and they desire the same thing in a partner I mean honestly no girl wants people looking at her with the fat guy going why is such a beautiful girl with him its true sorry...

On the other hand those that say physical attractiveness is not important or is not deal breaker or there are many things that compose attravctiveness are generally physically unatractive ( by society standards) themselves and knowing they themselves cannot attract a hottie choose to focus more on other qualities and characteristics that they find attractive.

Unfortunetly for me what I find attractive physically is not compatible with what the opposite sex finds attractive. Thus is my problem I will see a girl with a great personality etc that is physically beautifully yet I know she will not find me physically attractive......

So now I'am thinking maybe I should try and redefine what I find physically attractive cause I know that the girls I usually find cute wont find me the same. THe problem is it is just so impossible to change my view

radhead said:

Hold the phone. ["time out" signal]

I don't think think the majority of people understood what I was asking. (Sorry, I'll take the blame for not being more clear.)

But, like someone mentioned earlier, he prefers shorter women. Or, someone else mentioned that their preference in the looks department have changed.

My question is, do you find that these women [whom you feel are your type] tend to have good personalities as well? Or do you tend to get along better with women who are not exactly your physical type?

My OP was based on the fact that I often get along better with women who are NOT my preferred physical type. (They might be the type for a lot of guys though).

Is that more clear?

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I usually get along with guys who I am not attracted to in the least.

radhead said:

Hold the phone. ["time out" signal]

I don't think think the majority of people understood what I was asking. (Sorry, I'll take the blame for not being more clear.)

But, like someone mentioned earlier, he prefers shorter women. Or, someone else mentioned that their preference in the looks department have changed.

My question is, do you find that these women [whom you feel are your type] tend to have good personalities as well? Or do you tend to get along better with women who are not exactly your physical type?

My OP was based on the fact that I often get along better with women who are NOT my preferred physical type. (They might be the type for a lot of guys though).

Is that more clear?

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I am still confused, to say the least.

So why do you talk to these people if you are not physically attracted to them? Were you merely stating that there are other ways to be attracted to people? Are we talking about dating these girls that aren't necessarily your physical type, but they have the personality characteristics you like? And are you saying that there is not a girl that can have both the physical and personality attributes you are looking for?

Or is this simply a post stating that your girls that just so happen to be your friends are your friends not because of physical attributes, but because of their personalities alone?

I just confused myself more.... *head hurting... need ice pack*

First of all, any christian should know that physical attraction should not be first on the list because we all know that the person who on the outside may have a dirty heart on the inside.

Especially those "hotties" people are seeking, because guess what? people should realize that the beauty that people are seeking on the outside will fade as we get older. And that is the truth.