How Important Is Docterine When Finding a Mate?

[hockeysistah12]

How important is doctrine when finding a mate? For instance, if someone attends a bible teaching church and someone is involved in the faith movement, would there be problems? Or would there be a comporize?

 

[trentlogain2]

Can you please clarify the difference between a "Bible teaching church" and "faith movement"?

 

[hockeysistah12]

A bible teaching church is a church which teaches the bible book by book. The faith movement is a docterine which teaches wealth and health. It is also defined by "Name it and Claim It."

 

[trentlogain2]

So in other words it's heresy. To answer your original question, I guess it would all depend on whether or not you're willing to compromise what you believe.

 

[GQ Chris]

I think its very important, and can't be taken lightly. Not only doctrine, but also if she sees Christianity in the same light as how the Taliban treats women, that's a huge problem.

 

[Im_A]

How important is doctrine when finding a mate? For instance, if someone attends a bible teaching church and someone is involved in the faith movement, would there be problems? Or would there be a comporize?

I really don't know. I'd have to wait to deal with a situation to know how I would act. The only church I have any interest into is the Eastern Orthodox Church and when I go to church that's where I go to. So I'd have to be in the situation to know if I would compromise for her or not. I'd say at this point there is 50/50 shot that I would and that I wouldn't since I simply do not know what the answer is.

 

[crishmael]

I think having shared views on doctrine is important, but I think there are certainly grey areas that there is room for some latitude. I wouldn't get hung up on things like that.

 

[scraparcs]

I'm the type of crazy person who would look for common ground with people of all religions, but that's just me being the "religious mediator" type of personality that I am.

 

[Im_A]

I'm the type of crazy person who would look for common ground with people of all religions, but that's just me being the "religious mediator" type of personality that I am.

That's the way I'd ideally want to be. Just don't know what the future will be like and the last thing I want is theological debates about what to believe in from a woman or anyone but most assuredly, not from someone I'd be starting a romantic relationship with...plus I don't even know what I am so I just have to think, we'll see what happens when I meet someone that is interested in me.

 

[Tink]

A bible teaching church is a church which teaches the bible book by book. The faith movement is a docterine which teaches wealth and health. It is also defined by "Name it and Claim It."

So in other words it's heresy. To answer your original question, I guess it would all depend on whether or not you're willing to compromise what you believe.

Faith movements are misrepresented through these two comments. Please don't lump my denomination in with "heresy."

If you'd like to debate whether it is heresy or not, there are forums for that.

I find your comments very ignorant on the subject (not you, yourselves - just the comments), and would encourage both of you to do some research on matter before posting such things.

We don't believe in "name it and claim it," we believe that the Bible is the Word of God and that there is power in His Word.

Just to clarify.

Oh, and to answer the OP, as long as the person believes the Bible is the infallible Word of God, believes in the Trinity, and that Jesus is the only Way - I'm good. All the other stuff is small potatoes.

 

[Mikeb85]

For me it's important. Not so much the doctrines themselves, but the way the faith is practiced in day to day life, and the way it affects marriage. I would only want to date an Orthodox Christian, although dating a Catholic/Lutheran/traditional Anglican could also be possible.

 

[EazyMack]

It's pretty darn important.

 

[WileyCoyote]

How important is doctrine when finding a mate? For instance, if someone attends a bible teaching church and someone is involved in the faith movement, would there be problems? Or would there be a comporize?

This is a logical fallacy known as a "loaded question". It contains an incriminating assumption that forces the answerer to agree with the assumption before they even get a chance to challenge it. This question is fallacious because many people (such as myself) believe that the faith movement teaches from the Bible. Your question tricks people into saying that the "faith movement" doesn't teach from the Bible.

This would be similar to me asking "How important is gender when selecting a potential employee? For instance, if you get a job candidate who is a hard worker, dedicated and punctual and you get a woman, which would you rather select?"

This would be fallacious because it assumes that women are not hard workers, dedicated or punctual right in the question.

Clearly you can see this error in reasoning, right?

 

[Blank123]

doctrine is extremely important in my own life, its not something i take lightly so yes it would be important when choosing the man i'm going to spend the rest of my life with.

 

[kevlite2020]

I think there are some things worth being picky about, and some things that really don't matter. For instance, I went on a few dates a while back with an extreme Catholic girl, followed catholicism to the letter. I don't believe that the eucharist is necessarily Jesus' real body for us to eat of. But it's not a dealbreaker that she did because lets face it, why fight over something that small. There's nothing in the Bible that suggests if we don't eat of His body weekly, we won't have salvation. In other words, it's not necessarily an issue of faith, it's more an issue of preference.

If someone said that they think we could get to heaven on our own works and Jesus is just a crutch, or something like that, that would be worth me walking away from. See, there are billions of small differences that Christians bicker about that don't really matter, I will only stand for and fight for the foundational and most important claims of Christianity, the rest I will leave to preference and won't shut people out who have preferences different to mine.

This reminds of the time I went to a college bible study with a pentecostal group. I didn't know what that was until they started speaking in tongues. It freaked me out at first, but they led me through the Bible, showing why they believe that we should speak in tongues. I had no desire to learn that myself, but ignoring that issue, I learned a lot of other things from them and made some good friendships from that group, because something like speaking in tongues is really debatable and not all that important Biblically. It won't affect my salvation one way or another, so why fight about it or shut people out because of it?

 

[Llauralin]

Disagreements tend to make marriages much more difficult than they need to be; and even in agreement marriage is hard! I'm not so certain about doctrines... I suppose there could be latitude of a sort. But I don't think I could marry someone who didn't share a similar praxis. How could we help each other, then?

 

[Llauralin]

I think there are some things worth being picky about, and some things that really don't matter. For instance, I went on a few dates a while back with an extreme Catholic girl, followed catholicism to the letter. I don't believe that the eucharist is necessarily Jesus' real body for us to eat of. But it's not a dealbreaker that she did because lets face it, why fight over something that small. There's nothing in the Bible that suggests if we don't eat of His body weekly, we won't have salvation. In other words, it's not necessarily an issue of faith, it's more an issue of preference.

If someone said that they think we could get to heaven on our own works and Jesus is just a crutch, or something like that, that would be worth me walking away from. See, there are billions of small differences that Christians bicker about that don't really matter, I will only stand for and fight for the foundational and most important claims of Christianity, the rest I will leave to preference and won't shut people out who have preferences different to mine.

Huh. That was an interesting example to use for things that aren't all that important. If I were that girl, I would be alarmed at that statement, because it would suggest that you didn't take my belief in the real presence seriously, whether you believed in it or not. It would be somewhat more reassuring, actually, if you DID think that it was a big deal, but differing beliefs could be lived with. Transubstantiation really isn't a matter of preference.
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[JCFantasy23]

I think having shared views on doctrine is important, but I think there are certainly grey areas that there is room for some latitude. I wouldn't get hung up on things like that.

Pretty much. I could have chosen one of many posts to quote and replied, "I agree with what he/she said." It's important to align your beliefs with your future husband or wife when it's the things that really matter. If you know from the get-go there will be major disagreements on something you find so incredibly important, that's something to work on for sure being taking the final plunge. If, though, there are only minor differences that won't compromise either partner's faith, I don't see it as a big concern. No partner will ever match 100% with another with beliefs on this stuff.

 

[kevlite2020]

Huh. That was an interesting example to use for things that aren't all that important. If I were that girl, I would be alarmed at that statement, because it would suggest that you didn't take my belief in the real presence seriously, whether you believed in it or not. It would be somewhat more reassuring, actually, if you DID think that it was a big deal, but differing beliefs could be lived with. Transubstantiation really isn't a matter of preference.
[/derail]

She wasn't alarmed at all. Like I said, I've never read anything that suggests eating the body of Christ to be necessary for salvation. So it's not a question of if you're saved or not, it's a matter of how you grow in Christ and how you worship Him. I'd be okay with dating someone who thinks there are different methods of growing in Christ and worshipping then what I do (although I'm sure there will be plenty of common ground as well), but if someone is worshipping a different God or not accepting the gift of grace, that's the kind of person I don't want to date. In other words, I am flexible with how I live and how I worship, I'm not flexible with feeling like my significant other's eternity is not safe. See, issues that may effect my day to day worship life I can find comprimise, but I can't comprimise eternity with someone I love.

 

[Llauralin]

She wasn't alarmed at all. Like I said, I've never read anything that suggests eating the body of Christ to be necessary for salvation. So it's not a question of if you're saved or not, it's a matter of how you grow in Christ and how you worship Him. I'd be okay with dating someone who thinks there are different methods of growing in Christ and worshipping then what I do (although I'm sure there will be plenty of common ground as well), but if someone is worshipping a different God or not accepting the gift of grace, that's the kind of person I don't want to date. In other words, I am flexible with how I live and how I worship, I'm not flexible with feeling like my significant other's eternity is not safe. See, issues that may effect my day to day worship life I can find comprimise, but I can't comprimise eternity with someone I love.

I suppose the thing that threw we off was saying that it "really doesn't matter." in your other post. I can understand saying that a person can be saved either way. But it does matter, as an issue of unity. If I believe that sacraments, especially Communion, are one of the major ways that God unites the Church, and someone isn't united in that way, it's a fairly significant thing. But I could see why from your perspective it wouldn't be.